Twins wrestling for my attention

Hey mom's! & dads!

Recently my girls have been getting frustrated when I pick up the "other" twin... If I pick up Chloe to stop her crying, Tess kicks off; if I pick up Tess to stop her crying, Chloe kicks off. What can I do to satisfy both babies without "spoiling" them and letting them manipulate me!!!!! I don't want to fall into the trap where I go pick them up as soon as they make a sound! They are almost 8 months old now

 

I think it's a pretty normal phase, especially around that age as they start to realize that there's a big wide world around them and they can get your attention. My best strategy was to try and redirect their attention to a toy or music or something. But I still had my little zombies making a crawl for me whenever I was within striking distance.

It's pretty frustrating, but just talk them through it; Mommy only has two arms and I have to change Chloe's diaper, and then I will pick Tess up. A running narrative makes them feel like they're getting attention and hopefully at some point they get that you're making time for both of them.

And always repeat the 1st year mantra "this too shall pass".

 

Hmm, I wish I had some good advise for you, the same thing has been happening to me also for few months now, my babies are 9 months old. Usually I feel guilty when I pick the one over the other, and at times I try to talk to the other, or I would only hold one for a minute, then put him/her down and pick the other one. Most times I end up holding both of them in the same time. I am working full time so when I am coming home from work they both want me to pick them up in the same time and at times it's so difficult for me to pick one that I get upset and sit on the floor with them without picking one over the other. I really don't know how people that have older children plus the twins are making it from this point of view, but I really respect them for having the strength.

 

When they both want me I sit down on our big chair and hold both. I make it a point to say I have 2 babies and squeeze as I count. They don't seem to mind when I do it that way. ardon:

 

It is totally normal at that age for them to want you all the time, don't worry they can't manipulate you just yet, in a couple of years it will come. They just love you to pieces and get jealous if they see their Mommy holding someone else!! I used to just carry and hold the 2 of them together a lot and just sit on the floor or the sofa with the two of them and snuggle them both:wub: . And really, don't worry, you can't spoil a baby by holding them, i did it with all 4 of mine, all the time I am very much of a smoochie mom and they are all perfectly fine and snuggly but independant and not attached to my apron strings either!!

BTW i can't believe the girlies are already 8 months old!!!!!!

 

Mine don't do this to me as much as they do it to my mom! LOL today my mom came over and I was sitting here holding the twins and they both started fussing and reaching for her. So she took them and normally my son mostly will reach for me if anyone is holding her EXCEPT NANA! lol When they do on the rare occation do this to me I sit down on the floor with them and let them crawl all over me and sometimes I will take that chance to read to them or sing that normally will take their minds off fighting over me.