Twin Question Gone Too Far!

I was at the store the other day with the babies and an older women was standing behind me. She started asking me general questions about the twins, which I was happy to answer. Then she asked me if I was breastfeeding. I thought that was a little personal, but I answered. Then she asked if I had enough milk for both of them. She tries to tell me she had 3 kids and nursed them all.
Has anyone else gotten questions like this? How did you answer them?

 

I have gotten the answer as well, and I just answer... for me a question like that isn't personal, they just really want to understand how you can breastfeed twins, the demands, and if you have enough milk... I always explain I didn't want to attempt it, because I had little to no help, and the c-section was hard enough on me.

 

I've gotten the questions too and I happily answer them. The more education people get, the better IMO. Of course, I did choose to breastfeed and I had enough milk for at least triplets. I'm sure my perspective would be different if I was feeling attacked for bottlefeeding.

 

I would consider that a pretty personal question. I know people are curious, and that's not bad in itself, but there are limits as to what one should actually ASK a total stranger.

I would probably have tried to come up with some sort of bland half-answer, like "It's tough sometimes, but we're managing it" or "no, it just didn't work for us" with a bright smile, and then offer variations on that theme if she persisted.

It also depends (for me) a lot on what I think the person's reason for asking is, and my vibe about them in general. Some people I am happy to talk to, and will tell them all sorts of personal stuff! But if I feel that someone has an agenda to educate me about BF, I get very defensive very fast.

 

I never got that question with my first set - but get it all the time with these two. I guess because I am breastfeeding (and pretty proud of myself) I'm willing to answer - maybe if I was bottlefeeding it would seem a little rude to ask.
This is definitely one of those questions that fall under the "None Ya" category - just personal preference on whether you answer or not I guess.

 

I got that a lot when the girls were about 3 months and under. I hated it too, and thought it was very personal, especially considering that I tried for weeks to bf and due to some medical problems during labor my milk never came in (at least they think that is why) so for me it felt even more personal. I just smiled and said no. Hopefully you will stop getting those questions as they get bigger!

 

I know what you mean! My mil drove me crazy with this question. she kept asking dh if I had enough milk, how i fed them, constantly! once when she was here I excused myself to go feed the girls shut the door behind me and she came to see how it was done! She knocked I told her I'm feeding the babies please let us be and she came in anyway!! There's a strange fascination about this. I felt like a circus act.

 

I get that question a lot. I seem to always nip ^_^ I am happy to answer. For me when ds was a baby I was told I didn't have enough milk for one by the doctors, so I am happy to debunk the myth that it is common not to have enough milk. I've become a slight zealot for breastfeeding lol

 

I get that question, and don't mind it. I proudly answer, "Yes, I bf them for 8 months!" and when they get too personal, "Why do you want to know?"

With my oldest, due to inexperience more than anything, I wasn't able to bf him. I got a lot of evil lectures from people about how I was a bad, lazy, selfish person for bottle feeding. Whatever, they don't know me. (I'm a good, lazy, giving person. )

 

Some people! :unsure:

 

Not surprising at all. I get the BF questions also which is a VERY sensitive topic for me since I desperately tried but had some significant problems and just couldn't. I get judged all the time for bottlefeeding which stinks because I was truly broken hearted over not being able to BF. I know sometimes it's just curiosity, but sometimes it does cross the line. I too look for a polite way to answer and then hightail it away.

 

I get that question, too! I'm particularly sensitive to it, because breastfeeding didn't work out as well as I'd hoped and didn't make enough milk for two. I do what the others suggested and just kind of smile and give a general answer!!

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Oh my goodness I got this question so much! I tried to bf and was very upset when I couldn't. The worst time was when we were on an airplane and a woman 2 rows back yelled up at me asking me if I breastfeed them. Of course everyone looked at me, wondering how I'd respond. What the heck?! That was a little bit much. I feel your pain!!!

 

I used to get that too - my standard response (which I never said but wished I had) was "why you want a peek?"

 

I've had people ask me that too. I try to remind myself that most people are just trying to be nice and they want to say something but don't know what to say. Mostly they are just thinking of questions because they're trying to keep the conversation going so they can keep looking at the babies! That's what I tell myself!

 

no one has ever ask me a question like that, after i tell them they are born on christmas day all they want to know about is how i cope with that....

 

oops, double post.