"twin bond" starting? or is it too soon for that?

So of course we all want our twins to be best buddies and get along but really what age does that start? The boys play well together and apart and also fight a lot...as do most toddlers. But recently we've noticed if 1 is playing with a toy that we have 2 of (we do not buy double on toys, only ones we know will start fights) they will take the other toy to their brother to play with so they both can play with the same toy together.
This has been going on for about a month but then the last couple weeks Jack has been sleeping issues bc of teeth so the other night I brought him out to the couch to cuddle and calm down and JT lost it! Jack is saying "JT" looking at them bedroom so my DH went in to rub his head and he comes out to the living room and says "You need to take Jack back to bed. JT is pointing to his crib crying." So I take Jack in and put him down by JT's crib and tell JT "Here he is, Jack's OK" and they touch hands through the crib rails and then we put them to bed. JT was immediately calm and went to sleep and Jack only fussed for a minute before going to sleep. Then I noticed if they are playing by themselves they will randomly look up and say each others name looking for the other one and then when they spot them go back to playing. They are in daycare 3x a week and we go to my sis' regularly to play with my nephew who is 3wks older so they are around other children ALOT.

Is this the "twin bond" people speak of? Or just my boys becoming more dependent on each other?

 

Not sure that I can really answer your question, but my girls have started doing similar things lately. If both of their milk cups are sitting on the window sill (where I put them for them to get them while they play), then one of them will pick up both and take her sister's cup to her. Or if Bettye Katheryne finds Aurora's chicky (her lovey), she immediately takes it to her. The cutest is when they play 'dress up' and one will go and get two of their frilly girly hats and put one on herself and one on her sister. This has just started in the last week for us. My girls only go the church nursery and mother's day out for 4 hours/week so they don't play with anyone but one another very often.

Oh, and we do the sleeping thing too. If one of them is out of their bed, the other will stand up and look over at her sister's bed and call out for her.

 

Mine have done that for while, they will make sure that each other has their milk, will give other toys to play with, etc. Not sure if it's the twin bond or just an awareness that they like to do nice things for each other :unsure:

 

That sounds so sweet! :wub:

I think it's different for all sets of twins. Some have such different personalities, that they don't always get along. I really try to encourage affection between my 2 (praising them for sharing, asking them to give each other hugs). I don't see a lot of spontaneous affection yet, but they're toddlers so I can't expect too much!

 

Sounds like twin bonding to me! My twins keep close tabs on each other and always have. When they started crawling, they would only stay apart for about 30-60 seconds and then reconnect. They still will hold hands on occassion in the car and I can always tell due to the special laugh they have only for each other. They have their moments when they fight, but by and large they are really good friends - I am very thankful for that & it is amazing to watch.

 

I definitely think that is a bonding thing starting! Mine definitely fight more than they like each other but they are starting to do small things that are encouraging that they might eventually like one another - they give each other a cup if they find hers or his sitting somewhere, ds woke up before dd the other day at naptime so I brought him downstairs and he kept saying "where sissy," they do have a laugh for each other, and they have so much fun sitting in their high chairs feeding each other and tradiing things off their trays. When I tell them to give each other a kiss or a hug, now they will do it sometimes but usually still miss! I love it and hope that they really can learn to appreciate the other if they can't be friends.