Turkey Day in Hospital

Hi everyone! Just wanted to provide an update...I also need some cheering up. Okay, Last Tuesday I started having reg. contractions (6 in an hour) and I called the doc. went in and he sent me to triage at the hosp. for an IV and a shot of turb. (I also had a stomach bug and a cold). I went, go the IV, the shot and nothing helped. So, I was admitted and they started a Mag treatment and steriod shots. Did that for 24 hours and then started procardia. I went home on Friday morning....had turkey dinner at the hosp. When I was there I began to get really depressed because I have a small child at home and and I just felt guilty. Now, I am home (I was on mod. bedrest, now on strict BR) and I feel horrible. Oh, and did I mention my MIL moved in with us to "help" yeah. The day I got home she and DH started fighting because she does nothing to help. They fought again Sunday yelling for like 3 hours and yesterday she huffed and puffed around here making my life miserable....boy, I hate having to depend on someone else. I think she might be crazy.... anyway, went to the doc. today and everything looked fine. I am really trying to focus on the babies but it is so hard when you feel guility and your MIL is nuts!!! Okay, I think I am done. OH, I did try talking to my husband about gettting rid of MIL but she has no money and no where to go. I am stuck. Okay, now I am done.

Thanks for listening!! (I think I mis. that)

Shannon

 

Your MIL sounds like my mom so I understand where you are coming from. Just take a deep breath and try to relax, stress is not good when you are trying to stop contractions.
I know it is hard being away from your kids on Thanksgiving. My little one was born with a congenital birth defect and has needed lots of surgery. The specialist who takes care of her is in Chicago and we are in NJ, so my little one and I have spent Thanksgiving, and a few Easters away from my older daughter and DH. I'm sure your little one is really ok, and down the road will not remember. Do not beat yourself up about something you can not control!!!
Now back to your MIL, did she move in permantly?? If she has no where to go she probably is not feeling to good about herself and taking it out on all around her. Is there anything she does that is helpful ( cooking, playing with your little one, etc...??)
Also talk with your Dh about his behavor with his mom. Let him know the fighting stresses you and they need to figure out how this is going to work for everyone, maybe set up so groundrules, discuss who is doing what and boundaries would help. Maybe working with your DH on a goal would be better then arguing because you are both frustrated....
I hope things calm down over there and you are able to keep those babies in there for a while longer!!!

 

Focus on the babies. Hang in there. Bedrest is soooo stressful on everyone. Give it time and things will fall into place.

 

As if you don't have enough to worry about! You are doing so good! Hang in there! Soon this will all be a memory and you will have 2 precious babies to show for it!

 

Shannon
Oh, I know how hard it is to be dependent on others right now. I have a 4 yr old and 2 yr old and it's been very challenging. Is your MIL helpful with your child? If so, that could make the whole situation worth it in the end or at least bearable. I've been on bedrest for almost 5 wks now and I have to admit, time has gone so fast so I hope it goes really fast for you too. I hope something works out once the babies are here as far as your MIL living with you, it sounds like a touchy situation. Take care!

 

All of your words of encouragement are wonderful!! Thank you so much. I know this will all calm down once I am able to "move again" I am so glad I have a wonderful group of ladies that totally understands what it is like. THANK YOU FOR BEING SO SUPPORTIVE. I really needed to read those words. :love0028:

Shannon

 

Does anyone know the next milestone? Is is 32 or 34 weeks (what happens at that point?) I am mostly concerned about lung dev. I did get st. shots.

Shannon