Trying to undo a mistake

For the past month I have been letting my DD sleep in my bed, I sleep alone (SO sleeps on the recliner) It all started a month ago. She woke up in her crib fussing and crying at 1am, I went in to sooth her. She continued to cry so I brought her in my room so she wouldn't wake up DS. My intention was to soothe her back to sleep then lay her back in her crib. Well I end up falling asleep (I have to be up for work at 4am)

Now a month later, she will not sleep through the whole night in her crib, like clockwork she wakes up around midnight and won't go back to sleep unless I lay her in my bed. Now it's causing a problem with my SO who is a SAHD, he can't get her to nap on her own.

How can I break this? I would do the CIO, but I don't want her to wake up my DS and I live in a apt and I don't want to disturb my neighbors that early in the morning.

HELP!!!!

 

Tyler has these issues as well!! I can't wait to hear other's responses. One thing I have been trying is to bring him anywhere but my room to soothe him. This means walking him in the hall, in the living room, or swinging him in his carseat. My theory was to first break him of the bed habit and then work on getting in the crib. The problem is that it is exhausting! I have been able to do it 2-3 nights in a row, but then I am just too tired and let him lay in the bed for a few nights to re-charge myself!

I hope others have good ideas! Thanks for posting!

 

For me, the only thing that worked was CIO. Finn was my biggest "offender." He'd wake and I'd bring him into bed and he'd eventually fall back to sleep. We decided he needed to figure out how to get himself back to sleep (plus I was exhausted and tired of sharing my bed with an 8 month old.) So we decided to let him CIO. It took 2 nights. The first night was the worst. He cried off and on for over an hour. The second night he only cried for about 10 minutes and now he sleeps right through the night (except when he's sick or teething.) I know there are other methods but for me CIO is the only one that worked and amazingly, his brother who sleeps in a crib just 5 feet away never woke up once. Actually any time either of them wake during the night and they have to CIO, the other does not wake up. It's really weird how that works- but great that it does! Good luck!

 

You are looking for the magic solution, but there isn't one. Please, please, please do yourself a favor and let her CIO. The sooner the better. I know b/c I have a 2 1/2 yo in my bed! The longer it drags on, the harder it is. It sucks, but you have to do it or you will wind up like me! Even the night my dh came home from Iraq she was smack dab in the middle of us. Ugh. It is so frustrating and I wish I could turn back the clock.

 

It's amazing, but most babies will sleep right through that crying. Mine could be inches away from each other and one will be screaming while the other is fast asleep. Maybe you could let your closest neighbors know ahead of time what you're trying to do. It usually doesn't take long! (now if I could only take my own advice- I'm afraid my twins will wake up my toddler if I let them CIO!)

 

at 10 months you'll have to let her cry it out., if she was younger 3-4 months id say that youcould fix it with swaddling tightly and putting her into bed would work, with a bottle, why not try a bath and a bottle and a bedtime routine before she goes to bed. what does she want when she wakes up at midnight solely to go to bed with you??? Try putting her back in her own bed when she falls asleep so she awakes in her bed and learns thats where shes going to end up. eventually shes going to learn shes going to end up sleeping in her bed if she wakes up in the middle of the night see if it works then resort to the crying it out.

 

I just read about "habitual wakers" in the Baby Whisperer book. I have no first hand experiance with this, but I thought I'd share what she says. The idea is to kick them out of their routine, and so if she's waking up at the same time every night, go in about 45-60 minutes before that time and wake her up. You aren't supposed to be super active with her or anything, but just a gentle little wake, maybe a diaper change, and then put her back to sleep as usual. According to the book, that should help the little one break her habit of getting up at the same time every night.