Too much activity?

I am wondering what I can say to family. Everyone wants to see the babies all the time. Well this past weekend it has been non stop. My dad hadn't seen them in a couple weeks so I took the babies over his house and they were there all day Friday with him and my stepmom, stepbrother, and stepsister. Then on Saturday we had a graduation party so about a million people held them there. Then we always go over my inlaws on Sunday, but they had like 10 people over for dinner this week so they got passed around all day. When we came home last night they were absolutely insane. They screamed for hours and spit up half of their milk everytime they ate. Now today they are the same way. Is that just too much for them, has anyone else experienced this? I have always noticed that when they are at home all day with just me or DH they are perfect angels at night. What do I say to people when everyone wants to see them all the time. Do you think it is unreasonable for people to ask us to bring six week old babies to be passed around, I do! Please help!! Nobody gets that they can't be held and woken up everytime they fall asleep.

 

Yikes -- that does sound like the babies are getting worn out.

I would blame your pediatrician, and tell people, "Sorry, their doctor advised us that they're not getting enough sleep..."

And then, either stay home, or take a pack n' play when you visit family, and put the babies to sleep in a quiet room....

 

Yes, it definitely sounds like too much for the little guys. I know how you feel! This happens with my girls as well and they are almost 4 months old. My inlaws are very jealous people so every time I have them at my parents, I have to go to DH's parents as well and it just causes the girls to get so so cranky.

I've decided to be a great twin mommy, you have to be a b**** sometimes!! Just lay down the law...no visits during feeding times or close to bedtime!

Of course I'm breaking my own rule today... have to go see DH's cousin this evening right in the middle of feeding and way too close to bed time! They will sleep in the car and screw up bedtime. But we haven't seen them in 2 years an they are only in town for a week.

Hang in there!! They are your babies and you know what is best!

 

We have this trouble already.
MIL stayed with us 2 weeks prior to their birth, and 2 weeks after. She didn't understand why she wasn't allowed to touch them constantly. She would move them around so much-I think her arms tired easily. So then we'd be the ones having to try to calm them at night-she'd take her hearing aids out and not know they were crying.
I realize it was probably hard for her to see us holding/feeding them but in the end I said the Dr. said they were being handled too much.

 

Just like your boys, my girls will let me know when they've had enough. It does sound like it's way too much activity, my older DD has a ton of activities and we're always doing something with family on the weekend so the girls have no choice some days but you can definitely tell it has a huge impact on them. They're much happier when we spend the day at home.

 

That would be too much for my boys and they are pretty big. Try to limit your outings sot hey won't interfere with feedings and naps (It's very important that they sleep good if you want nice babies. ) And totally blame it on your pedi, he/she won't mind.

 

The same thing happened to our boys when they were first born. They would get too overstimulated by everyone and everything and wouldn't eat or sleep and fussed for hours when we came home.

Now we try to limit the visits and when I notice they are getting fussy while we're visiting, it's off for quiet time. Either nap or feed, whichever it's time for.

Good luck! I agree with PP, sometimes you just have to lay down the law! :hug99:

 

I think it's time to say, "We need to stay close to home now so we can settle into a routine". Believe me, you won't regret it. I am so happy I took the time to get to the know the babies at home, and to get into a groove. Now, at 16 weeks they're napping well, eating well, and sleeping well at night. If I'd kept going with the constant flow of visitors and visiting I'm sure we'd still be working through the chaos!
Good luck. You won't regret making this decision, I'm sure.