Toddler

Discussion in 'The First Year' started by iluvpugs44109, Oct 21, 2007.

  1. iluvpugs44109

    iluvpugs44109 Well-Known Member

    Hi,

    Anyone else have a toddler in their terrible two's who just seems to be out of control at times? How do you handle? I have found myself yelling at her like never before and my husband has been yelling through his teeth at her. I feel so bad. But when both of our hands are full and she is climbing the curtains or pulling down the shelf on top of herself we have to yell and she doesn't seem to care.

    HELP!!!
     
  2. mrsfussypants

    mrsfussypants Well-Known Member

    Oh yes. We are in the thick of it. We found ourselves doing the same thing--yelling and getting after him for everything. We seem to have come to a happy place now because he's quite delightful most of the time. The first two months with the new twins were very hard. He seemed to push my buttons constantly---for obvious reasons! His world was just turned upside down. The things that finally seemed to work (besides good old fashioned TIME) were to tell him what the plan was for the next activity. When he woke up I would say, "ok, you can watch a show while I feed the babies, and then I'm going to make you breakfast and then we'll get dressed. Once we finished those things I would try and give him options like, "would you like to color for 15 minutes, or build legos?" Then I would give him another set of options, and then plan the afternoon with him--"we're going to have lunch, then take a nap, and then go run some errands." It seemed like knowing what was coming next really cut down on the amount of trouble he got himself into, and he stopped looking for crazy-annoying things to do! You're in the hardest part right now. I remember 6-8 weeks with the babies and a toddler being the very hardest for me. I cried a lot, and wondered, "what did I DO!!?" You'll eventually get a rhythm with all three kids. hang in there

    Reyna
     
  3. Her Royal Jennyness

    Her Royal Jennyness Well-Known Member

    Consistency helped us immensely. Instead of yelling I would put her in time out or make her clean the mess she made every time. I didn't like the fact that I would yell and she would ignore. The yelling obviously wasn't working.

    The first few months were ultra-mayhem though like Reyna said. Just hang in there, this is a hard time for everyone. :hug99: There are still days when I feel like pulling out my hair but it has gotten better.
     
  4. HT

    HT Well-Known Member

    I have a 3 year old and we are still in the midst of it. We do tons of timeouts and try to be consistent. I can only hope she grows out of it SOON!
     
  5. DATJMom

    DATJMom Well-Known Member

    QUOTE(Her Royal Jennyness @ Oct 22 2007, 04:45 AM) [snapback]461118[/snapback]
    Consistency helped us immensely. Instead of yelling I would put her in time out or make her clean the mess she made every time. I didn't like the fact that I would yell and she would ignore. The yelling obviously wasn't working.

    The first few months were ultra-mayhem though like Reyna said. Just hang in there, this is a hard time for everyone. :hug99: There are still days when I feel like pulling out my hair but it has gotten better.


    Totally agree. I think we were doing a lot of yelling at our then 2 year old because we were overtired and very stressed. But consistency works and the yelling didnt and they eventually adjust, thank goodness. Hang in there.
     
  6. daisydoll

    daisydoll Well-Known Member

    I understand how you feel. My son is 2 1/2 and I found that when I brought the babies home and grandma come all of his manners went out the door. I am asking him to do something more then once and when he doesn't do it I find myself yelling at him. I feel so bad because it use to be just us and now the babies in the mix I think he doesn't like them. I just keep telling myself he is two and have patience with him.
     
  7. DenaP

    DenaP Well-Known Member

    Our son was 19 months when the babies came home. When I had to be sitting down with the babies.. nursing them... I would always read him a book at the same time. This way when I was occupied so was he. For me is saved alot of out of control moments. Funny how kids know when you are doing something that can not be interrupted.
     
  8. AWerner

    AWerner Well-Known Member

    QUOTE(Her Royal Jennyness @ Oct 22 2007, 12:45 AM) [snapback]461118[/snapback]
    Consistency helped us immensely. Instead of yelling I would put her in time out or make her clean the mess she made every time. I didn't like the fact that I would yell and she would ignore. The yelling obviously wasn't working.

    The first few months were ultra-mayhem though like Reyna said. Just hang in there, this is a hard time for everyone. :hug99: There are still days when I feel like pulling out my hair but it has gotten better.



    yep same here, Listen to Jenny, she has that title for a reason ;)
     
  9. momlissa

    momlissa Well-Known Member

    Oh, we are so in the thick of it right now. My daughter is 2.5 and the twins are 7 months. We are in survival mode right now. One day at a time...
     
  10. kgolgo

    kgolgo Well-Known Member

    Yes,

    i have a two year old daughter also along with my 5 month old twin b/g. it is trying at times, but while your two year old is doing what every two year old does at this times it sometimes is easy to forget that they are just that, only two. Sometimes I look at her and expect her to act older, compared to the babies she seems so much more mature, but you have to remember that they are still little and are just at the phase where they are dealing with their own emotions and independence also.

    Good luck and try to take it all in stride!

    (If I feel I am getting too that point of yelling at her, I just step away, walk in the bedroom and close the door, take a breath and then return with a new positive spin on it and she usually responds very, very well to my new positive energy).

    Encourage good behavior often, dont just punish bad behaviour.
     
  11. iluvpugs44109

    iluvpugs44109 Well-Known Member

    Thank you everyone! I am trying. Yesterday her daddy kept telling her to help him clean up her toys and she's say "okay" then walk off and play with something. He would keep saying to her over and over and over "shannon, help me pick up these toys"...of course he ended up picking them all up. I try to tell him she is still a baby too. I put her in a time out twice. The second time around she tried to scoot herself out twice. After the second time of that I extended her time out to an extra minute. She didn't care. I know I will get through this...right?
     
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