to wake or not to wake

My guys are a little over a month old..premature at 33 weeks.
During the night I'm never sure if I should wake one when the other gets up? I figure if I don't one will be up soon after the other anyway but then I wonder if I'm encouraging Aiden (who sometimes sleeps longer than Noah) to be waking up every 2 hours like Noah. Does this make sense? I think if I wake one when the other gets up then I'll at least get some sleep. But then am I overfeeding?
Is there any chance they would be able to sleep longer than 4 hours during the night at this age or should we expect every 2-3 hours?
Sometimes Aiden seems to be hungry an hour after he eats! He's getting 3 ounces at every feed..I'm afraid to give him more for fear of spitting up. Any thoughts?

 

My guys are a little over a month old..premature at 33 weeks.
During the night I'm never sure if I should wake one when the other gets up? I figure if I don't one will be up soon after the other anyway but then I wonder if I'm encouraging Aiden (who sometimes sleeps longer than Noah) to be waking up every 2 hours like Noah. Does this make sense? I think if I wake one when the other gets up then I'll at least get some sleep. But then am I overfeeding?
Is there any chance they would be able to sleep longer than 4 hours during the night at this age or should we expect every 2-3 hours?
Sometimes Aiden seems to be hungry an hour after he eats! He's getting 3 ounces at every feed..I'm afraid to give him more for fear of spitting up. Any thoughts?

 

I would expect them to wake up every 2 or so at this age, right now they are the equivelent of full term, so even though they are a month old they are more like newborns. At this age I would wake one when the other eats just to maximize the amount of time you have. Also I would feed them every time they seemed hungry. If he does spit up then maybe try giving him a binkie. He might just have a really strong need to suck. HTH!

 

My babies were full term and we've just started going 4 hours between feedings and they don't always make it. They're eating between 4-6 ounces. My DS almost always sleeps longer than DD probably because he's bigger and tends to eat slightly more. I usually stay up for a little bit after feeding DD to see if he wakes (and to make sure she doesn't spit up) and if he doesn't I wake him because he usually needs a diaper change anyway. I tried letting him sleep a couple of times but he just woke up a little while later anyway.
That said, during the day I don't really wake them to eat. I just do it at night so we can get some solid sleep.

As for the spitting up - both of mine went through this a couple of weeks ago. I called the pedi and she said not to give more than you know he can take without spitting up. She said that babies will just eat forever sometimes if we let them and spiting up is their hard-wired eject system when they've had too much If they continue to seem hungry after they've fed then slowly increase the amount they're getting , sometimes all they need is a few more sips. Also, make sure they burp. My DS was spitting up like a geyser and we figured out he had some really big gas bubbles so we started burping him longer and rubbing his belly to help shift the gas. it's helped alot, he hardly ever 'erupts' now

 

My girls always kinda woke up one after the other...if you want any sleep, I would wake the sleeping one. I agree with the PP, most babies at that age are going to wake every two hours. My girls were on a 2 hour schedule FOREVER...I don't know if BF babies wake more often or not (probably do since they eat less in a sitting), but mine were definately frequent eaters. Believe me, keeping them on the same schedule, even if it is encouraging one to wake every two hours, is worth it. You will be glad you did later on!!!

 

I used to wake one, I needed some sleep to stay sane and thats the only way I could get it. You wont overfeed, they will only eat what they need. My girls were 6 weeks when they slept longer (1130pm - 530am) but they were full term.

 

My girls were considered full term (37w4d) and for the first 6 weeks or so, I woke the second whenever someone woke to feed. After that, I started trying to see if one would sleep longer. A couple weeks after that they were sleeping thru the night. My son really started stretching out his feeds and sleeping thru around 8 weeks too. I think until you get to the adjust age of 6-8 weeks, I would keep waking the second. JMO

with all that said, all of my children were fairly large at birth and were at or over 13 pounds by 2 months old. That may play a role as well.

thanks,