To those with ID's

:itwins_boys: My boys are 2 1/2 and ever since they have been able to walk and play, my older (and bigger) one has become very dominate over the smaller. For instance, every time my smaller boy has a toy, my big boy takes it. He also fights more. My little boy has a bit more of a temper at times but he usually doesn't start the fight. Do any of you with ID's see this with yours?....and will it just get worse?

 

I'm not really sure. I do have one who is bigger and older and I have noticed she will grab her sister by the shirt and pull her down if she wants her attention or a toy. But they aren't old enough and I haven't seen enough to know if it is a two-way situation or if it's always the bigger one. Plus when I say "bigger" it's only by about 1 pound, so I don't know that she knows she is bigger.

 

It's kind of the same scenario here with my boys. They are the same size and weight so I don't have one that is bigger, but Cameron is older (by about 30 seconds). Cameron is more dominating of Evan. He picks on him, tries to hit and bite him, and if Evan has a toy Cameron always tries to take it. However, on the flip side Evan tries to get Cameron to be more "responsible" for lack of a better word. If I tell Cameron to put something up Evan will keep telling him to put it up until he does it or if he sees Cameron trying to mess with something he shouldn't he will tell him "Don't touch it!". So I would say that they dominate each other in different ways, but Cameron is definitely more aggressive towards Evan.

 

Mine basically take turns being the bully/victim and we just continue to work with both on playing nicely. It's a dead-even fight because they are the same size and have the same abilities so I do let them work some things out on their own. Both play the tattle to mommy game but they also will both cover for each other sometimes.

 

Nope, not here. Cricket is bigger by about a pound, but neither of them pushes the other around. They're pretty good about trading when they want the other's toy and have yet to hit each other (we did have a few bites around a year old). So far the only thing I've really noticed is that Cricket is more interested in Piper than Piper is in her. Cricket wants Piper to have the same type of toy she has, and eat cheese when she's eating cheese, etc. Piper, on the other hand, doesn't usually worry that Cricket is doing something different. They're now at the stage where they play independently, but will get up and join the other if that activity looks more fun.

 

Yes, for the most part, Lily is quite the bully over Mia, she's older and bigger, and is definitely dominant. I will say however, that Mia is quite the strategist in the game of mental warfare, and knows exactly which buttons to push to torture Lily. It's quite funny because I see the evil little grin on her face as she does it..

 

One of my girls was dominate around that age, but it didn't get worse. They like to play that one is the mommy or the other. From around 2 1/2 to 3 I noticed that one was always the mommy and the other always the baby, but that stopped after about 6 months. Now either one of them is the mommy. I also found around that age that we need two identical or almost identical toys. I had wanted to buy them different things so that there would be more variety, but at that age they NEED to have the same thing (and wanted to dress the same or very similiar) But now they choose different things.

 

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It's kind of the same scenario here with my boys. They are the same size and weight so I don't have one that is bigger, but Cameron is older (by about 30 seconds). Cameron is more dominating of Evan. He picks on him, tries to hit and bite him, and if Evan has a toy Cameron always tries to take it. However, on the flip side Evan tries to get Cameron to be more "responsible" for lack of a better word. If I tell Cameron to put something up Evan will keep telling him to put it up until he does it or if he sees Cameron trying to mess with something he shouldn't he will tell him "Don't touch it!". So I would say that they dominate each other in different ways, but Cameron is definitely more aggressive towards Evan.



Cameron and Corey are the same size. In DD's case Corey (baby B) is the agressive one, pushing, hitting, takes toys away from Cameron on a regular basis.... Cameron on the other hand- let's him

 

Yes, in my case it's the younger one but she's 4lbs heavier. I can't really says it's getting better, just different, now that they are interacting more.