Tired of the attention

Is it just me but is anyone else tired of the constant attention you get by being pregnant? I am so sick of the constant questions. When are you due? How do you feel? What are you having? At work there are so many people who I don't even know asking me how my twins are doing. I am at the point where I like to stay in my building at work to avoid going to the cafeteria and hearing all the baby and twin talk.If I am somewhere like at the store I will lie to people about my due date and what I am having just to be able to finish doing what I am doing. I do not think I will mind the attention after the twins are born, but now it is just really annoying because I feel that it is interrupting me getting things done I can' ttalk to someone without hearing, "Good Luck" "you are gonna have your hands full" There goes your life" Twins? On the first try?" I heard them all. Just want to be able to talk about something else for once can anyone else relate? Don't get me wrong I am excited and happy and love my twins to death just don't want the stomach touched and have to discuss my baby bump all day.

 

I am tired of it too. People look at me as if i am a freak.. ( I am measuring at 40 weeks now..) I think people wonder what i am doing out of the house.. or the hospital... I get comments from everyone where ever i go. I am totally tired of it and i still have some time to go!!

 

I am getting the "freak" looks too and lots and lots of comments. Lately when I ride the elevator to and from parking garage and up to my office I just keep my eyes on the ground or I know the weird comments and conversations will start. Our parking garage elevator is pretty crappy and the other day I was on it with a group of people and the elevator announced that we were over the weight limit...everyone turned and looked at me! My stomach is huge, I will give them that, but I only weigh about 143... come on people, why is it my fault? It is not the first time that has happened either

The other day, my coworker and I walked into a restaurant for lunch and an extended family of about 12 people were sitting just gaping at me as I walked by. It is a weird feeling because they continued to stare and talk about me as we sat down and ordered. Two of the ladies even cornered me when I headed back to the bathroom and asked the "Oh my gosh, when are you due" question for the 50th time that day. I just sighed and gave them the quick, "but it's twins" rundown. One of the ladies said something along the lines of, "I knew it because your stomach is soooo big, it couldn't be just one!" She did follow up by saying the rest of me looked like a supermodel, so I guess I am going to take that as a compliament and run with it. They are few and far between these days.

Take care!

 

I think the comments during pregnancy are just a warm up for what is to come once the babies arrive. Sorry to hear you are tired of it but I am sorry to say I don't think it gets any better once pregnancy ends.

 

I'm totally with you... I would so rather have the attention on the boys when they are born rather than on how big I am for only being 27 weeks!! "How are you gonna make it through summer??" and "aren't you just ready for it to be over??" While I am extremely uncomfortableand can't wait to meet the boys I'm sick of it. I've gotten snotty on the second comment...I say "Um actually I will be tolerable of my discomfort as long as it takes for my babies to be born healthy"
We all hear ya....We've all been there.....I don't think its gonna get any better though....
Shannon

 

I'm tired of it too! I own a retail store, and the customers all day long would ask me questions, how do I feel, when will I have them, blah, blah, blah. I got soooo worn out just from answering the same questions over & over again. I finally just stopped going to work, and I hardly want to leave the house so I can avoid the questions & the stares.

 

Add me to the list too. While I appreciate the care my friends and family are giving to us, sometimes I'd just like to get through a conversation without "how are YOU?" I also hate to lay it all out on the table.

"Oh, I'm just great...my maternity pants don't fit, I can't roll over in bed, I have a baby arm constantly punching me in the cervix, my boobs are sore, I have to pee every two minutes, and I think my husband is afraid of me. Other than that, everything is terrifc!" :lol:

Maybe we should just do that...kind of like when you're grandmother starts talking about her hemmoroids and you can't get off the phone fast enough.

 

Yes, I hate to tell you this but it only gets worse once they come. I call it the freak show. I get stopped everywhere I go.

 

I know that I started to get annoyed by it at the end of my twin pg...but do enjoy it while it lasts.... after they are born you get very little for all your efforts...instead it goes to the babies!! (and it's equally annoying to be completely ignored when people walk into the room!!) LOL... and any future pg, if it's not a twin pg, will be seem so much more toned down in terms of the attention. Enjoy your 15 minutes of "fame" while it lasts!!

 

I am getting the "belly stares" too since I am measuring 41wks now! Yesterday I got kind of annoyed with the lady at the grocery store that was like "Oh I feel sorry for you, one is enough" comment. We are blessed to have two especially after 4years of trying!! Not everyone gets to say they are the parents of twins!! I think that was the first time I got kind of annoyed with a comment. Most are good, and those don't bother me at all.

Yeah I do a lot of repeating, but that is the way it goes!

April

 

QUOTE(Dianne @ Jul 11 2007, 08:48 PM) [snapback]327214[/snapback]
I think the comments during pregnancy are just a warm up for what is to come once the babies arrive. Sorry to hear you are tired of it but I am sorry to say I don't think it gets any better once pregnancy ends.


I agree 100%! If anything it gets worst. People will try to touch your babies and stop you in the middle of the store while you are using what little time you have to get something done.

 

I agree with the others, it gets SO much worse after you have them. I didn't believe that it could get any worse then when I was pregnant, then I had them! I ran in to Pottery barn kids a few months ago to grab something (should of taken me 10 min tops) I was in there for an hour because people wouldnt leave us alone! There is no more just running in somewhere with them, you really feel like a circus act!

 

QUOTE(monique+2 @ Jul 11 2007, 09:37 PM) [snapback]327094[/snapback]
Is it just me but is anyone else tired of the constant attention you get by being pregnant? I am so sick of the constant questions. When are you due? How do you feel? What are you having? At work there are so many people who I don't even know asking me how my twins are doing. I am at the point where I like to stay in my building at work to avoid going to the cafeteria and hearing all the baby and twin talk.If I am somewhere like at the store I will lie to people about my due date and what I am having just to be able to finish doing what I am doing. I do not think I will mind the attention after the twins are born, but now it is just really annoying because I feel that it is interrupting me getting things done I can' ttalk to someone without hearing, "Good Luck" "you are gonna have your hands full" There goes your life" Twins? On the first try?" I heard them all. Just want to be able to talk about something else for once can anyone else relate? Don't get me wrong I am excited and happy and love my twins to death just don't want the stomach touched and have to discuss my baby bump all day.

I feel the same way ! and when someone goes to touch my tummy I put my hand up and say " Oh please dont " but what I really want to say is I dont have a petting zoo in there. and I hear " Twins boy your going to be busy !"and the usual " when are you due, do you know what your having? ( then comes the hand to touch the tummy) and yes it is interrupting things Im trying to do. And Ive just started getting used to the idea of having twins, but you think the way people react your the only person to ever have them.

 

I felt this way to some degree. I actually didn't get that many comments from strangers (and I wouldn't have minded that as much anyway), but I felt like people at work were constantly staring at me and it made me soooo self-conscious. One time I was coming down the stairs and one of my coworkers was standing at the bottom just chuckling at me, because my belly looked like it was about 3 steps ahead of the rest of me. I know she didn't mean to drive me nuts, but I was like "Can't I even walk down the stairs without someone laughing at me???"

I also haven't had that many comments after they were born -- so maybe you'll get lucky!

 

i'm only 23 weeks, and i'm already sick of it all. i work at a hospital and people from other units know that "i'm the one pregnant with twins". i'm just sick of answering the same questions over and over again.
and i'm getting tired A LOT faster now, and after 8 hours of work, i can barely walk to my car, and everyone acts like i'm being such a baby. "oh just walk, it's good for you." i got that one the other day. i wanted to throw something at her.

 

I did not read through all the other posts but the attention you are getting is not even close to what is to come when you have your babies! . You will forever go somewhere and it will take longer than you thought. I never knew we would be like a zoo exhibit everywhere we went!


I do understand though the annoying twin preg questions.

 

QUOTE(FirstTimeMom814 @ Jul 12 2007, 03:17 PM) [snapback]328224[/snapback]
I agree 100%! If anything it gets worst. People will try to touch your babies and stop you in the middle of the store while you are using what little time you have to get something done.

People will try to toch my babies?! Oh no that is a no- no. I guess I might as well get used to the attention and just think of creative non offensive ways to respond.

 

QUOTE(ddancerd1 @ Jul 12 2007, 08:01 PM) [snapback]328631[/snapback]
i'm only 23 weeks, and i'm already sick of it all. i work at a hospital and people from other units know that "i'm the one pregnant with twins". i'm just sick of answering the same questions over and over again.
and i'm getting tired A LOT faster now, and after 8 hours of work, i can barely walk to my car, and everyone acts like i'm being such a baby. "oh just walk, it's good for you." i got that one the other day. i wanted to throw something at her.

Ugghhh!! I agree with you on the "Oh walk its good for you" I do waddle some days because I am so damn sore down there or feel so heavy. I know its good for me but if I can't walk I can't walk and besides I HAVE to walk everyday anyway.

 

QUOTE(monique+2 @ Jul 12 2007, 10:21 PM) [snapback]328918[/snapback]
People will try to toch my babies?! Oh no that is a no- no. I guess I might as well get used to the attention and just think of creative non offensive ways to respond.


Yep, that happens even if you don't have twins.
When our youngest was about three months old, I loaded him and big brother up so I could hit Target and return something. This elderly lady comes over and starts touching the baby (and I'm typically not real annoyed by it) and then COUGHS all over him like she's got TB. It was disgusting. And the poor lady...all she wanted was to coo at my baby, but sheesh!

I usually just tell people (mostly little kids) not to touch his hands or face. I've noticed that it helped if I kept a blanket on him too. Now that he's almost 10 months, nobody really bothers us.

 

QUOTE(monique+2 @ Jul 12 2007, 10:25 PM) [snapback]328926[/snapback]
Ugghhh!! I agree with you on the "Oh walk its good for you" I do waddle some days because I am so damn sore down there or feel so heavy. I know its good for me but if I can't walk I can't walk and besides I HAVE to walk everyday anyway.



yeah, i waddle almost all the time now (cuz i get sore adn uncomfortable so fast), and women ridicule me because of it! women who either A) have no PERSONAL experience with multiple pregnancy or 2) have never even BEEN pregnant.

 

QUOTE(Angela0580 @ Jul 12 2007, 03:47 PM) [snapback]328386[/snapback]
I agree with the others, it gets SO much worse after you have them. I didn't believe that it could get any worse then when I was pregnant, then I had them! I ran in to Pottery barn kids a few months ago to grab something (should of taken me 10 min tops) I was in there for an hour because people wouldnt leave us alone! There is no more just running in somewhere with them, you really feel like a circus act!



Ditto!!! Replace Potterybarn with Target and the same thing happened to me yesterday!!!!