throwing bottles and food on the floor

hello everyone
I have not been on in a very long time.. its been very busy.. I am a stay at mom but work from home.
I have a b and g twin and a 5 yr old girl. my tiwns are 16 mths.
I am having a hard time with feedings.. throwing food on the floor.. pressing the nipple so all the milk comes out on the highchair.
baths are tough as well. My girl wants to stand up and touch everything so I can clean her well. I am so frustrated and my back is against the wall. its getting harder again with them. the other day I gave my girl a bath and sounded like I was wrestiling with a fish out of water.. splashing every where just trying ot get her to sit.
its so stressful because my husband doesnt get it at all. I rarley get breaks and when I do I come home to a grumpy husband .. its not worth going out at all.
any suggestions would be greatly appreciated..
xo

 

At that age, if someone dropped food over their tray they got one warning, and then I would remove them from the table and put them in timeout. I probably did warning until about 18-20 months. Now at 2, food thowing is an offense that lands you straight in timeout...no warning at all. I also find they will do that either at the end of the meal when they are bored, or when they aren't really hungry. If they aren't all that hungry...it may be because you are giving them too much milk or snack to close to meal time. It may be if you reduce sippy cups, and snacks, you will have less incidents simply because they are more interested in eating. Either way, if they throw food, I would offer a consequence, that is the only thing that works here. I know it sucks to keep getting up during a meal to put a kid in timeout, but in the long run, it is better, than having food thrown at every friggin meal!! As far as bathtime is concerned, I remember my son was like a total nut at that age in the water because he was having so much fun. I just kept making him sit, and finally if he continued I would take him out which really made him mad...lol!! What are you going to do ? He was so slippery, it was scary. DH and I always did bathtime together because I didn't feel it was safe to do it alone. All I can tell you is at 2, it is 100% better.

 

Mine are doing that a month ago, started at 20 mos. out of blue! I have to sit there now and make sure they don't throw food onto the floor. When they start, I take away their plate. I think it a phase around this time like everyone else says, so hopefully it does get better!

D, w/Rianna and Justin (21.5 mos)

 

Mine went through the food throwing around 16-19 months too. It was sooo frustrating for a while, but once I stopped reacting like such a nut (throwing my own little mommy tantrum), it did get better. I always thought it was too much hassle to take them down out of their chairs (since that meant cleaning and unstrapping them), so I took some TS suggestions and turned their chair completely around away from the table when the offense occurred (I also still do this for dinner time tantrums, which also usually works) or took their plate away. They usually don't like not being a part of the "action" and it serves the same as a time-out. If they keep it up and you can tell they're not hungry and just playing with their food, mealtime would be over for them at that point.

We had the same bathtime issues around that age too. I'd wash them as quick as I could and if they kept standing, they'd have to get out. Mine love bathtime, so that was punishment enough. I don't remember how old mine were when I started giving them bath crayons, but that's always an incentive for them to sit and not splash too much. They know they don't get them until they're both washed and being good!

 

I started using those bowls that stick to the tray and putting their food in there. It helps for some reason. As for the cups, they still get tossed to the floor. I also just give a bit of food at a time, starting with the least-preferred item (i.e. green beans, etc.) - that way hopefully they get eaten out of hunger.

I know it's totally annoying - I'm right there with you. As for the baths, we do three strikes you're out, whether you're clean or not.

 

thanks everyone.. It helps to know that we are all on the same boat.. the food really helped me out alot. I was feeling like I am giving the same thing everyday.
thanks again.