Thinking of letting Jack and Lily go to their grandparents for a few days

My parents live in Ohio but they have a place in Palm Beach, FL that they spend most of the winter in. Their winter place is about 4 hours from where DH and I live. My parents have watched Jack and Lily a few times when DH and I went out of town. These times they always came to our place and watched them. This year they said they would rather watch them down at their place in Palm Beach and DH and I do not have the $$$ to really take a trip. I thought it might be nice to be at home for a few days without them so we can just relax and maybe get some house stuff done. I am a little nervous about it though. Also, we just spent the holidays down at their house in Palm Beach so the kids are familiar with the house and sleeping arrangements (pack n plays in separate rooms).

I am planning on driving them halfway next Thursday and my parents will meet us. We will then just switch cars and they will take the kids down to their place and I will drive back home. I will pick them up on the following Monday.

I am a little nervous. I picture myself having an anxiety attack while sitting in my home without them.

Would you do it at this age???

 

Oh my yes!!!! But I will use any excuse I can to get some down time for me and DH! We sent the twins to my parents for 4 nights when they were 5 months old when we went to a wedding 4 states away ... did we miss them? Of course! And I called my parents a lot ... but once you get over the initial time, it's much easier ... we are actually shipping them off to my parents this weekend as well ... enjoy your time alone!

 

Definitely! DH and I left the girls with my parents for 3 nights when they were 9 months old and we went to Vegas. It was a much needed break. Now they take trips to my parents or DH's sisters every few months for the weekend. We usually do larger projects around the house, sleep in, go out to eat...we always miss the girls, but its nice to have the time to ourselves too.

 

Yes Ma'am!! I wish I had someone willing to keep my kids for that long.. I would miss them dearly but enjoy every minute of it! I would get sooo much done, and actually be able to relax a little as well. If Jack and Lily are comfortable with the grandparents and arent going to freak out, then I would definitely do it. Im sure you need the break right now too, since you have been having a hard time with Jack and his lack of napping. Maybe he will come home worn out, and start napping again!!

 

I sure would.

 

I would if the grandparents offered and I thought they could handle it! Unfortunetly, all their grandparents can only handle babysitting on a few hours at a time basis. I say if you think they can do it, go for it!

 

I say go for it!!! My Dh and I just went to Las Vegas over New Year's for 4 days and left the kids with my parents. They loved it when we aren;t around and they can spoil them. If your parents are asking to have them, then let them. Have fun with your DH.

 

i personally wouldn't because I'm a little nutty about leaving the girls on the weekends (I'm a working mom and weekend time is our time together)...

BUT I see absolutely nothing wrong with it and if you are comfortable go for it! You know your parents would love it and the kids would have fun too!

 

I personally wouldn't, but if you are comfortable with it, go for it.

 

HECK YEAH!!!

 

DH and I went to Hawaii when the twins were 17 mos and they stayed with my parents for a week - called every day to say hi and make sure they were doing ok and it was wonderful!!

 

If my girls didn't climb out of pack n plays I would have had them visit with grandparents overnight already!

Go for it!

 

From a "grandparent" perspective, YES you should!! My grandsons spend the night with DH and I at least once a month and I've kept them for up to 4 days before.... We are perfectly capable of taking care of two toddlers! The best advice I can give is make sure they babyproof. We keep a couple of large areas "proofed" for them and they like to come to our house. We have a piano that they LOVE!! They still sleep in their pack and plays and while I know they don't love it... they manage.
Let them go and have a great time! It's good for everybody!!

 

I would. When ours were 4 months old, DH and I went to Disney World with my BF and her family. The babies stayed with my parents and while DH and I missed them terribly, it was nice to have time away. My parents enjoyed the time with the babies and the babies loved getting "spoiled" by Nonna and Pop Pop. Good luck whatever you decide to do.

 

Yes! I would do it. We just did something similar for the first time. Evan went to my mom's place (about an hour and a 1/2 out of town) from about 8 a.m. until 8 p.m. to have some special "Grandma" time and we kept James for some Q.T. It was wonderful! We had a great day with James and my mom had a lovely day with Evan. We're doing the same thing this Sunday so James can have his turn at Grandma's. If it goes well, we'll try an overnight in the coming months. I'm having another baby in August and by that time I want them to be fully comfortable staying for a night or two at Grandma's because I know I'm going to need the extra help with two 2 year olds and a newborn.

Do it! If they're miserable, you only have to drive 2 hours to pick them up 1/2 way. And I doubt they'll be miserable - they'll probably have the time of their lives!

I also think it's important to foster that special relationship that happens between grandparents and grandkids. My grandparents live in England and I love them to bits but I missed out on a lot of that stuff growing up (except when they visited). I want my kids to have lots of opportunities to feel loved by their grandparents. And it's nice for me too!

 

My two were 10 weeks old the first time I let my sister and her girlfriend take them for the weekend. So heck yeah!! (As long as grandparents are physically able to lift/carry/take care of them.)

 

I wouldn't but that's because I'm a little neurotic when it comes to my kids , plus my parents are older and not really capable of caring for two little ones full time.

But if your folks are up to the challenge and you are ok with it, then go for it and have fun!

 

I would with my parents. but definitely not with DH's parents (they are crazy :crazy: )

 

Oh yea!!!! If one of our parents offered, we do it in a heartbeat.

We went out of town when the girls were 5 months old for 3 nights. My mom and grandma stayed...believe it or not now I cannot get my mom to watch them for two hours and they are much easier now.

My MIL has watched them twice over a weekend, and will be taking all 3 of my girls next weekend so DH and I can have some much needed "us" time.

 

Are you kidding me??? Can my kids come to? :lol:

I don't have anyone willing that I would trust with my kids for a few nights. I really wish we did. I would do it - and don't waste your time feeling guilty or anxious. Even if it doesn't go fabulous the first time, you know they will be okay. Worst case scenario is you cut it short and try again in a few months. Enjoy!!

 

As long as they are willing and able, I would totally do it. Have fun!

 

No. I guess I trust my house being more baby proof and even now my two will surprise me with what they can get into. Parents are just more aware of their own kids abilities. My parents are older so I wouldnt' want them to spend too long with them.

 

I'm odd man out and no....a night with my parents- barely ok with it and I trust my mom completely (she is the only one that has watched them overnight). I dont like to leave them with anyone--one DD still puts things in her mouth and could easily choke. But a few DAYS....I would not be ok with, just being me. I will have plenty of time alone when they get older!

They both get a lot of granparent time with both sets (Dh and I's), but I dont usually leave them for more than an errand.

KC

 

Heck yeah!!

Our parents are 1000 miles away and we've talked about fed-exing the girls to them up north. (We'd poke holes in the box of course!) :rotflmbo:

 

I'm in the personally not a chance catagory. But that is me. I think life is just to short and childhood is super short. I work so maybe if I did not... and I totally trusted the people then yes. I'd say follow your instincts. You know best. If you had to post it here then maybe you should bring your parents on a vacation somewhere with you and dh.... A comprimise until they get older???

Whatever you choose- be comfortable with it. I'm frankly jealuos of the people that can leave their kids... Its just not me!!

 

I wish someone would keep my kids that long or even more often then every 6 months!! My 2 have been away overnight from the house twice since they were born and do you know how much i would kill for a couple days of me time. Just think of the peace and quiet you will get!! You trust your parents and you know the kids are safe and wil have a great time so why not x

 

Yes, I would send my kids.

 

QUOTE(JennX2 @ Jan 9 2009, 03:53 PM) [snapback]1139720[/snapback]
I'm frankly jealuos of the people that can leave their kids... Its just not me!!


SO AM I! I hate feeling so paranoid about leaving them places. I was supposed to sign them up for MDO (2 days a week for 5 hours..2 of which are napping) months ago and I just haven't been able to do it. I start having panic attacks thinking about someone else watching them. The longest they've been away from us is 4 hours while we went on a date or something. It's very sad and I really hope to get better. I think it is not only normal, but HEALTHY for them to spend time away. I hope you're able to take advantage of the opportunity and be happy about it . Maybe you'll encourage me to do the same. Be sure to update us.

 

I think it would be great! I would do it, but can't leave my two with my parents for health reasons (mom has Alzheimer's and Dad is busy with her) and I don't have in-laws.

And I think it's great to get that adult time every once and a while. It's great for their bond with the grandparents too.

 

QUOTE(serranoboys @ Jan 9 2009, 02:42 PM) [snapback]1140090[/snapback]
SO AM I! I hate feeling so paranoid about leaving them places. I was supposed to sign them up for MDO (2 days a week for 5 hours..2 of which are napping) months ago and I just haven't been able to do it. I start having panic attacks thinking about someone else watching them. The longest they've been away from us is 4 hours while we went on a date or something. It's very sad and I really hope to get better. I think it is not only normal, but HEALTHY for them to spend time away. I hope you're able to take advantage of the opportunity and be happy about it . Maybe you'll encourage me to do the same. Be sure to update us.


OHH girlfriend! GOOD thing we don't talk. It seems were are on the same page totally! EEKK. Can you ever imagine them spending the nights over someones house you dont know very well (like a friends) when they are older of course. The day will come way to soon. I can't even bring myslef to let my mom drive them around. Although she lives 1.5 hours away. I realize I will need to get over thi but HOW?? My oldest is almost 5. This is his second year in preschool. I swear I almost had a panic attack sending him to preschool. The playground is NOT fenced in! Can you imagine 40 3 year olds and no fence. So everyone is fine and I am too. But my kids are the most precious "things" in my life how can I trust anyone else??

The 2 times my inlaws were with them my 4 year old fell and had a terrible head cut. I was out of town DH was home- my mil did not tell me. He neede stitches. 2 days later when I got home (work trip) DH was there except for work it wasto late for sticthes. AND over xmas my DD broke her toe completley, will loose the nail terrible cut etc. I was only upstairs for a few minutes stufffing stocking (x mas eve) and my mil fil and sil were watching the kids theirs and ours.. Well somehow a drum fell on her foot. and ruined her xmas terrible cut. lots of pain, $$$ for dr's time off work... no one knows exactly what happened... What they are 2!!! WHY WERE YOU NOT WATCHING THEM???

OK enough said!

QUOTE(serranoboys @ Jan 9 2009, 02:42 PM) [snapback]1140090[/snapback]
SO AM I! I hate feeling so paranoid about leaving them places. I was supposed to sign them up for MDO (2 days a week for 5 hours..2 of which are napping) months ago and I just haven't been able to do it. I start having panic attacks thinking about someone else watching them. The longest they've been away from us is 4 hours while we went on a date or something. It's very sad and I really hope to get better. I think it is not only normal, but HEALTHY for them to spend time away. I hope you're able to take advantage of the opportunity and be happy about it . Maybe you'll encourage me to do the same. Be sure to update us.


OHH girlfriend! GOOD thing we don't talk. It seems were are on the same page totally! EEKK. Can you ever imagine them spending the nights over someones house you dont know very well (like a friends) when they are older of course. The day will come way to soon. I can't even bring myslef to let my mom drive them around. Although she lives 1.5 hours away. I realize I will need to get over thi but HOW?? My oldest is almost 5. This is his second year in preschool. I swear I almost had a panic attack sending him to preschool. The playground is NOT fenced in! Can you imagine 40 3 year olds and no fence. So everyone is fine and I am too. But my kids are the most precious "things" in my life how can I trust anyone else??

The 2 times my inlaws were with them my 4 year old fell and had a terrible head cut. I was out of town DH was home- my mil did not tell me. He neede stitches. 2 days later when I got home (work trip) DH was there except for work it wasto late for sticthes. AND over xmas my DD broke her toe completley, will loose the nail terrible cut etc. I was only upstairs for a few minutes stufffing stocking (x mas eve) and my mil fil and sil were watching the kids theirs and ours.. Well somehow a drum fell on her foot. and ruined her xmas terrible cut. lots of pain, $$$ for dr's time off work... no one knows exactly what happened... What they are 2!!! WHY WERE YOU NOT WATCHING THEM???

OK enough said!

QUOTE(serranoboys @ Jan 9 2009, 02:42 PM) [snapback]1140090[/snapback]
SO AM I! I hate feeling so paranoid about leaving them places. I was supposed to sign them up for MDO (2 days a week for 5 hours..2 of which are napping) months ago and I just haven't been able to do it. I start having panic attacks thinking about someone else watching them. The longest they've been away from us is 4 hours while we went on a date or something. It's very sad and I really hope to get better. I think it is not only normal, but HEALTHY for them to spend time away. I hope you're able to take advantage of the opportunity and be happy about it . Maybe you'll encourage me to do the same. Be sure to update us.


OHH girlfriend! GOOD thing we don't talk. It seems were are on the same page totally! EEKK. Can you ever imagine them spending the nights over someones house you dont know very well (like a friends) when they are older of course. The day will come way to soon. I can't even bring myslef to let my mom drive them around. Although she lives 1.5 hours away. I realize I will need to get over thi but HOW?? My oldest is almost 5. This is his second year in preschool. I swear I almost had a panic attack sending him to preschool. The playground is NOT fenced in! Can you imagine 40 3 year olds and no fence. So everyone is fine and I am too. But my kids are the most precious "things" in my life how can I trust anyone else??

The 2 times my inlaws were with them my 4 year old fell and had a terrible head cut. I was out of town DH was home- my mil did not tell me. He neede stitches. 2 days later when I got home (work trip) DH was there except for work it wasto late for sticthes. AND over xmas my DD broke her toe completley, will loose the nail terrible cut etc. I was only upstairs for a few minutes stufffing stocking (x mas eve) and my mil fil and sil were watching the kids theirs and ours.. Well somehow a drum fell on her foot. and ruined her xmas terrible cut. lots of pain, $$$ for dr's time off work... no one knows exactly what happened... What they are 2!!! WHY WERE YOU NOT WATCHING THEM???

OK enough said!

 

I didn't even read your post or the replies, just your question...

YES YES YES YES, i would kill for a break!