Thinking ahead for 2nd birthday cake

Since we were at my nephew's 4th birthday party yesterday it got us thinking about Max & Lily's 2nd birthday cake. Max has a milk allergy and breaks out in a rash with hives if he eats or touches milk, butter, margerine, cheese or casesin(milk protein). Since yesterday's party involved everything he's allergic to: pizza, cheese sticks, nacho cheese doritos, and a cake topped with buttercream frosting, it got us thinking to 5 months in the future for their next birthday party. It was a nightmare trying to keep him away from all the foods he couldn't have, but so desperately wanted. He can eat plain yellow cake, but I was wondering if any of you have dealt with this and what did you do?

 

poor little guy! my thought is its their party... so you can make it what you want it to be. though i'm probably not the one to ask since I don't deal with this. but are you able to provide different foods that others would like? if so, I'd say go with that! cheese is a big hit here so I probably would have had cheese items too. but you can have apple slices and all sorts of other things for the kids. good luck. I'll be interested as to what others have to say if they've gone through it!

 

My son has a wheat allergy and for his 1st birthday we made him a gluten-free cake. My daughter got one too, just because it was easier to give them both the same thing & since this was their 1st cake, she didn't know the difference! I bought a sheet cake at the bakery for the rest of us.

Does your doctor say if he'll outgrow it or not? Our allergy doctor said kids can outgrow these food allergies in 6 months to a year!

 

Ellie has a dairy allergy, plus peanut, egg and fish too. I get yellow cake and vanilla frosting that has no milk in it. I think there was even a chocolate cake that was dairy free too. It's either Duncan Hines or Betty Crocker. They were born on Memorial Day, so we'll probably do a cookout again, with burgers, dogs, etc. that she can eat. I made the cupcakes in the ice cream cones this past year and they were a big hit.

 

My son has a milk allergy. My friend made his cake with soymilk and the frosting too! If you want email me at [email protected] and I can get the recipe from her for you!

He didn't have an allergy to butter though, isn't there butter in cake?

 

Thanks for the great ideas so far. Max & Lily are the week of Memorial Day too, so it will probably be some type of cookout as well. Our doctor said they can outgrow the allergy by 5 y.o. and told us to give him milk at 18 months, 2 y.o., 3 y.o., etc. If he keeps having a reaction by 5 y.o. it will be an allergy he will have the rest of his life that is treated with avoidance of the food. They said at this point there is no reason to go to an allergist because it is painful testing that our insurance doesn't cover and they will tell us to avoid the foods.

I never thought about a milk free frosting or soy milk in the cake/frosting. I just know that most frostings are made with butter or margerine. As for the cake I have a yellow cake recipe that calls for vegetable oil, not butter. He has eaten that frosting free no problem, but the Grandma's are having a fit that their cakes could possibly be frosting list. I'm sorry, but that is better than him suffering or a trip to the ER if he has an extreme reaction :headbang: .

It is funny because he will take a few bites of yellow cake, but won't go near the chocolate. We have found he fights us on things he ends up having an allergic reaction too, so we have avoided pushing chocolate anything. We also keep Lily on a similar diet because they grab each others food & sippy cups all the time and we just can't risk the cross contamination. We are really hoping he will outgrow this, but he had a bad reaction this weekend when got hold of a nacho cheese dorito. Thank goodness we have his RX antihystamine and within 45 minutes the rash & hives cleared up, but I worry that one day it might affect his breathing.

 

You can make a frosting with Powdered sugar - either Lactaid or Soymilk, and shortening instead of butter. I don't know if butter flavored shortening has actual butter in it, but that's a possibility as well. If you can't use that, just use plain shortening with some butter flavoring (like an extract oil if he can handle that) It'll taste just like buttercream frosting. I've used that for my girls, but they are just lactose intollerant, so the butter thing wasn't a concern.

Also, Breyers makes a REALLY Good lactaid icecream. I've used both chocolate and vanilla and both are good - but especially the chocolate! (I know, he can't have chocolate..)