the worst night ever

let me just give a little info first for those of you who may need some background. my MIL lives downstairs. this is her house but she couldn't afford it anymore by herself and retire. she was going to sell it and move into a condo but then still couldnt afford it by herself so we were going to start house hunting and figured we could take a loan and revamp this house. we both made out since we got a house for cheap and she didnt have to move and could retire and be able to survive. also i have been posting how horrible my DS is sleeping lately and is up all hours of the night. so here it goes......
last night DS wakes up and he always wakes up like he is scared not waking up because he cant go back to sleep. i pick him up and he clings to me like saying oh dont let me go. so i take him to my bed since i am to tired to fuss for an hour to get him back to sleep. the past few days have taken a toll on my lack of sleep. so he goes right to bed with me holding onto him. then wakes up at 1am and this time couldn't go back to sleep. DH is on the couch in living room so i sit there with DS trying to rock him back to sleep. then i hear DD stirring. i think oh no not her now and i just listen she wines and is ok that's how she puts herself back to sleep well half hour later she starts crying. i call in DH and he sits with DS i go in and DD is now sitting up screaming so i pick her up check her out she is dry no gas just really upset i calm her down and put her back in crib and she is fine. i go back to DS just as he starts to go back to sleep she screams then stops he falls asleep she screams again. now they are both up crying and now i am in living room and DH is in bedroom and both are going nuts. i yell for DH who comes out like what can i do they don't want me. so i get pissed and decide to take them both in the car to get them to sleep. me and DH start to argue because we are both exhausted we have 2 cranky kids that just want to go to sleep but cant no matter what we do. we both try to get them to sleep and by 3am it was a failure so now i am packing up the kids and MIL knockes on door and yells upstairs if she can help we say no thank you we cant do anything for them we are taking them for a ride well she says we are rediculous and if we cant handle our kids then we should of never had them :shok: WTH we handle our kids very well and they are usually very good kids. so now DH goes downstairs and they start fighting after that we took the kids for a ride and they fell asleep. come home they both go right back out.

WTH HAPPENED LAST NIGHT WITH THEM? 2 1/2 hours of trying everything to get them to sleep. oh i hope i don't have that with both of them now. i am afraid of sleep time now. if you got this far thanks for your time and i am so sorry it is long
thanks for the vent

 

No real advice here...just sending you a sleepy hug from Florida! Our sleep is out of whack here too! (we are visiting with my InLaws for a couple of weeks) :rolleyes I hope tonight is much better for you!

 

I just noticed their ages ... any 1st year molars coming in? Did you try anything like tylenol or motrin?

I had a night like that with Hailey a few weeks ago and it ended up being an ear infection ...

I really hope everything is ok ...

And I'm so sorry about your MIL! What a horrible thing to say to you? I guess after all those years, our parents forget that they had nights with us like that! Wow, a few nights with your kids freaking out doesn't make you bad parents! I'm so sorry that happened to you!

:hug99:

 

:hug99: I'm sure everybody said things they didn't mean last night because you were all tired and frustrated. I agree with Erica, it could be molars. How do they nap during the day? Does it seem like they are in pain when you lay them down? That could be an ear infection. I hope tonight is better for you.

 

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I just noticed their ages ... any 1st year molars coming in? Did you try anything like tylenol or motrin?

I had a night like that with Hailey a few weeks ago and it ended up being an ear infection ...

I really hope everything is ok ...

And I'm so sorry about your MIL! What a horrible thing to say to you? I guess after all those years, our parents forget that they had nights with us like that! Wow, a few nights with your kids freaking out doesn't make you bad parents! I'm so sorry that happened to you!

:hug99:


he is getting his first molar on upper left coming in. i tried motrin and tylenol. gave him hylands teething tabs also. he doesn't seem like it's teething and during the day he seems fine. nap time is starting to be 1 time a day and DD sleeps for close to 3 hours where DS is getting 2 hours. good point on ear infection although he shows no sign of it i will call doc tomorrow and see if i can get his ears checked.

 

Sorry you had such a rough night. I hope it turns around real soon. That is crazy that your MIL said that but don't they always say the darnest things??!! :crazy:

 

I feel for you -- mine are the same age, and we've had similar nights the last two nights. Ugh. They're normally great sleepers, so we're all coming unhinged. It could be teeth, milestones, anything....I finally had to do bottles at 3am to get them back to sleep, and I *never* do that.

My mantra is, this too shall pass....

I hear ya, though. This morning I joked to my DH that if this is a milestone thing, we'd better see some kiddos walking this week....and he said, "Walking? Heck, they'd better wake up, get dressed, and go to school!"

 

Things seem so much worse in the middle of the night. Maybe it was their teeth or maybe they were just having a rough night and probably u were all so tired (I guess including MIL, although no excuse for what she said).

So no real advice for you, but DH and I have had many arguments in the night over nothing becoz we were tired (But no MIL to add to the mix, which makes it worse).

Hope they sleep for you tonite.

 

:hug99: I'm so sorry! Those nights are horrible!!! It doesn't mean it's going to happen every night!!

I am :shok: that your Mom would say that to you? Maybe it was her frustration in the middle of the night? (because honestly, who's capable of rational reasonable thought in the middle of the night - why else would she say something like that?) I know that some of my worst nights ever I got really mad and upset and just beside myself. Things usually look a little different in the light of day. I would probably talk to her and tell her how unbelievably hurt I was by her comment and ask her what would possess her to say something like that?

Clearly she doesn't remember the middle of the night conundrums when you were a baby! :hug99:

 

We are going through the same thing. My babes are amazing sleepers. Usually 2 - 2 hour naps each day and 12 at night. For the last week DD has slept maybe 6 hours a day total. She barely naps and at night she cries and cries pretty much all night long. If I bring her in our bed, she is fine and cuddles up to me and sleeps. But, then I cannot sleep.

I cannot figure out why she wont sleep. She already has 2 molars and I see no evidence of any more coming in, so I dont think it is teething. Thankfully she has her 1 year well baby tomorrow and hopefully we can find out what is up.

Good Luck!

 

Wow! :icon_eek: It's stressful enough to deal with sleep issues like that, then to have your DH play the "they don't want me, so I'll just go back to sleep" card and your MIL being a PITA too. Yikes!

I'm sure it's something like molars or an ear infection too. I hope tonight is better for you and that you can nap with them today... :hug99:

 

ok so we went to the doctors today to rule out ear infection and he is fine. no ear infection YEAH!!!!! throat looks good but they think he is teething they said his molar on upper left is just about through and his gums look all red on top so he may be working on the others also. YIKES!!! wow so ok i have been giving him teething stuff and now i can see what most are talking about with teething. up until this everything has been fine so far. so now i guess it's my turn.

 

I also think it would be teething....we went through the SAME thing with one of our DDs- it lasted abotu a week and then went back to normal until 2 yr molars hit. UGH!

Hope tonight is better!

 

I have not read the pps but am thinking 1yr molars. I had a similiar night with DS this weekend and the next day I looked all the way back in his mouth and there they were, the tips of his molars and it looked SOOO red and irritated. I had no idea he was getting them....no fevers, no drooling, none of the usual signs that would have put me on molar watch!

BTW, you mother in law obviously spoke out of turn and I am amazed you were able to keep your cool. Big hugs to you and I will cross my fingers for your night tonight.. .. Let us know how it goes!

 

oh where did my babies go?
ok so now i have 2 kids up. this has been going on for DS for 2 weeks with the night wakings. always between 1 and 3. now i have 2 awake and i try everything to get them back to sleep. i tried the nowmal way i always do it soothing then leaving room all the way to picking them up and rocking them. i have tried giving bottles also and that don't work. they are in separate rooms also and have been for a long time comfortably. there should be some all natural drug to give them with no side effects or nothing to harm them that would just make them sleep LOL. i have even warmed up their milk and that don't work. UGGHHHH when is this going to end.