telling people the names

Hi all!

Just found out we were having b/g twins yesterday, very excited!! We've had our girl name picked out for awhile, and one of the boy names. Yesterday, we hit on the perfect combination of names. We love all four of the names (first and middle ones), their sounds and meanings. We have a funky last name that ruins a lot of names, but the combination we found rolls off the tongue nicely. And the boy and girl's names sound good together. We've already started calling them by their names when we're by ourselves. But....

How did you decide when to start telling family members, etc. what the names were? My parents were already trying to winkle it out of us last night, and I told them we had to be absolutely sure as a couple first. But now I'm really wanting to tell people, and I was wondering how you decided the right time to spill the beans?

What do you feel are the pros and cons were for waiting until the babies are born to tell people?

 

I wouldn't reccommend telling anyone unless hearing a lot of criticism isn't going to bother you. When DH and I picked out names my parents laughed at them so much that it's ruined the names for me. Not only did my parents laugh at them, but my grandparents couldn't pronounce them and it just hurt my feelings.

We've since picked out a new set of names but aren't telling anyone until the babies are born. But if you are the type of person that hearing criticism won't bother you, then I say go ahead. I'm just so hormonal and sensitive these days.... I think it's normal that not everyone is going to love the names you picked like you love them, but once the babies are born their names will just seem to "fit".

 

We waited until the day they were born to announce their names to our family and friends for one reason:

We didn't want our Mother's to say things like: "Oh, that is a nice name, but your Grandmother's name is so beautiful, couldn't you..." or "Wow, where did you find that one?" (as a the look of smelling something rotten appeared on their face :huh: ) or "Well, I guess your Dad will have to LIVE with his name only being his grandson's middle name..." etc. etc. etc.

It worked like a charm! Once the babies were born, our parents and friends were so excited that everyone LOVED the names and didn't complain (and if they didn't love them, they kept it to themselves or continue to make fun of us in private!)

 

I have learned my lesson...WE DO NOT TELL NAMES TILL BABY(IES) are here..

I like unusual names and really get tired of the comments, so for the last 3 kids and with these 2 also we will not tell till the babies are here..That way they have a baby to associate with that name and you really dont get lots of neg comments since its already the baby's name...

But like pp said if oyu dont mind getting critisism then tell whenever someone asks...

I dont know why ppl think they can comment on a name youve chosen anyways but they do and they will...

I also figure Ive ALWAYS told the gender of my kids at least this way with the names they have somethign to look forward to when the baby gets here..

GL

 

I told people the names of our girls not long after DH and I decided on it. I knew that we may get some criticism, but these names meant something to us and I did not care what other people thought. Do what you think is best.

 

I regretted telling people only when I found out that my childhood best friend had bought them beautiful personalized crystal bracelets. She overheard me saying that one of the names still wasn't set in stone, and was like, "NO...you CAN'T change the names, I already bought their bracelets..." and I swear she was serious.

I never got any criticism on my name choices.

And FWIW, I didn't change the names, but I don't think it had anything to do with my friend's response. (Although she always had a lot of influence with me...)