Tantrums

Hi there! Not quite two year old twins here but I feel like we're already showing signs of the terrible twos so I thought I'd post here.

My oldest girl never seemed to really go through the terrible twos. If I am recalling correctly, the three's were the hardest for us but nothing overly as terrible as my youngest twin's tantrums. My youngest twin seems to be quite the headstrong, temper tantrum throwing child and I am feeling at a total loss here on how to handle it! For example, I get the girls out of their crib in the morning and gather clothes for them. My oldest twin will follow me to the couch where I change them. My youngest twin will outright refuse, so I go get her from her room when I am done changing her sister. She then proceeds to throw herself on the floor, so I pick her up, she kicks and arches her back. I set her on the couch to change her diaper and she is kicking me hard. I calmly talk to her, and even her twin sister will come to her and pet her head and give her a doll but she is so upset. This is just one example and she does this a lot. She just throws herself down and throws a fit. I am at such a loss as to what to do, how to react, how to get her over this little phase a little faster.

If you have any good book recommendations or suggestions, I would so appreciate it! Thanks!

 

Yep, tantrums are hard. As long as mine were or are safe, I walk away. I dont give them an ounce of attention for it. That usually stops them. And if they want to carry on, then so be it. We had terrible tantrums in the early 2's to about 3.5 YO. They are much less now, but they can be ALOT louder.

 

A good read----"Raising your Spirited Child". I have heard it mentioned AlOT on TS and finally purchased it about a month ago. I wish I would have gotten it a year ago! It has made a HUGE difference with my DS. You said your DD is "headstrong". That is how our DS is....very intense, very perceptive, doesn't adapt well to change, very energetic, very strong willed. I would recommend this book to anyone dealing with a child who is any or all of the above.

The walking away and ignoring the tantrums works for some kids. It worked for DD. BUT...with DS it made his tantrums worse (bigger, louder and last longer). After reading this book (like I said I wish I would have read it a year ago!), I understand why. It totally explains why he is the way he is. I honestly thought we were failing him. We couldn't get his tantrums, bouncing off the wall, high energy, etc.. under control. We didn't know how to handle him. What worked for DD didn't work with him. We now deal with him completely different than we use to, AND...oh, what a difference it has made!

 

We are having a problem with tantrums too. One of my daughters gets mad pretty easily... especially if she's not getting her way. I'm going to have to check out that book.

 

FYI on the book "Raising your Spirited Child" I found it on iTunes as a download for audio book - I have a long commute and very little time to sit and read a book so it works great.

 

Thank you all!! Yes, the walking away and ignoring does nothing. She gets so shrieky loud that our doorbell actually goes off LOL

I will definitely look into that book!! Thank you so much for the recommendation!

 

I ordered the book used for 1$ can't wait to read it!