tantrums at 1?

is that normal for a baby to cry when he or she doesnt get what they want? i mean, i am sure it's normal. i guess my question is, how do i deal with it. i dont want to give them everything they want and i want them to understand right from wrong but i also understand that they are only 1.
what is the right thing to do?

 

However you want to deal with it. For me at that age it was simply distracting them with something else....if they wouldn't drop it then I just ignored them. Around 15 months we started time outs and they are just now starting to understand it. Pick your battles as well...give in when you need to and let them have their moment when they need to Good luck!

 

At one, I employed distraction and if that did not work, I usually ignored the tantrum (and also made sure that they are in a safe place). I found that the tantrums really went down in our house once they could communicate and understand better...around 18-19 months.

 

At just after 1 the frustration really started with my guys. If I couldn't distract or calm them quickly, I would make sure they were safe and let them work it out. Tantrums really didn't last too long after I walked away!

 

Right now Spencer's tantrums are because he's tired and wants to nurse, he's hungry and wants to nurse, he needs his diaper changed and thinks he wants to nurse, or because he's just finished eating a banana and it's all gone, LOL. So I feed him, change him, or put him down for a nap. Or I distract him and quickly get the banana peel into the trash.

 

Our girls have days with lots of tantrums. Many are when they fight over toys and cry out (then they look over at me to see if I'm going to do something about it). I redirect or distract, then if it keeps up I either feed them if they are hungry, put them down for a nap if they are tired, and then finally just ignore. Ignoring seems to be the best approach as long as their other needs are met and they are safe. Sometimes I think teething is making them grumpy too. It's hard to be a one year old!

 

My DD just started doing this and it is tooo funny! She carefully throws herself down and gently puts her head down and starts kicking her legs and screaming. It is so hilarious, I just silently laugh inside. I simply walk away from her and do my own thing and in a second she has forgotten about it and is trailing behind me again.