taking a trip with just one

I am thinking about taking a trip to see my family this summer but I would most likely just take my 12 year old and one of my twins. My DH would stay home with my 8 year old and the other twin. I think they would benefit from some time away from each other. (4-5 days) My DH thinks they would miss each other and it is not a good idea. My boys will be 3 in Aug.
Has anyone done something like this or do you have any suggestions. Thank you....

 

I always feel bad when I seperate them. Occasionally I'll take one grocery shopping and leave the other home with dad, but the one I have always seems sad. Last time I took one, he wouldn't even crack a smile until he was home with his brother.

I personally wouldn't seperate them for that long, but that's just me. I think seperating them is good, but at that age they'd really miss each other.

 

I don't know, I think it could be good for them. I haven't done it and wonder now (reading this) if I would do it. You can try. They'll get over their grumpies quickly and sorta get 'into' being with big brother or sister and alone with Mommy or Daddy.....

I had my DH take Martin to Sears for a car battery with him and I kept Ali (I was really sick) and Ali would be fine for a while and then start asking where Martin was....

 

Mine are much younger, but I'm doing this in October! I am kind of stressing about it, although mine are in daycare so it's not like they are each other's exclusive playmates anyway. It will definitely be weird for all of us, but I also can't wait to be out in the world with JUST ONE TODDLER! If you want to see your family and this is the best way to do it, I think you should definitely go.

My main reason for worrying is that mine are too young for me to really explain what's happening. I worry that Sarah will think she and I have run away from Daddy and Amy forever. Since yours are older, though, you could start explaining it to them soon. Maybe start splitting them up more often (not explicitly as a trial run, but just to get them used to it). And also mention that in a few months (or whenever) one of them is going to visit Mommy's family and the other one gets to stay home and have Daddy all to himself. (There must be some way to word it so they feel like they are both winning!)

I don't know much about older toddlers so I am probably not much help there, but anyway, I say go for it.

 

My family would be way too upset with me if I only brought one. I think it is good for them to be away from each other a bit, but my family would be so sad to only visit with one.

 

QUOTE(Babies4Susan @ May 10 2007, 06:27 PM) [snapback]250642[/snapback]
My family would be way too upset with me if I only brought one.


I do feel weird about this, especially since we will be visiting my sister and a couple of my friends who have never seen either of the twins. But we can't afford for all 4 of us to go, so it was either me with one child or nobody. One of my friends said "At least I'll get to see you being a mom," which I thought was a nice way to put it.