Still scared

I will be 20 weeks Thursday and would like to start "getting ready" but I am still too scared to buy anything <_<

 

I know how you feel I am still scared too. I was just telling my family and friends today not to buy anything or have a shower for me till later on maybe after like 28 wks. I dont know how to get past this fear either. I never felt this way with my other pregnancies. I never worried about all the things I am worried about now. So strange. Anyway good luck to you and hopefully we will quit worrying at some point.

 

I was nervous well up to 28 weeks, then up to 32 weeks. My cousin lost one of her twins at 25 weeks, so I was a wreck getting to there.. I think by 32-33 I could really hope that things would be okay.. Hugs. Try not to worry.

 

I have been so much more nervous this pregnancy than with my singletons!!!! I still haven't purchased anything either. Twins are just so much more stressful, and all the information I read doesn't help.

 

I totally know what you mean. I have been keeping 24 weeks as my first goal when I thought I could breathe. Not breathe easier, just breathe! I reached that milestone today and now I am shooting for 28 weeks. It's hard not to worry isn't it?

I've had various people ask me if I've bought girls clothes (I have two boys now) or other misc things in preparation for the babies. I haven't bought a thing! I am waaay too nervous. I have been working on the nursery though and that's getting harder to do now that I'm getting bigger. It's really hit me this week that if I want to buy anything in an actual store and not online then I will probably have to shop soon before I get too big or uncomfortable or placed on bedrest etc.

 

I totally know how you feel. I was scared the entire time but set small goals for myself which really seemed to help. I would say okay just make it to x amount of weeks then I would get there, treat myself to some cake and then set my next small goal for 2-3 weeks later. Fear was still there but much more under control.

 

Honestly, it never goes away. :hug: As soon as I reached our "goal" of 30 weeks (we had TTTS), I was so ready to get those babies out where I could watch them and know they were okay.

Wait until they're born and you can worry about them every time they leave the safety of your side.

 

Push through it if you can! We had our showers early and got the nursery ready by 20 weeks which was really great since I was put on hospital bed rest at 26 weeks. I don't know that the worrying ever truly goes away, but you have to try to enjoy being pregnant too. Even laying here in this hospital bed, I'm excited about my girls and have to push aside any negative thoughts.

I'm so glad that I washed and put away all their clothes the weekend before I was admitted. The nursery is ready for them, now all I have to concentrate on is keeping them cooking!

 

Great post. I am only 16 weeks and as we have been told twice now that one won't make it - I am petrified. My first pregnancy with my singleton was so easy and I can't believe I complained once! This is a different expereince though. I don't want to buy anything, but am unsure how late to leave it. We need a new car to fit three car seats and I can't leave that to the week before so we have to get on with it soon. It is such an exciting and scary time. I suppose we just have to stay positive and hope for the best! I suppose we will worry about them until their teenagers or even having their own babies... arghh!

 

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Great post. I am only 16 weeks and as we have been told twice now that one won't make it - I am petrified. My first pregnancy with my singleton was so easy and I can't believe I complained once! This is a different expereince though. I don't want to buy anything, but am unsure how late to leave it. We need a new car to fit three car seats and I can't leave that to the week before so we have to get on with it soon. It is such an exciting and scary time. I suppose we just have to stay positive and hope for the best! I suppose we will worry about them until their teenagers or even having their own babies... arghh!


Buy a little something - you can always give it to somebody. It will make you feel better!

 

I remember being happy to buy things for the twins until we saw the doctor at the hospital at about 18 weeks and he scared me with statitics on twins. We had to order the cots early so they would come in and I remember DH saying to the man can we cancel one if we need to it broke my heart.I went on to have to perfect babies who are now quite vocal 2.5 year olds. Please dont put any more stress on your self than you have to. I hope you find a way not to worry so much :hug:

 

I've been there too..I didn't start buying anything until about a month ago...

 

I didn't buy much at all. You get lots of presents so we had more than enough. I didn't find out what we were having so I just bought 2 gender neutral outfits that they boys never wore since we ended up with so many boy outfits once they were born.

 

it lasted until i delivered at 30 weeks! i wish i had enjoyed being pregnant. try to!