Still freaking out about twins!

I was telling my husband last night how I am still completely freaked about having twins. The idea just stuns me, to be honest. And it really shouldn't - I mean, my best friend has 11m. old twins. I've followed their progress as any good "auntie" would. But the idea of ME having twins - gosh! I feel like a first timer all over again. I am so scared about having TWO babies in the house! And you know, with my first I wasn't scared one bit. I was super confident and didn't freak out in the least. It's almost like I am a whole other person with this pregnancy!

Surely I am not the only one, right? Surely other second time moms with a twin pregnancy feel just as frightened?

After a year of TTC and feeling like I was going crazy with my very-active son, I was convinced that maybe I wasn't getting pregnant because I couldn't handle more kids. I think that still lingers in the back of my head. Luckily (although sad at the same time) about a month after the twins get here, TJ will be going off to Kindergarten. Still can't believe that!

No more than 26 weeks left to go with this pregnancy and I already feel like it will be here before I know it!

 

I'm overwhelmed by the thought of twins. I know in the end everything will be fine but I keep thinking about the logistics and all.....it's scary!! You are not the only one!!

 

Totally not alone… I have a very active son… I even had him tested for hyperactivity… he is on low end of the hyper chart… high end for normal chart… what if I have THREE very active boys… I’m scared because this wasn’t our plan… our house is NOT toddler friendly, it is great for entraining as it is big and open… but how do you do big and open with TWO toddlers… when I had my son I wouldn't have a house with a pool (let me tell you hard to find in So Cal), so when he was older and showed he could swim like a fish we moved to a house with a pool… now I know I’m gonna be on freak out with TWO boys trying to copy their big bro…
I still haven’t got it in my head… I even forget to tell nurses and such when I’ve had to make a couple trip to L&D… my husband is the one who says, “oh and she’s pregnant with twins..” and I’m like, oh yeah… twins… crap… twins…
My husband says he doesn’t think it’s gonna hit him until he holding them… then I wonder how I’m gonna do that….
Like the Mother Theresa quotes says “I know God won’t give me anything I can’t handle, I just wish he didn’t trust me so much”… or something to that nature

YOUR SOOO NOT ALONE!!!!!

 

I am terrified and I have had two other babies. I was 18 when I was pregnant with my first daughter and wasn't this worried about anything, even when she was born. Now I feel I will never be ready, that I will be horrible at taking care of two.

Dianna

 

yes u are def not alone! for a first time mom or 2nd/3/and more 2 babies at once is overwhelming! i dont know how im going to manage 2 babies/newborn-feeding,diapering,caring,-its all alot to process-but we will manage and so will u once u get a routine going; just think its amazing to be part of a group of woman who ge to take home more then one baby! that still amazes me!

 

I wonder if maybe second-time moms feel even more frightened, because you know what having a newborn is like. Parents of singletons always say things like "I can't imagine having TWO!" and DH and I say that in a way we were lucky, because this is the only way we know. We can't imagine having just ONE.

But, as an "experienced mom," you also have some huge advantages. Even though all babies are different and (I'm told) you do have to re-learn some things, you still have a basic idea of baby care, and you know that they do get older and it does get easier. It's my impression that moms with older children do not freak out nearly as much about the logistics of having twins (at least, once they're here) -- first of all because you don't have the luxury, and also because you know in the long run it really doesn't matter whether you stick to the feeding schedule, get them down for naps at the exact right time, let them sleep in the bouncy seat, etc. We first-time moms have to learn that stuff while taking care of twins!

 

You are obviously not alone. I think I went through about 4 months of "twin shock". It still creeps in every now and then. I have an 8 and 6 year old as well. I think it really is the whole...You already know whet you're getting into, so its even more overwhelming. But I have finally gotten to the point where I realized that stressing about it won't make it any easier. Just remind yourself to relax, go with the flow, and find the humor in everything thats coming. I think the more relaxed you are the easier it will be. (Let's see if I can keep this up after they are born!!)

 

My dh had no clue what it was going to be like. At 35 weeks along, he was really getting anxious to meet the two of them. I said they are fine where they are... I can manage them inside easy!! Remember, I was the one who was uncomfortable! you are not alone. :hug99: you are still early on, give it time to sink in! :hug99:

 

I was exactly the same, and my twins are babies 3 and 4 in my family! But, 2 weeks along with the new arrivals and so far so good. They are so adorable and cute and mine! (I have to tell you, before having my own kids I was so un-maternal!) The best thing I've found so far is that, in hospital, one of the midwives put them in the same crib. I've put them in the same cot at home and it's amazing- they seem to calm each other by their presence and if one cries the other stays soundly asleep! You'll be fine and so in love when they come along. It's mad- but amazing.

 

Already having 2 other children, the thought of having twins totally freaked me o ut for some time. I think the first time it started to feel okay was when I saw them on US at about 17 weeks. I think that was the first day I didn't cry when I thought about having twins.

You are not alone.

 

I still want to cry sometimes when I remember that I'm having two. And these are going to be 4 & 5 for us. DH feels the same way. Before twins I always thought it would be so cool to have twins, and that people with twins were so lucky (and I still do every other Thursday. ) Once they told me all I could think was, "this is something that only happens to other people". We have no twins anywhere in our family and don't really even know anyone with twins and it is all very overwhelming. I just have to take a breath and relax.

Oh yeah, and DH is freaked out because it seems like all we see on TV lately are sexy girl twins. hehe

 

Oh yeah, you are SOOOOOOO not alone! These are the 5th and 6th kids in our blended family, my pregnancy #3. Did not expect to ever get two babies in one shot...LOL. Totally feel like a first timer. And yet, can't imagine never being able to experience this twin pregnancy. What a blessing! How many moms can explain the awesome feeling of two (or more) babies playing footsie inside their wombs, getting to know (so intimately) the differences in two babies' personalities from SOOO early on...it's indescribable...and incomparable. I feel like I have been blessed to have been selected as these babies' mom.

Congratulations, enjoy the ride...it's so bittersweet as you see the end nearing. I just try to enjoy every single crazy moment of this twin ride.

angel

 

I felt exactly the same way! I have a 3.5 year old and felt like I should have the pregnancy/mom thing down, and then they told us twins!!!! It was a totally different ballgame at that point!

Just to let you know though, I had a very easy twin pregnancy with no preterm labor, bedrest and basically no complications at all... the only thing I had was pelvic seperation which was SUPER painful, but it did not effect the babies at all so I just chalked it up to carrying more baby... Also, my babies were born @ 37 week 5 days and weighted as much as many singletons @ 6 lbs. 13 ozs. & 7 lbs. 10 ozs!!! SO just becuase it is a twin pregnancy does not mean that you will have complications, yes, it is true you have a higher risk of complications, but there may be none at all!

As far as being freaked about twins and in shock or anything like those OMG feelings... mine are 8 weeks and I STILL look over and cannot believe there are two of them sometimes!!! They are wonderful healthy babies, but it is a lot to get your head around! NOt only that, but now that they are here I still worry like a first time mom... My first was pretty much never sick, born in April warm weather approaching us here in New England so we were out and about and she was NEVER sick. These guys have their first cold already and I swear I have called the doctor's office at least once per week since we got home from the hospital! By the way, I breastfed my daughter and thought for sure that is why she never got anything, but these guys are breastfed too and like I said... sick! <_<

 

I could have easily written your post myself! I'm 33 weeks with kids 2 & 3. My daughter will be almost 3 when my twins are born. Like you I wasn't nervous at all when I was pregnant with her. As soon as I found out twins this time the whole pregnancy changed. And boy, this one is a LONGER 9 months too! The shock and unreality of it stayed with me for quite a while. The shock and anxiety come back now sometimes too. I figure reality won't actually set in until the twins are a few months old (so another twin mom told me!). Just the other day I reverted back to the "Why Me?" stage of coping with this - not "why me" in a bad way, but "no, seriously, God, why do you think I can do this?" I figure like all the other "why me?" times in my life, I just WILL be able to handle it when the time comes. So will you! (Wow, I boosted my own self-confidence with this little message too!)

Jennifer

 

QUOTE(e mauro @ Dec 29 2007, 05:22 AM) [snapback]548902[/snapback]
Like the Mother Theresa quotes says “I know God won’t give me anything I can’t handle, I just wish he didn’t trust me so much”… or something to that nature


Never a truer word said. my daughters are still in hospital and as a Nanna I'm scared . how do we cope with two, how do we get around with two , how is she going to manage all by herself as a single mother . scary but still delightful ,the advantage I have found is that while they are in hospital she is learning how to look after two , feed two, change two , miss two also but the others she needs

 

I still can't believe that I have twins some days either and mine are 2!

 

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I was telling my husband last night how I am still completely freaked about having twins. The idea just stuns me, to be honest. And it really shouldn't - I mean, my best friend has 11m. old twins. I've followed their progress as any good "auntie" would. But the idea of ME having twins - gosh! I feel like a first timer all over again. I am so scared about having TWO babies in the house! And you know, with my first I wasn't scared one bit. I was super confident and didn't freak out in the least. It's almost like I am a whole other person with this pregnancy!

Surely I am not the only one, right? Surely other second time moms with a twin pregnancy feel just as frightened?

After a year of TTC and feeling like I was going crazy with my very-active son, I was convinced that maybe I wasn't getting pregnant because I couldn't handle more kids. I think that still lingers in the back of my head. Luckily (although sad at the same time) about a month after the twins get here, TJ will be going off to Kindergarten. Still can't believe that!

No more than 26 weeks left to go with this pregnancy and I already feel like it will be here before I know it!


Hey there- I was freaking out too and I have a 2 year old! It took awhile for me to be like "OK, I can do this".
But now, I am so worried about getting them here safely and healhy (and Mommy too). I've been having a lot
of scares and it has woke me up! Realizing, I can't wait to meet them! It's a lot to take in..... I know....
I just think how much I love my daughter, and the love is going to grow even more in the family. It took
me a bit because I wasn't feeling good in the first trimester, but now I'm excited. But I am nervous about all the high risks
though. So no, your not alone feeling different in this pregnancy. I think we're used to one baby and now we're
having 2! You start thinking about everything we went through with your first and the resposibility x 2 will be more
intense and you hope your don't loose your sanity! :lol: Hang in there! Once you feel your little ones move around
hopefully that will cheer you up.

 

You'll do fine! Honest! They are soooo wonderful to have. I'll admit I was shocked as well our are #3 & 4...we weren't even TTC! I look back on those days shock and then I think our lives wouldn't be the same without them. When people ask me how I do it or I don't think I could do it, I just smile and say, "you do what you have to do." It'll be the same with you. And I do believe that God doesn't give you anything you cannot handle. So, relax and enjoy this time before they are here...and get some rest, too b/c you'll need it!

 

The twins are numbers 5 and 6 in our family! I know exactly what you are saying. I keep trying to imagine myself holding two babies at once, knowing they are both mine. I have to say though, the picture does get me a bit excited! It is a scary situation, knowing that you are going to have not just one, but two babies to care for and nurture. Even for me, a daycare director, dealing with infants and toddlers all day long, plus having 4 children already at home, it is a bit frightening. Hang in there and just remember, they are your two precious babies that are growing inside you, and will soon (before you know it) will be in your arms, looking up into your face thinking, "I know you!" We are blessed having two babies. It is a wonderous gift and I hope you will be able to sit back and enjoy it. The shock will wear off.... eventually.... like maybe when they graduate!!