Standing up in crib ...

My twin boy just figured out how to stand up the past 1-2 weeks. During the day he'll let himself fall on his butt occassionally but in his crib he'll just stand there, frozen. For the past weeks I've been going in, not talking, lay him back down and walk out. Usually once or twice was sufficient. However yesterday afternoon and this afternoon I spend 1 hour 15 minutes (and today his entire nap) doing the same. I didn't go in quickly (maybe 5 or 6 times), not until he was crying hysterically. So he got no nap this afternoon (the mornings are not too bad, but do take some time too).

I just put them down early (a little past 6), and I hear him crying already, standing in his crib.

Should I just leave him until he figures it out, or should I put him down ... and continue doing this whenever he stands up again. My girls never had this problem. I am not against CIO, so I'll do it, if that works best and quickest. During the day they're seperated, in the evening they sleep together.

I am getting to the point of just leaving him, otherwise I'll continue to go in ...

Any advice, tricks? How long does this take?

 

Unfortunately, we went through this with Lauren too. It took about two weeks and she finally got it. I did it exactly how you are doing it. If I were you, I would continue to put him down. I personally felt like I didn't want her to fall so hard she frightened herself. It is SO frustrating but eventually it will end. :hug99:

 

Both of mine did the same thing. I thought it would never end, but it didn't last as long as it felt.

I would do the same thing, go in there and lay them back down. When it wasn't nap time I would have them stand up and then help them let go and sit back down to try to show them that they aren't going to get hurt. I don't know if this helped or not. I would just keep doing what you are doing and they will catch on fast. Hopefully it won't last to much longer.

I personally couldn't let them just stand there and scream, it was too hard for me because they sounded so scared.

It takes them a little bit to figure it out, but they do eventually. I think I took a couple of weeks for them to stop doing it. But all children are different.

It sounds like you are doing the right thing.

 

I remember this phase with my oldest. I asked the ped about it, and he said--"if he can get up...he can get down." I didn't feel so bad about letting him just work it out after that, but I did still go in and help him down when he got super worked up.

Reyna

 

Thanks ladies.

Yesterday evening I had him cry from 6.10-6.50 pm (I decided to go in at 7 pm but didn't make it). The good thing was I put him down and he fell asleep immediately, he must have been exhausted. He's now doing the same for his morning nap, he has been in his crib for 35 minutes and I already put him down twice ... He's a little fighter, won't give up ... he'll just stand, scream and scream ...

 

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Thanks ladies.

Yesterday evening I had him cry from 6.10-6.50 pm (I decided to go in at 7 pm but didn't make it). The good thing was I put him down and he fell asleep immediately, he must have been exhausted. He's now doing the same for his morning nap, he has been in his crib for 35 minutes and I already put him down twice ... He's a little fighter, won't give up ... he'll just stand, scream and scream ...


Yep, Chase was the same way. It's frustrating! But I did what Michelle and others did, just took a few days to keep showing him and then one day went in once to put him down, and when he got up, just left him. Oh, he screamed. But finally he got himself down and fell asleep. Hopefully in a few days this will just be one of those milestones that you've gotten through!!!

 

I called Weissbluth and he advised me to not put him down flat, but in a leaning or sitting position so that he has a choice of either go down or up, and then the chances of going up may be smaller. And he advised me, which I knew he was going to say, not to go in ... part of me agrees with that, because compared to going in 1 or 2 times in the beginning it's now up to 5 or 6 times without any results (he didn't nap this morning, just stood there and cried, went in twice though), so obviously the going in part isn't helping either. And put him down super early to compensate the lack of sleep. I am just not sure how I am going to do that with Maxine. Let's see how she naps this afternoon. They go to bed at 6.15/6.30 pm anyway.

Well, I am going to practice a little bit ... and hoping for some improvements this afternoon. Hopefully he'll be exhausted after Gymboree.

 

Hi Franca we are in the same boat sort of. Mine have figured out how to stand in the crib and though they can get down (after about a week of not and I did not go in), they dont. They are on like day 54 (just kidding) of standing and staring and having a meeting of the minds for their morning nap. I think they are plotting a takeover. I think I watched too much 24 when I was pregnant. Hang in there.