standing in crib

The baby (11 months) has been standing in her crib and screaming. I know this is totally normal (even though it's making me mental!).

I'm just wondering if I should totally ignore her for the whole naptime (say, an hour?) and just let her scream. Maybe she will realize that I'm not playing the game. Or should I continue to go in every 15 minutes and lay her down, rub her back, etc. I know I will watch her pop rihgt back up and freak when I walk out? SHe CAN get sown by herself.d

I just don't know if I can let her scream for an hour without letting her know that she's ok. Is is wrong tolet her cry for an hour? I have a vidoe monitor, so I can see her and I know if someting is wrong. I seems crule to let her scream for an hour. But, I want to send the right message to her.

What should I do?

 

hi my twins do that but they scream so i can come in and when they see me they shut up lol.. when i leave they are quiet for a minute and then do it all over.. they think its a game so i have learned to ignore them and come check on them sporatically

 

As long as they can sit back on their own, I leave them in there...

 

You obviously don't want to do it so why do it? What's so magical about one hour? I don't get it. Isn't she napping at all? Waking up after a short time? What message are you trying to get through to her? To fall asleep by herself?

 

When my guys stand in their cribs and fuss it is a plea to get out. If they could talk they would be saying "I WANT OUT!! I WANT OUT!!! I WANT OUT!!!" Going back in after any amount of time only makes it worse. I just watch them on the video monitor and as long as they are okay, and their fussing doesn't escalate to panic screaming I don't go back in. And I am very consistent about it. For the most part they know that once they are in the crib it's for good. Mommy isn't coming back. So even on the worst nap strike days they normally only stand and fuss for 5-10 minutes and then finally sit down, and before long lay down, and by then they are so exhausted they practically pass out. On most normal days (not nap strikes) they stand for 2-3 minutes and talk then lay down and go right to sleep without a fuss beyond the 30 seconds after I first put them in their cribs.

How long have they been standing? Is this a new skill? Do they do this only at naptime or at bedtime, too? Is it maybe time to cut down the number of naps? Maybe they really don't need them as often? Or maybe just not at that particular time? Some days when we have the biggest tantrums we have also waited too long to put them down. It could also just be one of those days...

For me, I couldn't let them cry for an hour. I am not sure what my limit would be but probably no more than 20 - 30 minutes. But that probably has a lot to do with me and my babies. I know from past history that if they cry that long something is wrong - it's not just a protest. Only you can decide what you are comfortable with. You also know your babies best. You know how long they typically fuss, and what kind of fussing/crying/or screaming that they are doing.

 

QUOTE(AndiG @ Nov 11 2008, 12:09 PM) [snapback]1065740[/snapback]
You obviously don't want to do it so why do it? What's so magical about one hour? I don't get it. Isn't she napping at all? Waking up after a short time? What message are you trying to get through to her? To fall asleep by herself?


Sorry if I wasn't clear in my post . The baby was screaming and the twins were being wild while I was typing.

She just started standing in the crib and my goal is to get her to fall asleep when I put her in the crib. The reason that I mentioned an hour for the length of time is because she typially naps for an hour.

I know it's obvious that I don't want to listen to her scream. Who does? What I'm wondering is if it's better to just ignore her until she falls asleep on her own or to go in several times to lay her down and have her go crazy when I leave. The crying is going to happen either way, so what is best in terms of sleep training?

Thanks! (And sorry if I annoyed you!).

*She's only doing this at nap time, and I know she's just protesting becasue she wants to stay up. She's tired and needs a nap, but would just rather play with the big girls.

 

you could just let her cry and hope she evntually gets the idea? i watched an episode of nanny 911 the other day and a kid was doing that. the nanny told the parents to kneel down and pat the mattress, rub her back, etc, cuz if youre above them they keep reaching up? lol i dunno!! good luck!

 

QUOTE(Mel G @ Nov 11 2008, 02:38 PM) [snapback]1066076[/snapback]
Sorry if I wasn't clear in my post . The baby was screaming and the twins were being wild while I was typing.

She just started standing in the crib and my goal is to get her to fall asleep when I put her in the crib. The reason that I mentioned an hour for the length of time is because she typially naps for an hour.

I know it's obvious that I don't want to listen to her scream. Who does? What I'm wondering is if it's better to just ignore her until she falls asleep on her own or to go in several times to lay her down and have her go crazy when I leave. The crying is going to happen either way, so what is best in terms of sleep training?

Thanks! (And sorry if I annoyed you!).

*She's only doing this at nap time, and I know she's just protesting becasue she wants to stay up. She's tired and needs a nap, but would just rather play with the big girls.

Sorry if sounded annoyed!!! I would say if you are putting her down for sleep at night awake and she is only doing this for naps then I would let her cio - and that is coming from someone who hates cio!! (still rock one of mine and know that there will be crying in the new year!) If she doesn't nap after the hour or even try half hour then let her play for a while longer and maybe do it again after an hour or so. Sorry if not much help - not done the old cio!

 

When my babies first learned to stand up they would cry a bit, but eventually they got tired and they learned how to sit down pretty quick. I also practiced with them during the day so I knew they could sit down if needed to. For me I have an 1.5hr rule for each nap, so when I put them in their crib they know that they aren't getting out until 1.5hrs. So sometimes that does involve some fussing and crying, but usually it doesn't last too long (except nap strike days - which we went thro yesterday). I think though if you first starting out to let them CIO at naps, it may take them longer to get the picture, I think HSHHC says to leave them in their crib for 1hour and if they aren't asleep, get them up and try again in a bit.
I have done CIO for bedtime and nap times, and now for the most part mine go to sleep pretty easily. Usually no more then 5 min of fussing if any at all.
However, if one is crying a lot when I put them down, sometimes I do go in and just check them, but that usually sets off a frenzy of crying, so I try not to (I often open the door just a crack to make sure they are ok, that way they dont see me).

Good luck

 

When Roman does this, I put a toy in his crib.

works like a charm.