Spinoff of anymore kiddos or are you done? Has your age impacted your decision?

That's right...I'm asking how old you are! Hopefully this won't offend anyone! DH and I had decided we wanted one child and only one. Of course we got two at once, so I can't believe that I am considering possibly having another at some point, but I'm just not the same person I was a year ago! I'm wondering though if I'm risking anything since I'm 31. At what age do you really need to worry about the increased chance of abnormalities due to the mom's age? So...

For those of you thinking of having more, how old are you now?

Robynn

 

That's right...I'm asking how old you are! Hopefully this won't offend anyone! DH and I had decided we wanted one child and only one. Of course we got two at once, so I can't believe that I am considering possibly having another at some point, but I'm just not the same person I was a year ago! I'm wondering though if I'm risking anything since I'm 31. At what age do you really need to worry about the increased chance of abnormalities due to the mom's age? So...

For those of you thinking of having more, how old are you now?

Robynn

 

Hi. I was 33 when I had the twins and I am 34 now....will be 35 end of August. I am considering a 3rd but wouldn't even try until I was 35 or 36...in that timeframe. They do not consider you "advanced maternal aged" until you deliver a baby at age 35. You are still a spring chicken!!!

 

I was 26 when my first were born... I always only wanted 3 children but I am now looking at wanting 4 and possibly 5...... Im 27 now and I will have more children.

 

I'm 31 as well. We won't consider having another until my twins are 2 & I'm 33. My age hasn't impacted our decision, but my girls' age sure has! I want more space b/t #3 & #4.

 

We are definitely going to have more children. We'd like to get pregnant again sometime this coming summer or fall. We have 6 frozen embryos, so I guess my age doesn't really matter. I'm 28 right now, but I was 26 when they took my eggs for in vitro.

 

I delivered my twins at 35 and will consider whether or not to have another at 38. I had a very smooth pregnancy (my first) until I went into labor at 28 weeks, I was given no indication that this had anything to do with my age. I am happy that I had a girl and a boy on my first try since I did wait so long to start!

 

Oh come on!! You guys are all so young!!
My twins were born in Aug. and I turned 41 in Nov. Mind you, these are #8 and 9 for us. I didn't go for any of those tests - wasn't even going to get an ultrasound done until the midwife heard 2 heartbeats! I had a great pregnancy, by the way. No complications, no problems. And the birth was 'good', too. Baby A was breech and I was able to deliver him. I think that maternal nutrition is highly important.
Oh apparently the French say one of the ways to stay young is to have a baby at 40!

 

I will be 27 next month. We want one more pregnancy, I hoping for twins again . What ever we get we get, and then we will be done.

 

I am 22 and I have been toying with the idea of more kids in the future. Yes, my age is definitely a factor, being that I am so young that when the twins are older and done with me, I will still be young. DH is dead set against it, he claims at his age, 29 he's too old for anymore in a few years..he doesnt want to be an "old dad", is what he says....

So I have been thinking about it and have been leaning towards, "yes more"...but we'll see...I cant make 'em on my own

 

We haven't made any final decisions yet. I'm 38 so I'm one of the "old, new mommies" on this board. I always swore that I wouldn't have children after 40 but I can't say that for sure anymore. I think finances will play a bigger part than age (for a little while longer anyway- I don't think I want to be using a walker to go to a kindergarten graduation.)

By the way, I too had a very good preg and carried all the way to my scheduled c-sect at 37weeks 6days, the dr said I probably could have gone full 40 weeks- I told him if he made me go any longer that it might be grounds for an insanity plea in a murder trial

Christina

 

I'm 30. I don't think we'll have anymore but I'm going to make the decision for sure before 35. After I turn 35 I'm getting my tubes tied. Not because of abnormalities, but I just don't want to be too old when they're teenagers. My mom was 38 when she had my sister and she said she wished she was younger when she had her because she had trouble keeping up when she was a teen.
Also, we had IF treatments so we won't be able to try again for a few years due to finances and I don't think it's going to happen on it's own.

 

Yes age has really impacted our decision not to have anymore. I'm 36 and DH is 35. We did IVF and spent a year with the wrong RE (who said I would never have children) and got pg the 1st round of IVF with a different RE. The pg tok a lot out of me. I worked till my 33rd week as a early childhood spec ed teacher with 3-5 year olds and that was hard. The dr want me to stop at 31 weeks, but we needed the $$ and more important my insurance to cover the hospital. Towards the end of the pg I had high blood pressure and was very uncomfortable. I made it to 36 weeks 5 days and the girls were 6.6 and 5 pounds and no NICU time. And are miracles and are healthy. I was very worried about having a special needs child since that was my job everyday. Maybe if I could of had light duty or had more sick days to use things would have been different. I also had a bad time with ppd (better now) and we were trying to sell our house and move. Not a good combo. I really wanted to give DH a boy, but he said that 2 healthy girls couldn't be better. And they really are daddy's girls. Tracy
1st time mom to Hannah and Jenna 5months old born 7-12-06

 

Not just my age, but DH's age. I am 38 and in Feb. DH will be 50. We only wanted 2 children, because we think if we had more it would be harder to give the attention they need and deserve. We both came from large blended families and sometimes I felt left out, left behind, etc. Financially we can only handle 2. My dr. said the chances of me having another set of twins is 50/50. When we were planning our family, we thought we would wait 2 or 3 years between #1 and #2. Instead we got 1 minute. I don't want my teenagers burying their parents who died of old age. Since I had b/g twins I think God decided I should only do this once.

 

I was 27 when I had my first child and we thought we were done. My mom and I are both only kids- my dad only has one sister. Small family all the way around! But when my dd turned 5 I started thinking I didn't want her to grow up without a brother or sister. It took a year to make sure and when I was sure, it took only a few months and we were pregnant. Then, I was 34 and had a wonderful pregnancy and delivery. Delivered at 38 w 4 days and had to be induced- the boys were happy where they were! My hubby is 42 and he is worried about coaching their teams as he has with dd's soccer! But, I am sure we'll be fine!
We are soooo done now though! 3 kiddos is a beautiful number! My parents never, ever thought they'd get 3 grandchildren!
Lanie

 

I want at least one more, maybe more (though convincing my DH of more than 6 might be quite the feat). I'm 35 and it'll probably be a year or two before we have more. My husband is one of 8 kids with a 22 year span from oldest to youngest (he's in the middle). His folks were very different parents with the older kids than they were with the youngest--but good parents to all. I understand why people would say they don't want to be old parents, but I don't think it would affect my decisions at all. I think it's like when people say they only want 1 child because they want to give that child all their attention. That may sound like a great pro, but then there are so many other great pros to giving your children lots of siblings. Children of older parents often have more monetary resources, they have parents with more life experiences, etc. And with life expectancies growing and things being what they are, if you stay healthy you can have enough energy to be the parents your children need you to be, even if you have them in your 40s.

 

When we got pregnant with the twins it was my second pregnancy and we were planning on having 2 kids so it would have completed our family...however a higher power had other plans and gave us twins for my second pregnancy so now we have 3 kids and are MORE than DONE!!! I had a tubal 2 months after the twins were born!

 

We had only planned on three kids, thus the twin pregnancy gave us four. When I was pregnant I wanted a tubal because the pregnancy was so hard. I decided not to have the tubal while I was hormonal. Now I am glad I didn't. For me, I would like one more in a couple of years. Now that we have four kids my mind is kind of like, "We already have a larger than normal family, what will one more do?"

My husband is 36 and I am 32. I think he will be the one to say no. He is already saying things like, "I will be in my 50's when these girls graduate".

I would like ONE more, but we will see.

Angel

 

Well, I'm 42 and my DH will turn 50 in March (not long after the kiddos turn 1!) And these were IVF babies.

I did have genetic testing done (not amnio) to test for problems.

I had a great pregnancy -- worked out at the gym until 26 weeks -- and delivered at 36 weeks 4 days.

Given BOTH our ages, and that we have one of each gender, we are DONE!

40+mom

 

I started trying to have a baby when I was 32, never was successful until I was 35 (almost 36), and I delivered when I was 36. I opted for no testing at all, and my girls are just fine.

We are undecided on another baby. We'll probably try naturally after the girls turn 18 months (I'll be 38 then) and if that doesn't work we'll have to decide whether we want to do IVF again. I'll probably wait until I am 39 before moving onto another IVF (if we even choose to do that).

I'm not fearful of my age when trying again so much as ending up on extended bedrest with two toddlers to take care of. That would turn our house even more chaotic than it was when I was on bedrest with the twins (my first two). I suffered with IC so the bedrest is a strong possibility.

 

No, age has not impacted my decision to only have the twins. I am 32. My husband and I decided way before Wes and Leah were conceived that we only wanted 2 children.

 

No-

We (Dh and I) are 28. We are not sure if we will have more and since they were IVF babies, it is unlikely that we will have any surprises!

We are going to think abotu it in 6 months or so! I would love more , but he is unsure due to $ not age.

KC

 

I'm 26 and my dh is 38. We have two beautiful boys and we have recently agreed to have another but DH wants the baby to be born by his 40th birthday....he is really set on this, not just cause of his age but he also has a 15yo and 17yo so he doesn't want the span of kids to be over 20years if he can help it. He says "I love all of my kids but if you think about it I will have been raising kids for 40 years! Yikes!"



Meg, Mother of Fraternal Twin Boys
Born June 10, 2006 @ 37weeks!

*Stats*
Jacob William
Birth-7lbs & 20 inches long
1 Month-8lbs11oz & 22 inches long
2 Months-12lbs4oz & 22.5 inches long
3 Months-14lbs10oz & 23.75 inches long
4 Months-17lbs & 25.5 inches long
5 Months-18lbs3oz & 26.5 inches long
6 Months-19lbs1oz & 27.75 inches long

Nathan Alan
Birth-5lbs7oz & 19.5 inches long
1 Month-7lbs7oz & 21 inches long
2 Months-10lbs7oz & 21.75 inches long
3 Months-12lbs10oz & 23.5 inches long
4 Months-14lbs3oz & 25.5 inches long
5 Months-15lbs12oz & 26.5 inches long
6 Months-16lbs5oz & 27.5 inches long

 

I am 22 and dh is 22 too. I am currently 13 weeks preggers with #4. We agreed on 7 kids with at least 4 biological kids, and whatever we have by age 29y3m, that is the year we are done. We wanted all our children to be gone by the time we are 50. Then we can spend time with the grandkids. I don't think age impacts most as much as space. We have 5 bedrooms and a finished basement.

 

I just turned 30 in October. DH will be 30 on Valentine's Day. We're thinking one more in 2-3 years, hopefully another boy (DH is hoping for twin boys).

I am a Registered Nurse; although, not currently working. It used to be that 35 was considered old to be getting pregnant, but now with good prenatal care and women taking better care of themselves, 40 is now considered "advanced maternal age".

I envy some of the women on the large family forums with 6 or more kids. Who knows, maybe one more is not enough. I think that we have at least 10 more baby making years ahead to decide. I just have always thought that a big family would be so much fun.

 

While your fertility is in a decline since about age 27, there aren't any real risks until age 35.

I'm 28 now and we're expecting our third. When people ask if we are done I say, "I don't know, I'm only 28."

 

I never knew for sure if I wanted kids and my husband had always told me that it was up to me. Well, I decided that I wanted to try to have "one" baby so we got pregnant. Little did we know that we would end up with two beautiful babies. So, to answer your question, I was 33 when the girls were born (I turned 34 about a week after their birth). We are not planning on having any other children. Our two girls have made our family complete. In fact, my husband is planning on a vasectomy in January. As mentioned earlier, they don't consider you "advanced maternal age" until you are 35.

 

Age definitely didn't keep me from having more than 1. We didn't TTC until I was 39. DD was born at 40.5 with no problems. We didn't do amnio. TTC #2 turned out to be impossible. We tried everything in the RE's book and no luck. We also said goodbye to 4 angels. Donor egg made it possible for us to complete our family and I deliver my twin girls at 44. The pg was easy and the babies are very healthy. I don't think We're any more tired than anyother parent. I'd love to have another but goig through the emotional and financial stress of a donor cycle may just be too much. I'll decide before I turn 45 in a few months.

I definitely wouldn't recommend starting TTC at 40 but sometimes that's just what happens. You can have healthy children later in life. It all turned out great in the end for us.

 

I'm 29 and I actually was dead set against not having anymore kids but I think I want one more and I think now a days being 35 or older and having kids is very normal.

 

I'm 36, dh is 39. I would go for another one by the time I turn 40. I'm not worrying about my age till then. We're just letting things take their course and if it happens it does if it doesn't that's fine too.

 

I'm 40 and DH is 43, and yes, age is a factor for us, but also I only wanted two children to begin with. We did IVF and were very lucky on our first try, as we only had two embryos to implant and both took! BTW my pregnancy was really great, I felt good, and no complications until I showed signs of toxemia and then got it right after the girls were born.

 

We're done. I have a 4 year old daughter and now my 10 week old twins. Our family felt complete so I decided to get my tubes tied. I just turned 30 this year, so age really wasn't a factor at all.

 

I was 21 when I had the girls and am 22 now. We're definitely planning on having at least one more, possibly 2... The girls weren't exactly planned, but we definitely weren't trying to prevent it, either... They're almost 7 months and I'm already wanting another one!! DH is making me wait, though... Hope this helps!!

 

We want at least one more, maybe two more, but probably not more than that...and I am 22 and DH is 25 so maybe age has something to do with it

 

I had my girls just after turning 30. Age has definitely been a factor in the decision not to have anymore. My husband is now 38 and I am now 31 and we know that IF we are lucky, all of our children will be out of the house when we are mid to late 50's. We also have a 9 year old son. Grateful for the blessing, but the twin pregnancy was so stressful, I just couldn't do it again.