Spinoff:are you embarrased by your body now?

SO I was thinking about the post in "losing your boobs"...thats an understatement I lost my whole body!

I hate to admit it but I am so incredibly self concious now. Ive only seen on friend since Ive been here visiting and the main reason is that Im embarrased by how I look. I feel disgusting. I even lock the doors now when I shower Im so worried taht my dh finds me disgusting. NO matter what i do it doesnt go away...Ive had 3 sections in 2 1/2 year time frame and my body just isnt the type to jump back. My tummy hangs over everything, the shirts arent long enough to cover what hangs over, and the stretch marks! OMG the stretch marks!

I hate going to look for clothes, nothing fits and no matter how much I lose I still wear the same size jeans.

My aunts friend is coming here tomorrow, she is 15 years older than me and her twins are just a few months older than mine but from what Ive heard shes got her body back

I dotn even know how to feel comfortable in my own skin anymore

Anyone else?

 

SO I was thinking about the post in "losing your boobs"...thats an understatement I lost my whole body!

I hate to admit it but I am so incredibly self concious now. Ive only seen on friend since Ive been here visiting and the main reason is that Im embarrased by how I look. I feel disgusting. I even lock the doors now when I shower Im so worried taht my dh finds me disgusting. NO matter what i do it doesnt go away...Ive had 3 sections in 2 1/2 year time frame and my body just isnt the type to jump back. My tummy hangs over everything, the shirts arent long enough to cover what hangs over, and the stretch marks! OMG the stretch marks!

I hate going to look for clothes, nothing fits and no matter how much I lose I still wear the same size jeans.

My aunts friend is coming here tomorrow, she is 15 years older than me and her twins are just a few months older than mine but from what Ive heard shes got her body back

I dotn even know how to feel comfortable in my own skin anymore

Anyone else?

 

Yup, it's not fun. I have had my moments in dressing rooms, that's for sure. I have lost nearly all the weight (89 lbs!!!!!!!!!) and am back into preprego jeans but the tummy and the stretch marks...oh, I hear you!

And yes, it is strange how your self image can so drastically be altered. When they were first born I didn't even want to look in the mirror but anytime I got down about my appearance, I just looked at my babies and, well, I'd do it again 100 times to get the same outcome.

I kept telling myself, I had lots of fun in my body while I was 20 somethings. I'm happily married, have two beautiful children and life is complete...and then I got on a plastic surgery website...I've now decided life is not complete until I have cosmetic surgery!

Something else I noticed, which I found very interesting. You know how they send reporters out in "fat suits" to know what it is like to be treated in public? I swear I know that feeling. I told DH when I was 30 weeks pregnant that I refused to go in public anymore. People would just STARE at me. Granted my belly was HUGE, I measured 49 weeks when I delivered at 36 weeks and was a size 6 everywhere else (well, except my nose and ankles LOL). BUT the WAY people stared at me, like I was a freak show...I hated it! Anyway, I got off on a sidenote of "image" but I'll never forget that!

 

Oh yeah, Id definatly do it again. I do feel like Im treated differently now by people, I hated going out while I was prego, not that I got to do it alot b/c of bedrest, but by the time I was 20 weeks I looked full term.
Now if I go somewhere without the babies, people think Im prego of course they do feel stupid when they ask and I say no Im not I had twins a few months back...but the babies are getting old enough that I cant really use that excuse anymore.
Its so much worse out in Cali now, maybe its because of all the way too skinny girls here, most of them are my age. I know that dh and I made the decision to start early with children so most girls my age arent even married yet. Im so thankful to have my kids, just wish I felt better about myself and didnt let it get to me all the time...I feel so vain so letting it bother me. Probably doesnt help that my SIL is 30, has 4 kids and is a size3

 

I can agree to some extent. I will never have a normal stomach.. someone here mentioned theirs looked like Jaba the Hut and I can agree. Its wrinkly and scabby from being over stretched. I measured 62 weeks at 38 weeks, so I have literal scabs all over my stomach that is now flaking off. Its all belly though, if my belly went to "normal" I would feel great!

I am fairly young, barely 30 years old but I do have a 7 year old. I have a pooch and my hips are still wide so I can barely fit into my clothes. DH has been awesome saying how good I look, but its that dumb phrase that other people say.. "You look good for having twins." But do I look like he** for just being me?

Like the PP... a tummy tuck and I'd feel awesome! I barely look in the mirror and have only once looked at the incision from the c-section.

 

I could have written your post, Cassie, word for word - but I'm overweight on top of that. I can certainly sympathise with how you feel!

 

Oh, I know how you feel. I'm 25 and not to brag but I had a great body before the boys ... I used to bartend and would wear all these lowrise jeans with tummy-baring tops to show off my tummy and naval piercing ... I remember one customer told me I had the perfect tummy ... and now it's wrinkly, stretch-marked beyond belief, and just looks wierd ... stretch marks all down my hips and thighs ... I used to wear bikinis and will probably never wear one again I know it's only been a month and I've lost 41 pounds of the 58 I put on, but to go from what I was to what I am now ... I worry my honey doesn't find me attractive anymore, I'm certainly not the woman he met ... I don't feel sexy anymore ... I'm only hoping that when I get the OK to exercise that I can get this pooch to go away and slim up the thighs and butt again. I can deal with faded stretchmarks if I have no wierd pooch to deal with. And it certainly doesn't help when my honey rubbed his hand on my tummy and said it was like "warm pudding." He's already told me that if I'm unhappy with my body I can get plastic surgery to fix it and believe me, shallow or not, I'd do it in a heartbeat.

Haha, at least one good thing ... I can get a push-up bra and show off these size "E" puppies ... then no one would look down!!!!!!

 

Yes, yes and yes. I knew I wasn't alone in having twinskin but it doesn't make me feel any better. I don't undress while my DH is around. I never thought I would ever have plastic surgery, but now I'm just hoping for the time (I hear it takes about 6 wks to recover from a tummy tuck) and money to do it one day. And, lately, the tummy isn't the only thing I'm embarassed about. I look at my pants and I think "they look huge!" especially the backside.
Well, what to do... sometimes I don't even care what I look like when I go out (to the market) anymore. Hopefully, I won't bump into anyone I know!

 

I relate to losing boobs, butt and tummy, with one added bonus:

I broke out in the worst case of acne in my whole life, by 1000x!
It's all over my face, down my neck, shoulders and my entire back is covered with disgusting, huge zits!! I've never had anything like it in my life.

Talk about embarrassing! I won't let DH touch me, I feel so gross. Forget about swimming this summer or sleeveless anything; good thing it's January in MI right now or I'd never leave the house.

I'm praying it goes away, scrubbing my back practically off in the shower. I'll be making a dermatologist appt soon, but am scared this is permanant or will scar me or something...

ugh!

 

Goodness! I have always been embarrassed by my appearance, believe it or not, and I think that it is hard for women to ever be satisfied by the way that they look. In fact, I think I am more secure in myself now then I ever have been before. My DH still loves me and still finds me attractive. All those years I was worried that no man would ever want me unless I was in size zero pants and looked good in a bikini. Come to find out that I am loved for more then my fabulous bod I finally look like a woman I have hips and breasts and I am proud of it!

 

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Originally posted by Overachiever:
I relate to losing boobs, butt and tummy, with one added bonus:

I broke out in the worst case of acne in my whole life, by 1000x!
It's all over my face, down my neck, shoulders and my entire back is covered with disgusting, huge zits!! I've never had anything like it in my life.

Talk about embarrassing! I won't let DH touch me, I feel so gross. Forget about swimming this summer or sleeveless anything; good thing it's January in MI right now or I'd never leave the house.

I'm praying it goes away, scrubbing my back practically off in the shower. I'll be making a dermatologist appt soon, but am scared this is permanant or will scar me or something...

ugh!


Oh, you poor thing! Have you tried proactive? Not to sound like an infomercial, but it really does work. I had a really bad breakout much like what you are describing for about 2 months after the babies were born. A friend told me about it, so I got online and ordered it. It worked great! And I haven't had a breakout since. It's worth a try before going to a dermatologist. Good luck!

 

I'm embarassed by my tummy, thighs and the scars on my back and shoulders from the acne the PP described. I don't know if it is my skin tone or what, but I got left with drk colored spots where the acne was. I haven't went to a dermatologist yet because I am so embarassed by it. Dumb I know.

 

I thought that I had a jelly belly after my single babies ...
I hadn't seen anything yet!!! it is a little better now, but
for the first few days it flapped when I walked YUK!!!!
I am embarrased to be naked in front of MYSELF!!!!