Speaking of showers

I saw some strong opinions on twinmuffins post. Just wanted to know what you guys thought of this.

I have an almost 5 year old son from my previous marriage. I just recently got remarried this past May. We got pregnant right away (thank God because I have a past of infertility) anyway- to our surprise, twins!!

This is the first marriage for my dh and these will be his first children.

His mom and my mom want to throw us a shower (together)

Is it tacky because I will have a 5 year old even if these are dh's first babies? We have no baby stuff because I didn't save anything after my divorce. I don't EXPECT anyone to buy us stuff. We are capable ourselves. In fact, there are some things we will purchase ourselves like the cribs/ strollers/ carseats.

My MIL is so excited because these will also be the first biological grandkids (they love my son like their own). I would say 90% of the attendants will be dh's family because his family is huge and none of my extended family lives in state.

The guys at dh's work are already planning a diaper poker party. It's a tradition for them for all the guys expecting babies be it their first, second, third..etc. I think it's a great idea! I guess any reason for the guys to get together for poker, right? hehe

 

I think beens you have some people who want to throw a shower, GO FOR IT! Nobody should care that you have another child.. Good Luck!

 

If someone wants to throw you a shower, then have it!!!

 

Thanks girls!

I actually just talked to MIL about this and she said all her family keeps asking when the baby shower will be. No one has said a negative thing about her throwing us one.

 

accept the shower and don't look back. sounds great!

 

oh, i want to add something else. my niece married a man who had a 5 year old son and within a year or so they had a baby. no one even questioned whether to have a baby shower. we did it! we were so excited for her to have a baby and didn't expect that anything would still be around from 5 years earlier. i would expect the same situation here. your DH's family is probably really excited to be part of it.

 

Congratulations!!! I think that if someone wants to throw you a shower, then graciously accept!!! Just don't complain when you get nothing off your registry! KIDDING!! No seriously, I felt like I was a little harsh in that other thread. But I really think that if you have family/friends that WANT to throw you a shower, then go for it! Plus, you have one half of a new family that didn't get to celebrate the first time around with you...so all the more reason to have another one!

 

If they want to throw you a shower let them. We had a 5 year old when I got pregnant with the twins and I still had a shower. And it was pretty much everyone that was at the shower 5 years before that. You are having twins, that is totally different. Have the shower.

 

i say let them..Showers are ment to CELEBRATE a new life or this case 2 new lives.

I didnt have 1 with my first, had a small shower with baby # 2...they were both 5 yrs apart..My baby # 3 was with my current dh and his mom threw me a shower..Ladies at work gave me a shower with baby #4, nothing with #5 but the ladies at church are giving me a diaper shower for the twins..

I think if someone is wanting and wiling to give you a shower they should be allowed to..I dont know why anyone would think celebrating a baby would be tacky...

 

Hey, if people want to throw you a shower, go for it! Celebrating a baby is fun, and so shouldn't celebrating twins be twice as fun?

 

for sure u should have a shower. Enjoy


amanda

 

People who say having more than one baby shower are wrong!! Especially if there was a large gap between kids or you are having twins, or another sex... Its just crazy to me that people think that having more than one is tacky!! Have it and have fun!!!!

 

Thanks girls!!

Oh yeah, I wouldn't complain about the registry- it gives people an idea. There are a couple things that I want specifically so we went out and bought them.

I appreciate the feedback!

 

Congratulations!! So glad to hear that you did not have infertility problems this time . If people want to throw you a shower, let them. Everyone keeps telling me to accept all the help that is offered. Not only are showers for gifts, but I think they also show emotional support of the impending births. I say this is great news that you have so much support!!

 

My son is 10 and My mom and best friend threw a small shower for me then. I kept EVERYTHING from him, then daddy and I split up.
Now I'm remarried and we are preggo with twins and MIL and my mom are all excited about planning this shower, I did not ask they just told me it was going to happen, I don't know when, where, or how many people, but I also work @ UPS pt and am a School bus driver and both my jobs are planning a shower for me. I haven't refused or complained about any of it and have found that even if there wasn't showers planned, people want to get stuff for the twins, I thing it's totally ok!
I hope this doesn't come off as greedy, but DH and I both work 3each (me just 1 this summer, kinda hard to landscape with the belly) and we can use any and all help extended to us.

 

I don't think there is anything wrong with accepting what is offered. Besides, saying no to the grandmas is never a popular move! If invitees have a problem with it being a second shower, they can decline the invitation.

 

If they want to throw you a shower you would end up hurting feelings by saying no I think. My DS is only 2 and ½ and my BF is throwing me one because they are twins and one is a girl so have no girl stuff. Plus she is excited and wants to. I didn’t ask she volunteered and I know if I said no there are a few people who would be disappointed.
On the registry front I made a registry not because I expected people to “ONLY BUY OFF IT” but because I know with twins you have to expect the unexpected. By making a list I could insure that some stuff that I don’t have anymore from DS (loaned and never got back) or that I don’t have enough of I could have on a list. That way if I have the babies early my DH can go to the store and pick up the stuff from the list that I highlighted as must haves and he wont have to worry about having to figure out what it is. He loved the idea as he isn’t a big fan of the baby store.

 

I didn't want a shower for the twins (my DD is only 13 months), but my friend had one for me last weekend. It was a "diaper shower" and a "chance to see the couple before they disappear forever" party.

I told my friend who threw the shower to tell everyone no gifts, but she said that you can't say that and that people will bring what they want.

We did get a few twin outfits, but people were very nice in sticking to the diaper theme and we have a lot from sizes preemie to size 4... which we all know will go really fast!

Enjoy the shower and don't feel guilty... friends want to do things like this, I had one for my friend for her second child. It is still a celebration to welcome the new babies and a celebration of friendship!