Sorry Mom

Sorry mom...sorry mom....

Ugh! I ask them not to do certain things like drag chair across kitchen, climb on counter to get a juice box (why is it so difficult to ask?) and when the answer is "No...", they defy me and do it anyway!!! Not safe? Sorry mom. More often than not, this is becoming the case. The flat out defiance only extends to me.

Please tell me how you handle it! Is it just the age?

Thanks for letting me vent!!

 

My advice is have a specific consequence everytime they disobey. Instead of saying no all the time...offer a choice. If you drag that chair again, you will go to timeout. Then it is their decision. Just be consistent, and eventually it will not be worth it to them to continue. At my house, there are certain things they KNOW are forbidden, and they get a timeout immediatly, no warning. I have found it helps with the behavior, and it helps me feel like I am in control of my destiny. I refuse to just parrot no no no no no all day long, at some point I have to change the pattern, and offering a consequence seems to work well for mine. Good luck!

 

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My advice is have a specific consequence everytime they disobey. Instead of saying no all the time...offer a choice. If you drag that chair again, you will go to timeout. Then it is their decision. Just be consistent, and eventually it will not be worth it to them to continue. At my house, there are certain things they KNOW are forbidden, and they get a timeout immediatly, no warning. I have found it helps with the behavior, and it helps me feel like I am in control of my destiny. I refuse to just parrot no no no no no all day long, at some point I have to change the pattern, and offering a consequence seems to work well for mine. Good luck!

MY three yr old runs our household. I'm going to try this! Thanks

 

Alex is terrible with listening, he NEVER listens when we tell him no. Recently we tried putting him in his room for a couple minutes when he is misbehaving, and he HATED it! Now all I have to do is tell him no, if the behavior continues I ask, "Do you need to go to your room?" and he immediately yells, "NO!" and stops what he's doing. It's amazing. 6 months ago this never would have worked, but I am so thankful we've finally found a way to get him to realize the consequences of his actions. And we've only ever had to actually put him in his room 2 or 3 times.