Someone please help!

I am so upset that I don't know what to do!!!!!!!!!!! My twin girls are 8 1/2 wks and were born at 37 wks 6 days. Up until Friday night they had been sleeping in the bouncer and swing for naps, occas. PNP and at night were in PNP for the most part but if they wouldn't sleep we would try bouncer, swing or carseat. I have a 16 mo. old who is a typical boy and I want to get the girls into their room to sleep for naps and bedtime and it was o.k. until yesterday and today is even worse!!!!!!!! Friday night they did well and Sat. night even better but Sunday they wouldn't nap in the crib nor last night. I know consistency is key but seriously I can't soothe them every 5 min. I will be a walking zombie. It would be different if I didn't have a 16 mo. old to attend to. We have been doing happiest baby on the block but who in their right mind can go in a pick them up everytime they cry and do the side swaying on their lap. I am getting the hshhc book today, but I just feel at a total loss and out of control. I just fed them and put one in the crib and one in the swing. The one in the swing is sleeping and the one in the crib is SCREAMING. She won't take her paci so I just picked her up and put her in the bouncer and guess what she is sleeping for the moment.

Should I keep trying to put them in their cribs or should I just let them sleep where they will sleep? I am just afraid my 16 mo. old is going to wake them up when he is playing in the living room. So far he hasn't but I think the older they get the more likely they will wake up.

What should I do, I am just in tears over this!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks for any and all advice!

 

at athat young age.. i let them sleep where they will sleep
weather its swing, bouncy, carseat, anything to get afew z's that stage only last a short while, then i demanded crib but enjoy the sleep....

i put the carseat in my bedroom .. as long as you seperate day with lights on.. and night with lights off they will feel the difference..

 

O.K. just posted a similiar topic, but thought this might grab more attention. I am so sad right now, I just want my girls to sleep in their crib. We have been letting them sleep wherever (PNP, bouncer, swing and occas. carseat in the living room) but we have a 16 mo. old DS and I am afraid they will start waking up to his loudness and not get quality sleep. So Friday night we moved them to their crib and they did fairly well and Sat night they slept a 6 hours stretch from 10p to 4a, but Sunday night they went to bed at 10 p and woke at 11:15 and midnight. Both times it took 5-10 min to soothe using happiest baby tech. So at midnight we moved them back to the swing and bouncer. I know consistency is key but at this point I just want sleep. What should I do, stick with the crib or go with the flow. I am so torn, earlier i said stick with the crib but now I am leaning towards go with the flo. DH is at work and needs sleep at night as well. I am in tears and don't know what to do. My DS had colic really bad and I feel like that is where we are headed although he wouldn't sleep anywhere.
Right now the girls are in the swing and bouncer and have been sleeping for 1 1/2 hours and have stirred a few times. OMG someone please help! Like I said the issue is that I have a 16 mo. old otherwise I wouldn't care where they slept.

THanks so much to all!

 

At 2 months I was still going with the flow! Emma was sleeping in her swing all night, and Jake was sleeping with me. We made the transition around 4 months, when we were all getting a little more sleep! :hug99:

 

I was having the same issue with one of my girls not too long ago. She would sleep anywhere but her crib. We went back to swaddling them at night and now they're sleeping consistently 10 hours at night. I don't know if you're swaddling but it made a huge difference for us. During the day I let them stay wherever they fall asleep. I'm sure your girls won't sleep through the night but a four hour stretch would be nice. HTH! Good luck!

 

Angie,
I have not read pps' comments but here's what I have to say..

Ease up on yourself. They are WAY WAY WAY WAY too young to form any habits or be on any other schedule besides feeing. They could be sleeping in a refrigerator for all they know when they are that young..

When they are 4 months old (minimum) is when they are neurologically "ready" for some sort of routine and may actually REALIZE where they are.. At the pt you are now-- it's fine to let them sleep just about anywhere. You are fine to be forming good habits already-- just so you don't have to agonize later on-- BUT it doesn't matter to baby where he or she is at this age.

I bought HSHHC because I felt that i "had" to. What I have realized tho is that my kids "worked it all out" on their own. I didn't do anything different and with age-- the babies just did what the book said.. I think it's very misleading because for ME, at least, it wasn't some miracle that took place cuz I read THAT book.. It was more like.. It was going to happen anyway.. and I did read the book, so MAYBE.. I can take credit for it.. Not really. I never did CIO, never stressed about schedules but my boys figured out their own bedtime at 4 mos old (14 weeks adjusted to be exact.) Started STTN at that pt 13 hrs per nite. I think it is a GREAT book; don't get me wrong.. I am just saying that it can be done w/o it and there sure is a TON of pressure on us mothers to FIX everything..

It will be okay. You are doing a GREAT job. This is hard and it will get easier but not for a while yet. Just give it time.. The hardest part is from now until about 12-14 weeks ADJUSTED age. Then their rhythms start to make sense.. Right now.. it won't, it cannot.

Trust yourself that you are doing a good job.. You are. Read the books if it makes you feel better. I bought them all. I didn't even need them but THOUGHT that I did.. What I actually needed was to relax and let my babies be ready for the things they NEEDED to do.. It does happen. It's like magic.

Good luck to you!! It will work out!!

 

Like pp's at that age...we let them sleep whenever and where ever!

And again, like pp's it was closer to 4 mo that they actually started sleeping in their cribs (at night only...you don't want to know how long they slept downstairs in their swings for naps!)

One thing that did help us transition (I think anyway...) we actually put the swing/boucy in the pnp/crib and let them get used to it in there for a while before we took the bouncy/travel swing away.

GL!