So the singleton mom said to me....

The other night, we had our friends over for dinner, drinks, and Gears of War 2. They brought their two month old little girl.

After a really late dinner(it was around 10:00) I gave the babies their baths, and put them in bed. (We have a sound machine, and they fall asleep on their own EVERY NIGHT now...which is a new development I'm very thankful for)

Missy's baby was still awake and still screaming. I held little Kaylynn for her while she fixed her a bottle. I tried what worked on my little ones, and then I said "Well, all babies are different for sure... I tried everything that works on mine with her. I'm out of Ideas."

And then Missy said, "Your babies are easy, though."

:woah:

I had no response.

 

:laughing: All I can do is laugh when people make comments like that to me. What else can you do? She just has nooooo idea!

 

:laughing: So true!

 

Seriously! No clue!! Very annoying though!

 

ha ha ha!! that's a knee slapper...

the key word there was "babies"!

 

Wow. sorry about that, she just didn't understand ....

 

WoW ask her if she would like to babysit them sometime

 

I would have taken that as a compliment! However, I would also ask her to babysit for a day!

 

Here's another one for a good laugh....I'm out walking with my 4-year-old (who was refusing to walk this day, and I HAD to get out of the house) in the front of the double stroller, one baby in the back of the double, and the second baby in the bjorn (fussing). My neighbor across the street is outside with her new PUPPY, and says hi. I ask how the puppy is. Her response, "HAVING A PUPPY IS JUST LIKE HAVING A BABY!" My jaw :woah: What?!?! Does she know who she's talking to? Just look at me! I still hadn't slept more than 3 hours at a time (since about 7 months pregnant!), and barely had a moment to myself to pee all day. All I could say was, "if you take my babies for one night, I'll take your puppy!"

 

Yup invite her to spend just a couple hours with them! That will change their minds! I'm tellin ya...some people! Oh, well....I guess some people will never learn

 

I'd take it as a compliment rather than an offense. That just means you've done such a good job that you make it look easy! Also, she was probably thinking your kids have an easy temperament, which means you've done a great job with them making them feel calm, happy, safe, and sleep training them. Good job Mommy!

 

:laughing: Take it with grain of salt. She's just jealous.

 

Me too! :laughing:

 

Ugh! I know what you mean. While I may take it as a compliment, I might also be annoyed. It seems that my friends with singletons think that my babies are easy, too. But really, they aren't - we've just had to be more structured, do better sleep-training, and be more organized since day one, and so the babies have responded really well to that! The most annoying for me is when my MIL tells me that our girls must be "easy babies" because they both STTN at about 3 months onward, and her sons never really did until a year or so. Right!

But I agree with a PP - I bet she was just a little jealous. You're doing a great job!

 

When I read the post my first impression was that the mom was just a little defensive about her baby. Did your delivery of your comment perhaps make her feel a bit inadequate? Taking care of one baby is hard work too and maybe she felt like you were snubbing her. Just a thought.

 

Take it as a compliment. You have done such a wonderful job with your babies and you probably look like a natural while you do it that it appears easy to onlookers. Obviously you know and we know that this is not an easy journey.

 

ITA with this whole post! I always sort of took it as an insult when people told me mine were easy as well...they never felt easy to me!

 

My husband's niece has a baby 3 weeks older than our twins...yesterday she asked me if the twins cry at the same time sometimes....ummmm, yeah......then she told me her little boy cried for an hour the other night and the only thing that would quiet him down was apple juice....? Then she told me she would trade her little boy for our two, because they were so easy and calm. I just smiled, and said a little prayer for her!! Sometimes I think I am the only mom totally freaking out, well, I guess that is not true!

 

On the flip side, maybe she kind of took at as an insult when you said "Well, all babies are different for sure... I tried everything that works on mine with her. I'm out of Ideas". Maybe she thought you were basically saying "My kids are so easy, that's what works for them ... your child is obviously much more difficult."

So, you can view it one way, and she can view it differently. So I wouldn't be upset about it. I have seen people whose single child is more difficult than my twins ... And don't get me wrong, I'm not at all saying you said it with that intent in mind. But if she was frustrated with how someone with twins managed to get both her babies to sleep so easily, maybe she just kinda threw that out there as a way of making herself feel better. All parenting is hard. My cousin has triplets. I would be annoyed if she said it must be SO easy to have twins. Just because she has 3 babies to my 2 doesn't make my 2 easy. Same goes with people with singletons. Those singletons can still be really hard ... even *gasp* harder than twins sometimes. Because, some people actually DO have easy twins.

 

I think I definitely would have taken it as a compliment. But, my babies were alot harder in the beginning, and I feel like attention to routine and structure has given us some kind of a feeling of "control" which definitely makes them seem "easy" to me... (at least, for now)

 

Ohh, wow... people are stupid. :rotflmbo:

 

Nope, Kaylynn calms down as soon as she gets her... that's what we were talking about before the easy comment. I had actually just given her a compliment about being an awesome mom. Lol.

 

Agh! Those comments don't end either. My girls are 14 months now and this is typically the age when they start to climb and get into everything. I had one mother tell me "your girls are so laid back, my boy was all over the place and my house was a wreck, your girls are easy!" I wanted to say so many things back, like that's because I say "no" and I'm "firm" and I have a "routine", etc. I just think so much work goes into raising twins that you really do end up working harder at training their behavior and therefore people only see the outcome. I know if I had just one I would be a lot more relaxed on everything! :blush:
Keep it going! You're doing great!

 

LOL!
Yeah, people are so funny! They clearly don't see the madness that is my household! I have THREE under age THREE! AHHHHH!

 

I think the great thing about having twins is that likely there is always a baby crying so you get more sensitized to it. i have a singleton after twins and I had to remind myself that I didn't respond to every cry with my older twins. My older two were and still are in an amazing sleep schedule and now my singleton is great at night. Nobody but a twin mom will understand what it is like to have two newborns at once and it really is an experience you can't even fathom what it is like.