So overwhelmed right now!

Okay... My girls are 10.5 months old now, and I thought I had a good handle on things for a few months, but suddenly I feel so overwhelmed. Both girls are now crawling, pulling up to furniture, etc., going in opposite directions all the time. Our excursion on Easter to my MIL's reminded us of why we don't travel anywhere if we can help it. Lack of babyproofing, throwing off their schedule (that's the worst!), refusing naps, terribly fussy as a result, and so on... The twins have only ever been to my parents' and dh's parents', never anyone else's house. It's just too much work. Between our 4 bottle feedings, 3 solid meals, 2 nebulizer treatments daily for each baby, diaper changes, bath time, spending decent time with my 6yo, plus teaching full time, keeping up with school work, trying to at least pick up the house from time to time, and climbing Mount Laundry, I just don't know which way is up. Gosh, spelling it all out like I just did even overwhelms me. Got any tips? I think I could cry right now if I let myself, and I didn't even know I felt quite this overwhelmed until right now as I type...

And then there's the issue of my TUMMY!!!!!! After three pregnancies including having twins, I can lose weight everywhere else but there. All of my pants are baggy through the thighs and butt, so long that I step on the heels, and they look awful, but I can't go to a smaller size b/c then it's too tight in the belly squeezing all that skin up and over the top, creating a muffin effect. My brother is getting married in August and I'm in the wedding. All the other bridesmaids are younger and skinny; I'm the only mother... Maybe I'm having a mid life crisis at age 30 today. I usually don't complain. I think I just need to vent...

Okay, that's all. Just venting, not necessarily expecting answers. Just support. Thx.

 

All that I have to offer is :hug99:s! I am sorry you are having a rough time. I can relate to most, except the working full time. :bow2: Which is huge! :hug99: Hang in there, and come to us anytime! :hug99:

 

Holy cow!!! You are busy!!! Great job with everything you are doing for your little ones...I hope I can accomplish all of that when my boys get to 10 months!! :bow2:

 

Just wanted to send you hugs :hug99: . Mine are 16 months and there are still moments that I feel overwhelmed, but overall it is a lot easier now that they're walking and starting to communicate. I totally know where you're coming from on the travel thing!! My husband worked last weekend, so I went to my parents with the girls by myself for Easter. We left Friday and by Sunday they were so tired from being off schedule and getting sick on top of it. It wasn't terribly bad, but it just hardly seems worth it. Its so much easier to stay home and keep them on schedule!! Oh, and I didn't realize until after their 1st birthday how far behind I was on cleaning!! I work part-time, so I'd do laundry, pick up, etc., the bare minumum basically, when I was home, but that was about all I could manage. I'm just now trying to get into some sort of deep cleaning schedule again!

Hang in there and vent when you need to!

Marcy

 

I totally understand about getting them out of their daily routine royally messes them up. My little guys are also only used to the grandparents and us.....they do get out some but, we do not go, go, go with them. I also understand that some people do not understand the importance for us to keep to our strict schedule compared to singleton moms.

:hug99: to you.

 

:hug99: You have so much going on, you are my idol because I don't think I would be as strong as you are! :bow2: I have no advice because I am overwhelmed myself, so I just want to send :hug99:
I hear your frustrations on the clothing. I fear that my body will never be the same...and I went on a huge shopping spree right before I got pregnant!
Hope you feel better tomorrow!

 

I could not imagine working fulltime with my girls. I would say, cry let it all out. Seems to work for me, and believe me I do it on a regular basis. I'm sure you look like a great mom, even with a belly.

 

Thanks SO much for your encouraging words. I don't know what's gotten into me today; I just felt really bummed out and swamped. I'm so glad I have friends here at TS who I can vent to at any time. I don't know what I'd do without you. My friends with singletons just don't quite "get" what it's like to have multiples. I am so thankful for this outlet!

 

:help: I know how you feel about the stupid pants--I have the same problem and I am short so I can't even find capris that look decent.

I mainly want to say that I admire you for the simple fact that you work outside of the house!! Just remember that you have super mommy power and only lucky mom's have twins! :bow2:

 

Wow, you are really amazing! I would be overwhelmed too if I were in your shoes... but you still manage to do it anyway.

:hug99: :hug99: I hear ya about the "muffin top", I think all mothers of multiples should be allowed 1 free or low cost tummy tuck.