Everyday seems to get more uncomfortable! I am very tired, I have no desire to do anything, and I feel like my belly is going to bust open. My skin hurts and they are in my ribs which HURTS!! My pelvic area gets weird sharp pains...and I have cramping in my lower abdomen when I walk around! I am sure all of this is normal but I don't know if I can do this for 4-5 more weeks...HELP!!! Is there anything I can do??? I need encouragement...my husband just doesn't understand! I don't think my stomach can get any bigger...is that possible...LOL!
:youcandoit: It is one of the most uncomfortable times ever! I know it's not easy and you can't imagine another five weeks, but you can and will do this. And in the end when you are holding your little angels, it will all have been worth it. :hug: I wish I had some magic remedy for the aches and pains, but I don't, just wanted you to know that you are doing a great job!!! :hug: :hug:
QUOTE(TwinLove @ Apr 14 2009, 10:31 PM) [snapback]1273467[/snapback] :youcandoit: It is one of the most uncomfortable times ever! I know it's not easy and you can't imagine another five weeks, but you can and will do this. And in the end when you are holding your little angels, it will all have been worth it. :hug: I wish I had some magic remedy for the aches and pains, but I don't, just wanted you to know that you are doing a great job!!! :hug: :hug: Thanks!!! I know you are right.........
You can do it. It is terribly uncomfortable and often painful. Exhausting and tiring. Yes, everything you said. I think reachng out to others going through it is a great thing. Good for you. :hug: You really are doing a great job, hang in there! In the great scheme of life, it's not that much longer. I must say I am SO GLAD you said you need encouraging and not that you wished they would come early. It is very hard for me to hear complaints about being pregnant and want it to end early to stop their discomfort when I know several ladies who had their babies come unexpectedly early and didn't get to ever bring one or both of their babies home. Keeping them growing in you is so important to their survival and you clearly understand that. You are already a great mother, doing what's best for your children.
You can do it! I know how hard it is. I am being induced tomorrow. I am 38 weeks exactly. I know that it is hard. The last few weeks is hard. What helped me is to get a end date in mind and look at that as my goal and end point. I asked my Dr. and she told me that 38 weeks is the latest she would let me go. Knowing the ending helped tons. Good Luck! I know it is hard but, so worth it.
Yes your stomach CAN get bigger and lets hope it does cause we want those babies to grow big & strong!!! Its terribly uncompfortable but how comfy are you going to be if you have to sit in a NICU and stare at your babies in isolettes all day? KWIM? Dr. Barbara Lukes books had diagrams that showed the size of a babies head/footprint week by week- I wanted my babies to be bigger! I remember asking my OB if my uterus could just burst open or split in half cause I seriously thought that was going to happen. She told me to take tylenol and hold cold packs to my belly. My babies were brusing my lower abdomen because they were both head down and the pressure from their heads was brusing me from the inside out! All your comments seem normal but be sure to discuss them with your Dr and really tell them how you are feeling as well Hang in there!
The only way to get through it is to take it one day at a time. Seriously you need to think only about how you are going to make it through the day and not the next how ever many weeks. I crossed out days on my calender to help me. It seems far away now but it will be over before you know it. Hang in there!
Oh boy, I hear you.. I would do anything for these babies.. walk on hot coals, swallow fire.. you name it. But, this is rough! Talk about uncomfortable 24-7. But we can do it! Lots have done it before us, right? The doctors are taking good care of us and we'll get some healthy happy babies out of it. Two for one :lol: Hang in there.. and know I am hangin right next to you!
The way i made it was a friend on here reminded me of how each day inside was less time in NiCU and my two still were in special care for 10 days at 36 weeks. her words kept me going and focused. The other thing is to keep busy even if it is just mentally.... if you are on bedrest type up or write your phone list in order of importance with #'s for your dh to call. WAsh up all your baby clothes now, buy batteries and set up all swing sets and equipment. Stock up on toilet paper, breast pads, santitary pads.... Start to write in your baby books NOW and I got my mom to write in there too. That way you know what is needed in your baby books. Buy some non-toxic paint to make those baby foot prints onto paper right after they are born, make sure someone buys two newpapers on that day (write a list of TO DO's) buy coins for the year they were born. Learn to use your video camera, charge up your camera batteries. Wash up your breast pump if you have one. Go out for dinner as a couple or a great dine in with delivery. Read up on how to soothe your baby (Happiest baby on the block video or book) because they get home and then a month later they are crying and you have no idea how to deal with them. And read up on Sleep (healthy sleep habits happy child) because otherwise moms come on the birth - one year thread not having any ideas on how to put their twins to sleep (heck it is hard enough putting one baby to sleep....) if you read these books now you won't have time to when the babies arrive. Being prepared for a baby is not the nursery being painted or bags packed .... it really is being somewhat prepared for how to deal with newborns and the first couple of months are the hardest. Hope some of my rambling helped. Heather
I know it is hard, but you can do this. :youcandoit: It won't be much longer until you will be holding your babies. And yes, as PP mentioned, each day those babies are inside you is 3 less days in the NICU. I would have given anything to be able to keep my two in a bit longer, but it was beyond my control. Hang in there and just keep thinking of the end result, healthy babies. :hug:
A big, huge THANK YOU to everyone...all these post help me! After a while you get tired of complaining to your family and friends...it is easier when people are going through it with you!!! I am VERY grateful that I have made it this far and YES I do want them in as long as possible but GOSH it's HARD!!! Thanks again!!!!!!!!!!
QUOTE(Kyrstyn @ Apr 15 2009, 03:38 PM) [snapback]1274000[/snapback] :hug: You are doing a great job!! Keep up the good work Momma! :yahoo: Oh man! Good luck to you. I havent made it that far and this is my first pregnancy so I am dreading that time. These posts fill me with fear because I'm only 5 feet tall so I cant imagine how big and uncomfortable I'm going to be. Seriously -- where will they go?? I only have about 8 inches of torso!!! :umm: I think I'm just going to cry -- all the time. Cry. Cry. Cry.
Hang in there!! :hug: You are doing GREAT :good: QUOTE(sparkle77 @ Apr 15 2009, 07:59 AM) [snapback]1274032[/snapback] Oh man! Good luck to you. I havent made it that far and this is my first pregnancy so I am dreading that time. These posts fill me with fear because I'm only 5 feet tall so I cant imagine how big and uncomfortable I'm going to be. Seriously -- where will they go?? I only have about 8 inches of torso!!! :umm: I think I'm just going to cry -- all the time. Cry. Cry. Cry. I am also *barely* 5 feet tall & was really worried towards the end - but I did just great! Our bodies have a strange way of just figuring it all out Keep on growing those beautiful babies ladies!!! :clapping:
I'm two weeks behind you and I know exactly what you mean about being uncomfortable. I have moments when I am absolutely misreable, but I try to keep focused on how important it is for these babies to stay right where they are. Try not to think about it in terms of weeks and instead just focus on each day. I've found that short term goals make life much easier because looking at the big picture scares me.
I can totally relate! I am super uncomfortable and miserable and the lack of sleep is doing bad things to my attitude. LOL. But I am taking it day by day and that seems to help. Something my doc said to me last week is also helping, "A couple more weeks in your lifetime is nothing. A couple more weeks in the lifetime of these babies is everything." I keep thinking about what he said and it helps me get from one day to the next. :grouphug:
If it helps at all, I don't think I got much MORE uncomfortable after about 35 weeks. I just continued to be exactly as miserable as I had been. Your body is working very hard, and even though our bodies CAN do this, they aren't really designed to carry more than one child at a time -- so it's a big strain on everything. Personally, I could not do very much at all during those last few weeks, except read, think, watch TV, and write (a little -- but that's hard to do when you're side-lying most of the time). No organizing, no shopping, etc. I found that it actually took the pressure off a little when I stopped expecting to do anything. DH was very supportive too and just kept reminding me that a) It would be over soon and b) My job was to grow the babies -- his was to do everything else. And also -- one day at a time. Thinking about the number of weeks was too overwhelming.
Wow, what great supportive words everyone had! I feel like all I do is complain too and DH is NOW just getting how hard it is to do what I'm doing. I'm 31 weeks today and the mere thought of 7 total lbs of baby in there and I still have 6-7 weeks to go, made DH wince! I loved what PJS said... I will surely write that down and use it as my mantra! I think it's amazing that we've all experienced this carrying of twins or are experiencing it together. I work with 4 pregnant ladies and NONE of them have any idea how it is to carry twins. I feel kind of alone sometimes in the scheme of things. You ladies are great...
all these posts were so great I printed them off and made a poster for the fridge so I can read the encouragement everyday!!!!! Thanks so much to everyone. I'm so glad to hear I'm not alone.
I AM SO WITH YOU!!!! When I was 30 weeks, I didn' think my belly could get any bigger, and then it did, I will be 35 weeks on Saturday, and Im still growing. My back hurts, my thighs hurt, my calves hurt, my FEET hurt. My arms are starting to chafe against my bloated body. I've just started getting these odd pains in my pelvis where it feels like the babies are poking me with sharp objects. I pee EVERY HOUR on the hour at night. Sometimes it feels like I just want them to come NOW! and then I think about seeing my babies in a NICU. This is my second pregnancy, and I remember feeling this way in the last 2 weeks, so I was prepared to feel this way, but not at 34 weeks!! I totally sympathize wiht you because I know what your going through. Just remember, there are others out there going through the same thing!! I totally know what its like tho, my dh has been listening to me say "Im huge" for the past 5 weeks, and finally told me the other day that Im getting more huge evereyday. I think it was just his way of telling me he's heard me complain enough! But seriously.. I FEEL SO HUGE! The end is near my friend, the end is near!
QUOTE(2moreontheway @ Apr 15 2009, 10:24 AM) [snapback]1273975[/snapback] After a while you get tired of complaining to your family and friends...it is easier when people are going through it with you!!! That is the nice thing about TS - we have all been there done or are doing that!! So we feel your pain and understand 110% !!!! You are doing a great job - look what you have done thus far! growing 1 baby is not easy but 2 - that is amazing! and just wait until you can kiss those toothless little mouths - suddenly all of this is SO worth it!!! It won't be much longer now :clapping: keep up the good work!!! All of us are here to "listen" - so don't feel like you are "complaining" to us!!
I'm with Tameras & Sparkle77... I'm only 4'11.5" tall. I'm at 33 weeks today & gained 27 lbs total. I'm MISRABLE. And each day it feels like it's worse... Everything hurts.. hands, wrists, tailbone, back, hips, knees, stomach and everything gets stiff since I don't really move at night when I can sleep... I'm trying not to complain, but it's hard not to. I'm just trying to keep them in as long as possible. If this stomach gets any bigger - I feel like it's gonna split..... aughhhh. Plus, even tho I love it... they kick all the time. I have two spots on either side of the stomach that are ligiments and they both kick at them.... it takes my breath away & I cry... nothing I can do.... just deal with it..... I can't get comfortable at all anymore. I wish that I could take a ride in space for a few hours to have that free weighless feeling!!!!!!! Probably feel great!!! Even though my girlfriend comes over to give me free massages, they don't help anymore... I don't want anything on my tummy now... hate the feeling. My husband is being supportive and trys to help, but he can't. I hope that I make it a few more weeks, but it's hard to think how I'll feel then. You guys are right, I just need to take it day by day also....
Hang in there momma.. I am pretty sure that alomst everybody here has posted something like this. I remember posting mine. While I am tall 6'1, around 33 weeks i had terrible allergies, and on top of being pregnant, feeling the drain of all energy. DH was no help at all and didn't quite understand. You are doing wonderful and this too shall pass. Very soon, very, very soon you will be holding your babies and this will all seem soo far away. Hang in there and try to enjoy yourself and try to take advantage of things that you enjoy before the babies come like going out to dinner with friends, movies or reading because after they come it will be hard to squeeze in activites that you used to do. The weekend before i landed in the hospital due to high blood pressure, we had gone out to dinner, and movies several times and i worried about spending too much money but as it turned out it was nice because I ended up delivering 2 weeks before i was supposed to.. Lots of hugs, and enduring vibes coming your way!!
QUOTE(Sisrea @ Apr 16 2009, 08:20 PM) [snapback]1276148[/snapback] Hang in there momma.. I am pretty sure that alomst everybody here has posted something like this. I remember posting mine. While I am tall 6'1, around 33 weeks i had terrible allergies, and on top of being pregnant, feeling the drain of all energy. DH was no help at all and didn't quite understand. You are doing wonderful and this too shall pass. Very soon, very, very soon you will be holding your babies and this will all seem soo far away. Hang in there and try to enjoy yourself and try to take advantage of things that you enjoy before the babies come like going out to dinner with friends, movies or reading because after they come it will be hard to squeeze in activites that you used to do. The weekend before i landed in the hospital due to high blood pressure, we had gone out to dinner, and movies several times and i worried about spending too much money but as it turned out it was nice because I ended up delivering 2 weeks before i was supposed to.. Lots of hugs, and enduring vibes coming your way!! Um, scuse me Sisrea, but would you mind loaning a sister some torso for the next few months?? Seeing as how you have all that extra . . . I'll give it back in about 24 weeks or so . . . . :blush:
QUOTE(sparkle77 @ Apr 16 2009, 04:20 PM) [snapback]1276360[/snapback] Um, scuse me Sisrea, but would you mind loaning a sister some torso for the next few months?? Seeing as how you have all that extra . . . I'll give it back in about 24 weeks or so . . . . :blush: with pleasure... funny enough it wasnt until around 23 wks that i looked undenialbly preggo and not just pudgy....and sadly having the preggo belly was the one thing i really looked forward to, in getting pregnant
QUOTE(sparkle77 @ Apr 15 2009, 10:59 AM) [snapback]1274032[/snapback] Oh man! Good luck to you. I havent made it that far and this is my first pregnancy so I am dreading that time. These posts fill me with fear because I'm only 5 feet tall so I cant imagine how big and uncomfortable I'm going to be. Seriously -- where will they go?? I only have about 8 inches of torso!!! :umm: I think I'm just going to cry -- all the time. Cry. Cry. Cry. I am also barely 5 feet. I am all belly. Even though there is not so much room to work with, they will find a place to go and they will grow. Just take it easy and take it one day at a time. You can do this!
:hug: I totally sympathise as I felt exactly the same way. I was huge (I gained 55lbs and didnt think I could stretch much more!) and walking was really painful for me. I basically took it really easy and watched a lot of films and TV series. It got me through the day! In the end, I went and begged my OB/GYN to induce me and he did! Turns out I was already 2cm dilated so I was already on my way! Everyone told me the longer they stayed in me the better for them and this is oh-so true. This thought helped me get through the last few weeks. You can do it momma, hang in there! It´s all oh-so worth it in the end
What helped me was to set goals. At first I had to make it to 35 weeks, then I had my baby shower at 36 weeks, so I had to make it that long. My last goal was my induction date, and I made it to that! My twins were 7lbs and 7.3 lbs. We spent 36 hours in the hospital, and they roomed with me the entire time. It's hard those last few weeks, but it's so worth it.
:hug: Hang in there Momma! Like other posters said, I focused on my goals, I wanted to keep the twinkies cooking as long as I could. In the final weeks of pregnancy, my DH picked up a lot of the slack for me. I kept my feet up (they would swell terrible), took lots of naps and just tried to relax as much as I could.
