So mad at myself

Okay, I totally didn't know that Autumn had fallen and hurt herself, I thought she was screaming because her sister came over to her. And I told her to get over it and walked away to let her figure it out herlsef. I have been so stressed the last couple days I just can't take much more at this point..So I go back when she starts screaming louder, she had pulled up on the highchair earlier today and I moved her so she wouldnt fall. I went to get her and the side of her face is bright red...she had to have fallen and hit her head. At that point I comforted her, but how horrible am I? Jeez...she was hurting. I don't like the way I do things sometimes, but sometimes I am so tired I just want to scream....

 

:hug99: s, sounds like you need a break! A couple of hours to yourself can do wonders! :hug99:

 

Just catch your breath.....it does not make you a bad mother. We all have days (or weeks) that are just plain rough. She knows you love her and once it clicked in your head she was hurt you did what any mother does ...love and comfort. :hug99:

 

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:hug99: s, sounds like you need a break! A couple of hours to yourself can do wonders! :hug99:


I have to agree with Becky, don't be to hard on yourself. :hug99:

 

:hug99: It's all right. If you KNEW she was hurt and told her to get over it, that would be different. You did the best you could.

 

You are not a bad mum, you are a mum who needs rest!! I am guilty of doing that too. The has been a couple of times when dd has been crying/whinging that i have just sat her up and say oh your fine, as she cries ALOT. Only to realise that she has bumped herself. But when i realise she is hurt i always give her a cuddle and make her better. You didnt leave her after you realised she was hurt, you went and huggeed her and made her better. Big :hug99: to you x

 

We have all done things, that we later regret, it certainly does not make you a bad mom. Thats just what moms do, we have so many things to worry about. Take it easy for a bit, and try to get some rest, tomorrow will be another day!! :hug99:

 

We have all done stuff like that before. Don't be so hard on yourself.

 

I agree with everyone else, and I've done the same thing before too. It makes you feel bad, but we aren't perfect! :hug99:

 

don't beat yourself up so bad!! we have all done that kind of thing
(she is young enough that she didn't take it personally!! nor does she remember!!!) take some "you" time if it is just 5 extra minutes in the shower - you are a great mother - the stress is what is bad!!!

 

Seriously, many many mothers have been through the same thing! It does not make you a bad mommy!!!! When Lorien was 4 months old, I had put her and her sister in the bouncy seats. I was in the other room doing something and I heard her crying. But, she was a cryer. She was always crying so I just said from the other room, It's ok Lorien, I'll be there in a minute. I just thought she was being her fussy self. When the crying got harder, I went in to check on her and OH MY GOD!!! She had wiggled her way out of her bouncy chair (I didn't used to buckle them in...until after this incident). She was lying on the floor with her head resting between the base of the bouncy and the entertainment center. I was MORTIFIED!!! I felt aweful. Even posted about it here. I felt like such a schmuck. She turned out to be ok but I'm sure it hurt her and I have learned to recognize when a whine is a whine and when it is something more serious. We all beat ourselves up at one point or another. For me, it was a lesson learned. BUCKLE THEM INTO EVERYTHING!!! Just be glad she is ok and let it be a lesson learned (one of many to come for us all, I'm sure )