Angelo has had the runs for the last week or so. I couldn't figure out what it could possibly be. He's been switched over to whole milk for a month now, so it couldn't be that. Everyone treats Angelo a little different that Anthony on a count of his heart surgery back in September, so he's still treated like that fragile miracle baby which is still understandable. I get a little upset though because my family is all over Angelo and Anthony is just kind of 'that' baby. Anyways, getting a little side tracked. I was talking to mom who takes the twins or one or the other every now and then. She took Angelo for a few days when the runs first started. We got into a conversation yesterday about whole milk and I wanted just to make sure we were on the same page. Then she throws me a fast ball and tells me, "OHHH, BOB (step-dad) GIVES THE BABY FORMULA EVERY ONCE IN AWHILE BECAUSE IT CALMS HIM DOWN." Can you understand why I'm so livid?! Their suppose to be on WHOLE MILK STRICTLY, not a combo - no wonder the kids bowels are all messed up. And for her just to go ahead without any knowledge of me knowing has sent me off the edge. It makes me not feel comfortable for her own grandchildren to go over there! God knows what else she does. It's not that easy for me just to sit her down and tell her because it just goes in one ear and out the other.. UGH JUST A VENT!!!
:hug: Yes, grandparents don't seem to think that mommy rules apply to them. :hug: Sorry. I hope all of you are on the same page now. Juice is the big thing with my mom.
I'm sorry. :hug: It really upsets me to hear grandparents not respecting parent's word on child care ussues. IT feels very disrespecful to me. I know this doesn't make it any better but you are not alone. :hug:
I'd be mad too that step grandad gave Angelo something you didn't know about. You should have a talk with both your mom and her husband about how important it is for you to know what's happening. Write down a list of dos and don'ts if you think that will help. If you set out your expectations, it's a lot easier to explain why you're mad. About the formula, though... is it possible you're overreacting just a bit? I mean, she knew that Angelo had formula before, and it's not like babies can no longer digest formula the day after they turn one. So perhaps she had no idea you'd be as upset as you are. Many babies have both formula and whole milk for weeks as part of the transition and have no digestive issues. If I was you, I'd keep looking for the source of the runs. He's only been on milk for a month, so it could still be that. Edited because I can't spell!
Ugh! Oh I would be mad as can be too! I hope you can make them understand that they need to stick to the milk. Dianna
I have to agree you seem to be over reacting a bit. Like a PP stated maybe they thought it was ok since he's had formula plenty of times before. If you had given them explicit instructions not to do that then yes I would be pissed but it sounds like an honest mistake(and not a terrible one either). Just explain calmly why you don't want them to have formula and they will most likely never do it again. I guess if she doesn't listen to your instructions and you don't trust her then the answer is simple. Don't let her help out anymore. But if she is helpful to you and the babies are not in harms way we sometimes have to bite our tongues a bit. My mom helps A LOT with my boys and does things I wouldn't do but if she is helping I have to pick my battles. Of course I tell he when things bother me or things I don't like but i try not to get pissed about it. Afterall she is just trying to help me out and not doing things to be malicious.
:hug: I'm SO sorry about that. It would make me mad as well. <_< I'm not sure why grandparents do what they do sometimes. I understand they raised us and all, but they sometimes forget that we're the parents and what we want comes first. :hug:
I watch my friend's baby who is currently 14 months, he gets milk in his cups all day but still gets formula in his bottle at bed time. It hasn't effected his bowels at all (certainly all children are different just sharing my experience). I wouldn't stress the thing with your mom, you said yourself you wanted to go over the milk thing just to make sure you were on the same page, maybe she needed that because she didn't understand? I don't think this one thing would cause me to be uncomfortable with her caring for the children (just basing on this one thread, obviously we don't know anything more about the relationship).
