I'm getting very irritated here. I'm at a loss on what to do. Anytime someone has food, Gavin is at their feet screaming for some. I mean crying, hissy fit type screaming. It doesn't matter if it is actually time to eat or if he finished eating five minutes before (and yes he gets enough). He has pretty much been on table foods (eats what I cook) for a month. Beacuse of this I don't get to eat in peace. I really can't eat at the same time as them, because I still have to feed them if a spoon or fork is required. I tend to eat either really late, or in a rush because he is busy and doesn't notice I'm scarfing food down. Honestly I think he would eat all day if I let him. I try nit to feed them between meals, other than an afternoon snack. Every once in a while they may get a graham cracker while I'm cooking, or puffies. Allison doesn't eat like he does. When she is full, she quits eating and doesn't beg for food. How do I get him to stop these tantrums for food? He is to young for time out (11mths). Do I just have to listen to it? Oh and how do I deal with his hissy fits when I walk out of the room? He freaks out if I walk from the living room to the kitchen (I have an open floor plan, he can still see me).
When it is meal time for him and you want to eat have you considered just letting him feed himself, whatever it may be? Yeah it will be a little messy, but he may enjoy being able to feed him for himself and pick and choose what he wants. My twins are 8 months old and although I don't do a huge range of food with them yet but what they do eat they feed themselves. I did baby led weaning and they love it. I give them fruits and veggies and meats in "strips" that they can hold and chew on for themselves and anything else I just put on their try (occasionally I have to help). I know everyone is not comfortable with that type of feeding, but thought I would throw it out there. I guess it depends on how much you want to clean up and if that would stress you out more. But you easily could get 30-45 min. of them hanging out in a high chair eating and you can clean in kitchen or read newspaper or something relaxing (if possible) sorry I don't have much advice on the whining and begging for food, I am not quite there yet. Good luck! Remember it won't last forever!
I don't think I ever ate a meal with the family until the girls began eating by themselves, and even then, my meal was rushedor cold by the time I was able to finish . I honestly think that is just part of it and you just have to deal with the fact that as a mommy, you just get the wrong end of the deal most times. It probably wasn't until they were 4 that I actually got to sit down and eat like a normal human being. As far as your DS begging for food, I think you just keep consistent and redirect if you don't want this type of behavior. You will have to do it a million times and you will feel like it isn't getting through to him, but the best way I have found to deter unwanted behavior is to stay consistent and to ignore. Pretend like you don't hear him or just keep saying no. I will tell you, however, something my ped told me to do. He told me to keep a bowl of healthy snacks out for my girls to eat whenever they wanted. Cheese squares, crackers, grapes, whatever I had on hand that they could nibble on throughout the day. He said they are growing and often times just need that extra snack. Maybe you could try that and see how that works for him so that when he wants your food you could direct him to his bowl instead.As far as his fits when leaving the room, again I say ignore and do what you need to do. He won't suffer from it and you shouldn't feel any quilt over it. You can't be at his beckoning call 24/7 and the quicker he learns that, the better off you and he will both be. Just tell him I'll be back and leave. He'll get over it and be just fine.
We have the same problem with both our boys, both with the eating and the crying when we leave the room. I either eat when or where they can't see me, or I just put up with the whining. And sometimes I just have to leave the room to go to the bathroom or whatever, you know? So I don't have any good advice, just wanted you to know you are not alone!
Thanks ladies. I know I need to ignore him, and that's what I do, but it is aggrivating to have him scream when I'm eating. Which is why I don't eat until either naps/bedtime or when I'm "in hiding". The leaving the room isn't that bad, it's just a phase (I hope). Once they can use spoons and forks on their own maybe te eating will get better. Just like everything else, patience and time.
If he is throwing those big fits, I would set up the pnp by the kitchen and stick him in there when ever he is throwing fits. Then he can still see you but won't be under your feet and in your way. I would let him self feed a lot at meals and keep feeding until he won't eat any more. Then I would feed morning and afternoon snacks and nothing between meals. It is hard, good luck.
Went through this with the boys and going through it now with Hannah. I think they are just curious and honestly none of mine ever ate enough to ruin snacks or meals so I just give them bites of my food to keep them calm. Usually after a few bites they went away to play anyways. Sucks that my meals aren't always in "peace" but who am I kidding...there isn't much of that around here anyways;-) Can he get to the kitchen to see you or is he gated off? Hannah is much better about me leaving the room bc she is not gated in like the boys were at her age so she knows she can just follow me if she wants.
I hide in the hallway to eat my poptarts. :FIFblush: I agree about letting them self feed as much as possible. The only time I ever get to eat in peace is during naps, but that is just part of life and I'm OK with it.
