So frustrated!

I am increasingly frustrated with family members who invite us to events that are clearly not baby-friendly events and expect us to go!! So far this month there has been a dinner/dance type fund-raiser, a haunted hayride (that started at 8pm), lunch at a buffet restaurant (way too hard with 2 7 month old babies!), and out-of-town family reunion, fellowship suppers at church (after we've been there 1.5 hrs already for service or meetings), etc. I am EBF and so I can't leave the babies with a sitter to go to these things.

Anyone have similar frustrations??? I am glad to be included, but I feel bad saying no all the time! There are some family members that don't seem to understand that there are some things we just can't do very easily with the babies! They always say "you can bring the girls"! Sometimes it is just easier on everyone to stay home. I hate the pressure to do these things and the guilt trip I get when I decline!!
KWIM??

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Yes, I do know that frustration but at the end of the day you have to think about what is best for you and your family. :good: They might get a bit upset but it'll pass and they have no choice but to understand that some gatherings will have to wait until the babies are bigger. :hug:

 

I agree, you have to stand by your convictions and do what's best for your family. Everyone else may not understand, but they are sooooo much less important than the health of your babies (they need sleep to grow) and your sanity. Remember, it seems like a long time till they'll be old enough for this stuff, but they really grow up so fast. It's going to be a blink of an eye and they'll be old enough to be more flexible.

 

You have to do what's right for you & your family. Just explain that it's too difficult at this age & if they don't understand, there really isn't any more you can do. Most of them will probably understand & just want you to feel included, which is a good thing. :hug:

 

I know this feeling all too well. But some things are just harder to do with a baby, much less two babies. Add in breastfeeding on top of that and you are limited to what you can and can't do. Don't feel bad, go when you can and don't worry about it when you can't. Your friends and family should be applauding your efforts, respecting your limits and for breastfeeding exclusively. All of those events will happen again but your babies will only be this age once. Do what works for YOU and YOUR family.

 

try not to let it bother you, untell people have been in are shoes they will never understand, i thought it was going to be just as easy as my singeltons, lol was i wrong, never thought about opening a door with 2 car seats in my hand. smile they are only young & cute for so long

 

:hug: I understand your frustration. Sometimes ppl don't realize just how much is required of you when you have two babies.. and especially EBF. I'm sure most ppl who invite you to events will understand if you cannot make it to everything. Your little ones are still very young and it's good that you're thinking of your family first. It will get easier to go places and do more things once they are a little older.

Hang in there mama!

 

I completely understand and feel the same frustrations. My family was taking quizzes on facebook about each other and my mom made a comment on mine that she would have gotten more questions right if "we came around more often." She lives over an hour away and has seen the babies 3 times since they were born. She also wants to babysit, but wants us to bring the babies to her. If we go anywhere, it is going to be close to home and I am not going to drive an hour to take them so she can babysit. She is more than welcome to come up here to babysit. I have also had family ask me if I am able to get out of the house during the week, like to the mall or some shopping...are you kidding me!! By the time I fed them, changed them, and got them settled it would be time to do it all over again. My sister has a baby that is 3 months older than our boys and I think my family looks at her just taking her kid anywhere so they think that it can't be that much more difficult with two...I have a big wake up call for them!

 

I feel the exact same way! I just don't bring them or don't go! After you've said no for so long you won't mind it as much.