so frusterated! modified bedrest.

So I was released on modified bedrest where I'm not supposed to do much around the house, I can get up to the couch and bathroom, I can go outside if I sit down and put my feet up.

Well my MIL heard the nurse say that and that I'm not allowed to go shopping at Wal-mart and whatnot. She took the liberty of telling my dh that I'm basically not allowed to go to wal-mart!! As if I'm not having enough trouble with him being lazy around the house, he will cook but leave all the dishes for a couple days sitting there. This morning he wanted me to help him cook. I'm trying really hard to do the bedrest deal but everyone around here seems to expect me to still do normal things but just sit a lot, which basically what I was doing before I ended up in the hospital!!

I'm so frusterated now, I ended up doing all the dishes that he left cause he's been gone to a work party today. I'm just not sure what I'm really supposed to do, and I end up crying, like now.

I actually wish that they would just put me on hospital bedrest so I wouldn't have to deal with all this. I feel selfish for saying that esp since I have my little boy who needs me.

I really needed to get this out.

 

When is your next Dr. visit? I would ask your doctor for a written note stating that you are only allowed to get up to go to the bathroom (I did this to get out of sex...shhh...that's a secret).

BTW: Congrats on hitting the 33 week mark!!! YEAH!!

 

My next appt is on Monday. That's a good idea about the note. Its ridiculous that it would even come to that.

That's pretty funny that you had to get a note to get out of sex.

 

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When is your next Dr. visit? I would ask your doctor for a written note stating that you are only allowed to get up to go to the bathroom (I did this to get out of sex...shhh...that's a secret).

BTW: Congrats on hitting the 33 week mark!!! YEAH!!


I actually second this! My doctor's office offered to write me a note for home when they put me on modified bedrest! They said they wanted it to be clear to everyone around me what I was, and was, not allowed to do.

 

Hiya

I've been put on rest as well after a hospital visit. All because when i start walking around my stomach gets itself in a knot and contiunes to stay tight. It just gets tighter and tighter until i sit in recliner or lie down. The Ob said that it could be very painful BH or it could be nothing or it could be something serious. So he told me i needed to go on rest at home or they will put me on bedrest in the hospital.

The problem is, i have three boys 7, nearly 5 and a 16mth old. The older ones i home school. I also feel because everyone (family etc) wasn't with me at the ob's they don't really get it. My DH does as much as he can, but i still do alot, i just have to. My MIL offered to watch the older boys at her house if they got to much but that's it.

So i sit as much as i can, and i still have a house to organise, children to watch, feed etc and a 16mth who really needs me. Its hard going and i'm feeling frustrated as well and i'm only just gone 25 weeks.

Angel

 

Hi, this is the first time I've visited this forum. I was on home bedrest for two months before I had my girls--luckilly my family DID get it but the first thing that struck me when I read your post was similar to what others said about getting a note from your doc. If you explain to him what's going on and if you're serious about wanting to be in the hospital (for your babies' health, of course) maybe he could "order" it.

Hospital bedrest will be difficult but the longer you can keep them in, the better it will be once they're here.

 

My docs told me that if your situation at home is that hard, they will put you on hospital bedrest. That's terrible that your DH is being so unsupportive. Doesn't he realize how serious this is? I'm glad my DH had the bejeebers scared out of him. . . besides, the other thing is that you just need to steel your nerves against the unsupportive folks including your DH. Totally ignore their whinyness and pour out your resting energy into having healthy babies. That's your job for the temporary moment. Sometimes, people have to realize the crutch is not there in order for them to stand up on their own.

Take care of those babies! (And when I say babies, that doesn't include your DH, haha!)

And oh yeah, keep your sense of humor too, if you can!