so excited...and feeling a little crazy

So dh and I have decided to start trying for another baby. My boys turned 2 in Nov. I'm really excited, but feeling a bit scared!
We went through ivf for the boys so we don't know if we'll even be able to get pregnant.

Part of me wonders if I'll be able to handle it...will I have enough love, time and energy.
will be able to get out of the house? It's hard now to keep tabs on them, wont it get worse? I am assuming that between 3-4 they get more independent? Am I too old? I'll be 38 in*June.

The other part KNOWS that this is what I'm good at! I love being a mommy! I work 2 days a week, so i'll be home most of the time. The boys will be starting preschool in November...

Ok, the ultimate question...Can I handle this?
would love to hear your experiences and perspectives!

 

:babyflips:YAY! That's very exciting, Rebecca! :babyflips:


You can leave the house with three...I promise. :lol: It does create a scene at times, but you are already used to twin comments. I'll warn you - if you have another boy at least 3 people will have to coment on the fact that you have all boys every where you go. But you will feel blessed either way - so it's all good!!

As far as the running off two different directions, I found that to be the worst between 2 & 3, so it should be calming down by the time the baby comes.

 

:yahoo: Rebecca!
I have no experience with 3 children, just the two. I just wanted to wish you and your DH all the best and I know :youcandoit:

 

:clapping: For all the craziness 3 kids bring, you won't believe the amount of joy and excitement it also brings! I absolutely love having 3 kids - even on the day I want to pull all of my hair out and lock myself in a closet! :laughing: I wouldn't trade it for the world! :wub:

You can definitely get out and about with 3 kids - there are some stressful moment, but heck - you are used to getting out and about with twins - an added singleton will be no big deal. And I agree with Sheryl, if you have another boy, be prepared for all of the (obnoxious) comments that having 3 of a kind brings.

Go for it! :youcandoit:

 

Wooohoooo!!!!

I will also chime in.

My boys were 19 months old when Annabella came along. I would not change it for anything!!! :wub: I love how extremely close they all are. They have their moments, sure, but they really truly get along wonderfully. She adores them to pieces! Their names are the first thing she says when she wakes in the morning! :wub:

And like Jori, there may be days I want to pull my hair out, but I love having the three of them. I can't imagine it any other way. And as Annabella's due date came closer and closer, I was SO worried about her birth, and me turning the boys life upside down, etc. I felt awful! Like what was I doing to my boys, ya know?!? But I would do it again in a heartbeat!

And I think you will get out and about with no problem. I have done music class with all three(when she was still in her carrier), library(carrier still), zoo, parks, grocery stores, mall(the boys are not in a stroller anymore). And I've even ventured out to lunch-SOLO-with all three of them. If you let it stop you-it will. You can do it.

And I'm taking on my friend's infant three days a week. I'm trying to figure out the logistics of taking four kids three and under out! :laughing:

Go for it. It will be an amazing experience!

 

You can totally handle it!!! I wish you the best of luck conceiving quickly and I am sending you tons of baby dust! ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~**~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*

also, you are NOT too old!!! and you will have enough love, time and energy!! once the little one arrives, you won't be able to imagine life without him/her!! You will have moments of like someone else so wonderfully put it, where you want to pull your hair out and lock yourself in a closet! but at the end of the day, it will all be worth it!

 

Thank you all so much for your amazing words! I really needed to hear them! I'm not sure if any of you had visions of what your family would 'look' like...I always said I would never had an odd number of kids (I was #5 of 5) and my sisters were so much older...that I kind of got lost, until recently where we all now are pretty close. It's amazing how that has just changed!

What's really amazing is how much my dh has fully embrased this idea! He wasn't this excited when we were trying for the boys. He had been against it for so long...then after talking he said he realized he was just scared and he didn't feel our family was complete...I am thrilled!

Thank you all again so much for your encouragement!
Rebecca

 

I don't have any experience having 3 kids, but as far as the age thing goes, I had my boys when I was 39 and I don't feel like I was too old. ardon: Sure there are risks, but your peri will go over that with you. I have way more energy and patience than I did 10 years ago, so I'm convinced that I'm a better mother now than I would have been at a younger age.

Good luck!! :hug:

 

Our pregnancy after the twins was a "happy accident." I had the same feelings as you are having and it is a lot of work, but definitely doable!! It is so wonderful to see my little guys in their new roles as thoughtful big brothers! And ditto to what mama23boys said... I also have three boys and people love to comment about it and ask when the little girl is coming!

You CAN handle this. Good luck to you!!

 

So exciting! My dh says no, no, no to anymore and since we had to do IVF for these two he is probably right, but the other day my dd said Mommy I wanna a sister and it got me thinking yet again that a happy accident wouldn't be too bad !

 

:Clap: Good luck to you!!! :Clap:

 

yay!!! It will be awesome! One more (most likely ) amazing blessing. I've had two singletons post-twins and they were a piece of cake comparatively.

 

So exciting!!!

You can definitely get out and about with three. Meghan and Nolan were 23 months when I had Liam. They are pretty close (most of the time ) and play great together.

I was 39 when I delivered the twins and 41 when I delivered Liam, you are not too old!!!!

Good luck!!