So can we have a turning 1 support group?

This is ridiculous! I have been crying daily for one reason or another and I know it's all because of this whole birthday thing. I don't know why I'm taking it so hard, it's not like I'm not going to see them anymore! On top of the stress of their age alone, I'm WAY behind on my planning/cleaning. I still have to do a head to toe mega cleaning (my family members are the kind that come with a white glove ), find birthday t-shirts for them, finish their felt books, finish their slideshow which I can't do because I keep CRYING, and price and purchase food to serve. Another damper on the issue is that my friends won't be there. I made it family only because my wh*re friend and I are not on good terms and my friends are sort of a package deal. I just couldn't invite all of them and leave her out (wuss) but I do NOT want her at my house right now. It's just really sad because we've all been like family for the past 10 years so it will be so strange not to have them there. Also, as much as I hate to admit it, I'm feeling a little anxious about all the guests asking if they're walking when they are NOWHERE close to it. Neither of them can stand unassisted and Caleb has yet to even crawl on hands and knees. I just hate that I always find myself defending them and giving reasons they're a little behind when I know they're smart and happy and perfect and I've done and am doing my best to get them on track. I just try to beat the 'MY baby was walking at 9 months!' comments before they can even fly out. Anyway, there you have it...my pre-party pity party. Thanks for attending.



ETA: I'll post some pictures of my latest felt book pages when (and if) the boys go down for their second nap

 

:hug99: Turning one is stressful with it being the "end" of the baby year and planning for the party but on the way to 2 is very cool too. I actually like this age much more than the baby stage (but that is just my preference). They are such cool, independent individuals. They learn new things and new words and then just for no reason they will walk over and sit in my lap and just give me a hug :wub: So fun. See you have lots to look forward too!! Hang in there.

 

I hear you! When the boys were little (0-4months) I was so pumped for the first birthday to get here. I guess I just figured by then things would be so much better but things got so much better at around 6 months and ever since then time has just been flying and for me the first birthday does signify back to work. I know I'm lucky to have had the year off but the thought of leaving them tears me up and I have also started crying about it.

Well I guess I better stop crying because I have a party to plan but in the meantime if you figure out how to stop time even for just a little bit let me know.

Good luck with all the party plans and felt book. As for the friend, are you planning on becoming friends with her again? If not then why not invite your other friends, or do you think they'll be upset you didn't invite wh*re friend?

Erica

 

Just try to relax, it will all work out. You are doing this for your babies not for your friends. I got myself so worked up on my boys first birthday that I didn't get any pictures, ended up in ER because of an anxiety attack and had to postpone the party.

 

Hello, my name is Becca, and I need support. LOL!

Seriously, right there with you....the only thing distracting me from totally losing it is that we've got other stuff going on right now -- the day after the party is Father's Day, the following day I turn the big 3-5, and the day after that, we road-trip to Virginia to attend a four-day family wedding from h*ll, where I need formal Indian outfits for the entire family for six different events, etc. So, planning the logistics of that has kept my mind off their birthday...

But, yeah. For their party -- I decided to splurge and order two cakes (can't wait to post these pictures!), so I won't be making cupcakes (which I would have done at 3 a.m. the morning of) -- and we'll be ordering food from our favorite local catering place, so that's taken care of. I need to order balloons the day before. I have gifts and outfits and first-birthday bibs. The cleaning and decluttering will have to happen today and tomorrow, because I then have portraits scheduled for Sunday (Aimee -- ladybenz -- from this very board is coming over to do them, and I am so excited!), and then my cleaning service comes Monday morning.

Wednesday is their actual birthday, and we decided to keep it simple and go to IHOP in the afternoon -- seriously, LOL -- because they both love pancakes, and it's low-stress. We thought about doing a picnic at the local park, but it's 95 degrees out this week. On Thursday, my MIL gets into town, and my parents arrive Friday....

Oy. So stressed! And so sad!

Have you looked at cafepress for shirts? They have some really funny ones -- "it's about time I got some cake to wash down all that milk" -- and others like it. I might still get some, but I decided to do vibrant colored outfits to go with our theme instead (and my mom, who is dressed to the nines for every event, will undoubtedly frown on T-shirts for a party ).

Sorry I'm all over the place with this post!

 

:hug99: I was really emotional about 1!!! :hug99: We weren't walking either and the kids took a nap in the middle of their party!!!

If it makes you feel any better mine walked at 17 and 18 mos!!! Don't worry about it!! Chances are they'll be overwhelmed with the crowd! Sorry about your "friend"! Hang in there!!! The 2nd year goes EVEN Faster, so hold on tight!!

 

Wow. I am almost 4 months away from their first birthday-and I think I need to join the support group too! I'm an emotional person to begin with-so this turning one thing won't go over well with me! We've already figured that we will have to rent a tent of sorts because it's going to be a HUGE party(inviting 80-100 people-mostly family if you can believe that!) and that many people can not fit in our house! I just hope and pray for nice weather. And it's going to be a cookout. In October. Much to the chagrin of my mil(Italian-and wants to cook it all-but our one little stove won't be able to handle that!). Her response was, "We don't want anyone to go home hungry." UGH! Anyways!

So-I will join your support group! I will say to savor the day if you can because it will be over before you know it! As for the walking-in due time! They are individuals and they will do it when THEY are ready! I have to deal with my mil asking if they were crawling yet-at 5 months +! "Anthony crawled(dh) at 6 months and was pulling up too!" Yeah-well good for him!

You are doing a great job as a mom! For all those nay sayers-have them care for twins all day and see how it goes! It's a special job for a special person! ENJOY!

 

Hang in there! I don't really have any advice, just a virtual hug...

 

I was so emotional when they turned one, too. It happens. :hug99: Just try to enjoy it all you can - it flies right by! :hug99:

 

Include me in the support group mine will be one on July 10th and I have nothing planned. Kind of if you dont think about it, it wont come!! In my family we have so many summer birthdays that we have to plan abround everyone else's party which makes it even harder!!! We have July 10, 20, 30: 2 August 15 and August 19!! All the parties really start to run together!!

 

I need to join too! We are less than two weeks away and I feel like I'm losing it! Party planning aside, I'm so dang emotional all the time!

 

[SIZE=10pt]My name is April, and I too need support

You know that I'm right there with ya. I'm counting down the sleeps until their birthday and then until their party (about a week later due to other obligations) So I'll actually go through the emotions twice <_< yay me!

I just keep reminding myself of all the things that we have to look forward to!

I'm just SO thankful that I have all you gals to help me through it....THANKS!!

April [/SIZE]

 

I'll join the support group, too! I'm about a month & a half away from 1, so not as close as some of you, but I started BAWLING yesterday when I made their birthday invites . I had to scour through old pictures because I wanted a baby pic AND a new pic....so I sat there for about an hour, just staring at how little they used to be!

Thankfully, for me, no one in our family really walks before 15-18 mos, so I shouldn't get too many questions at their party . And, if for some odd reason they ARE walking (which I would put money on the fact that Conner won't be), then I'll just shock people!

We're keeping ours family & close friends only. Aiden gets REALLY overwhelmed with crowds & loud noises, so hopefully he'll start growing out of that soon. OR, I'll just have a handsome 1 year old stuck to my hip all day . I specifically planned our party for 3pm so that they could get 2 good naps in, so hopefully that'll help!

I look forwards to all the upcoming birthday party pictures, but it'll be bittersweet b/c I know mine aren't far behind!!!!!!!!!!

 

I'm there too. Our party is on Sunday and guess how much food I'm making? I am making one cake and a thing of coleslaw. That's it. Everything else I am buying (including a second cake) or my mom or MIL are bringing.

We are not having a theme, and we have not started cleaning our house yet.

I used to laugh at women who got emotional when their "baby" turned 1, but I have been thinking about the day they were born so much, and just can't believe it's been a year already.

Mine are not even close to walking either. Anneke crawls now, but Rowan is still only "army-style" crawling and I think he may skip "normal" crawling. Another thing that I never thought would happen: they are both still practically BALD! Here's a recent pic.

http://www.jenniferrensenbrink.com/images/...athtimeboth.jpg

GOOD LUCK everybody with your birthday plans!

 

OMG, Serrano! I am right there with you on the emotions and I am not even attempting to get ready for a big party. We might do a backyard barbeque for about 6 friends, and we'll have cakes, but it's about all I can handle to make it through the week...still!

You are doing a lot! You are amazing! Give yourself a big hug and then look at your beautiful books and think about how they're going to feel when they're 30 and pull those out of their box of baby things...

 

I'm here with you too! I've got alittle more time but, I'm already getting stressed(well like I'm not anyways... being a sahm LOL Haha!)
My big thing is money right now with the cost of food going up the party food is being budgeted and we are no where near getting the invites done!
With the walking stuff... TRUST ME I know how you feel when people compare babies. I have a sister-n-law that does it (she has 4 kids)and I hope she doesn'tcome up for our party!!
Good luck with the party!
P.S Your invitations were sooo cute & your boys are adorable!

 

I have about 6 weeks so I am worring as well. I don't know where we can do it as July in Las Vegas isn't the best BBQ weather like my DH wants to do. It is good in theory but... heat? I woud love to see your felt books. I am still working on mine. I am glad I have 6 weeks still. I hope they will be done. I did just buy a little tikes cube/slide combo thing. I am so excited for that.

I am sad no family will be here. No one lives close on my side, the closest is 6 hour and my SIL is due 2 weeks later. My DH family is 4 hours in several directions, so I don't think they will be here. So while it may be a pain, be glad they can come.

Those of you who have decided, post your food, decorating, announcement ect ideas. We would love to steal, I mean borrow, them from you. LOL

 

Larami, i want to become a member.

i just can't believe it, i'm mourning that they're "old" that they won't be babies anymore (as if they were walking and talking already---sooo not!)

getting the party together, which won't happen as i planned with the ducky pool party theme, we ended up getting the purple cupcakes you are using!! our backyard lawn is just trashed due to the remodel, and setting up kiddie pools would make it a mud party! we will be having cake at my parents' house, supposedly just a few people, but the head count is up to 40 now.

plus now i'm regretting throwing the party on their very birthday, as yesterday i decided i should have kept them to myself on that special day! but the invites are out, and i won't cancel!

the party/birthday is wednesday, then friday we leave town for a wedding, come back sunday, then wednesday drive to AZ for a weekend family reunion. so pretty chaotic times because of that, too....and they FINALLY just got to go to sleep on their own in their new room--took a month to adjust and now i'm moving them again--ugh!!!

their slideshow has been abandoned since about april, too, so i don't know WHEN i'm going to finish it...

but the party planning and the all the other stuff is just stuff--the point is, my babies are turning 1 and i didn't take enough pictures (the 200 per month aren't enough), or video, and they won't be teeny ever again. they won't give me gummy grins anymore cuz they have teeth, and ooooooh i am crying just typing so i will stop.

so yeah, right there with you

sandra

 

:love0028: I don't know if this will make you feel any better, but the 2nd year is a total BLAST so far! There are always things you'll miss about earlier ages, but let me tell you, this is a REALLY fun age right now!

Good luck getting everything ready! Sounds totally overwhelming. I would have crawled under the bed to hide long ago! :lol:

 

I have very mixed emotions about them turning one. It's been such a tough year and I am happy to put it behind me but I can't believe they are turning one!

The party is tomorrow and my house is a total disaster. It's just going to be immediate family and close friends.

btw, I've got one not crawling either, she just slithers around on her belly and gets around quite well doing that.

 

Hi. My name is Erin and my children are turning 1. I need support!!!!

I had been handling this whole thing pretty well... until today.

My DP and I swore that we'd never have another BABY (more kids, yes... but adopted after the age of 6 months). Today, I actually convinced her to be open to any age, even a newborn (she is great with the boys now, but is sooo not a "baby" person). Maybe it was the misty eyes I unexpectedly developed when swooning over the preemie clothes at Babies R Us... or the fact that I nearly drooled over a bassinet.

I have been really having a blast with my boys lately, but there is a part of me that is suddenly having such a hard time letting go of the fact that they're no longer little babies.

I have bought a ton of stuff for our party, but I'm still really stressed out about it. I don't even know where to begin...!

My boys are not walking, and I too am constantly fending off the questions about their walking. I'm dreading that at the party. I even found myself defending them the other day by bragging about their extensive (10-word) I'm also dreading our one fried who swears that moms who breast feed beyond one year only do it for themselves... because (she claims) it has no nutritional value for the babies after 1 year of age!!! Crazy. I can't wait to debate with her at their party about why I'm going to continue BFing for a few more months.

I actually told my DP that I might pack the boys up and just leave her here with all of our crazy guests!

Ultimately, I know that our party (and all of yours, too!!) will go off great-- without a hitch... and that we'll have a total blast on our way to two. Can't wait to see all of your photos and hear all about the fantastic festivities!!

Be proud of yourselves for an amazing job well done on raising not one but TWO smart, healthy, happy, beautiful babies!!

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