Smiling and Eye Contact

So for a couple weeks we have been getting serious eye contact for long periods of time with our ds and at that time from our dd. Now while my ds will stare at me and laugh while he is sitting on me (or even from his chair) our dd rarely does this anymore. If I move into her line of vision she will move to avoid me. I know she can hold her interest, they both started watching Bunnytown this weekend. I am not sure how they got the remote but I allow a couple shows a day for peace of mind. Anyway, I wonder if this has happened with anyone else's kids? I should add she will smile every now and then at us, like if she is on the changing table or in her crib and I stick my head in front of the mobile. What do you all think?

 

Hi,

Even though I don't have an explanation, I just wanted to let you know that it happened to me as well. It was worse with DS. I mean, I thought the same thing, he must not like me! He would look everywhere except at me (or whoever was holding him). I would get right in his line of vision and he would turn his head, sometimes as far as he could. It was weird! They don't do it anymore, so I think it's just a phase and I have no idea why!

 

Both my boys do this all the time. They don't like to look at the person who is holding them b/c there is so much else to look at! If DH is holding Jake, Jake acts like he wants to be held by me or is looking randomly around. As soon as I hold him, he stares at DH and reaches for him. So weird!

 

dito! my daughters love to stair at their daddy...but everytime I put myself in their line of vision they look away.

Who knows why!

 

Ryan did this to me forever! He didn't really 'wake up' until he was about 3.5 months and that's when he really started looking at us. Jack was looking at us all along but to this day he still refuses to look at Ryan!

 

My one daughter seemed to look more when we were further away like if she was on the change table. Hated to look at my dh because he was just too close to her. Mine are 5.5 months old and only now looking at each other, and only sometimes. but they will hold hands. funny how they will look everywhere but at each other.

 

Think of it this way, there is SO MUCH for her to see and take in right now, she wants to figure it all out and explore.

I had one that did this too. It took her longer than her sister to really want to look at me and react.

 

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Think of it this way, there is SO MUCH for her to see and take in right now, she wants to figure it all out and explore.

I had one that did this too. It took her longer than her sister to really want to look at me and react.



My identical girls are 12 weeks old and one of them makes eye contact all the time and smiles a lot more than the other, I try to get in her line of sight but lots of times she looks everywhere but at my face and I try to get her to smile by talking to her and usually she won't smile but at the same time her twin will be in her bouncy seat (across the room) smiling in reaction to hearing me try to get the other to smile, this is really worrying me.. especially since they are identical, I figured they should be reaching milestones at about the same time, are your girls identical and what age did you notice it. It would make me feel better if I knew of other identicals that didn't reach milestones at the same time but ended up okay.. she does smile and make eye contact sometimes but not very often --I am just worried about the autism thing mainly, since I have heard early intervention is key..

 

Jack went through a phase like this after we changed nannies. It's almost like he got depressed and wouldn't smile or make eye contact for almost 2 weeks! It really concerned me at the time, but he gradually came back out of his shell and is his normal outgoing self again.

I've noticed that if he's unsure about something (like someone new, or an unfamiliar place) he'll do the same thing. Nate is much more accepting of new stuff than he is.