Sleeping through the night

My DD is a real tough cookie. I feel she can self soothe herself yet, she is a light sleeper and does not enjoy doing it. My DS can sleep through the night without a problem on less food. Should I just let her cry when she gets up for the third time at night and won't go back to sleep so easily or do i feed her and help her? They were just sick with a virus but, I think they are over it, no temps, etc. I am trying to have her learn to eat during the day and not in the middle of the night. Am I a terrible mother for letting her cry for up to half hour to fall back asleep? Thanks for your advice.

 

I never had to do CIO, but I would have. You are not a bad Mom for teaching your child how to sleep unassisted.

 

QUOTE(TandC @ Jun 21 2009, 08:34 PM) [snapback]1363141[/snapback]
You are not a bad Mom for teaching your child how to sleep unassisted.


I agree! I did CIO with all 3 boys.

 

We never did CIO and I did feedings until one of my was 13 months. Up until they reached 12 months, I wasnt comfortable not feeding at night if they were eating well (and they were).
Once we stopped the night feeds at 13 months, we've had all night sleepers since.
The books and others will all tell you different things. You are the mom. You are the best judge of what to do and how to do it in your house with your kids.
Follow your gut and you wont go wrong!

 

You certainly not a bad mom for letting her cry for 30 minutes to go to sleep! I had to do CIO at naptime for my twins and there have been times when one of them have cried/whined for 40 minutes until they fell asleep.

 

You are not a bad mom for doing CIO. We did it but we went in every 10 minutes and told them 'Mommy loves you, Daddy loves you' and then would leave and add 5 minutes to the time interval....10, 15, 20 etc. If they needed a diaper change we would just change them in their crib. After three nights, they learned how to self soothe and were STTN.

 

QUOTE(E&Msmom @ Jun 21 2009, 06:45 PM) [snapback]1363154[/snapback]
We never did CIO and I did feedings until one of my was 13 months. Up until they reached 12 months, I wasnt comfortable not feeding at night if they were eating well (and they were).
Once we stopped the night feeds at 13 months, we've had all night sleepers since.
The books and others will all tell you different things. You are the mom. You are the best judge of what to do and how to do it in your house with your kids.
Follow your gut and you wont go wrong!


this is exactly it! you need to do what feels right to you & what works for your whole family.

to answer your original question though, no, i don't think you're a bad mother at all! we did CIO with the girls & the first night they cried for almost 2 hours. it was really hard that first night, but was well worth it in the end for my mental health & their temperment.

i would recommend though that whatever you do decide to do (whether letting her cry until she goes back to sleep, or checking on her in increasing intervals, or going in & soothing her) that you try to be as consistent as possible with it. that's the best way to ensure that your LO will STTN, whether that's now, or later on. GL!

 

Not a bad mommy at all! All 4 of my kids were sleeping through the night by 3 months old ( the twins were the latest at 3 months, the other 2 were 6 wks and 8 wks). By 9 months they definetly can get all their nutrition during the day and a night feed isn't nutritionally necessary.

If you are ready for it and want to try CIO then as a pp said, be sure you are consistent. I did CIO with my older 2 when we moved them into their own room, at 10 months with my ds and 8 months with my dd, and will do it as necessary with the twins. I did my own version of CIO, only going back in if their cries changed from "pissed off I don't wanna sleep right now" to "OMG mom left me I'm scared someone save me"! I learned to tell the difference in them! Then I would go in, sooth them in the crib, lay them back down and go back out. I also used lullabies and white noise to help them get to sleep. The first night is the hardest with several hours of crying, but within about 3 nights my older 2 were sleeping through the night again.

 

You are not a bad mommy for letting them CIO! I agree with PP that you should do whatever you feel most comfortable doing. I think that by 9 months they should be able to go for several hours at night without eating, even the whole night even. If you don't mind waking up to feed, soothe, then I'd say keep doing it. If you're desperate for a full nights rest, try CIO.

 

You are not a bad Mom. And as for when do they sleep through the night - I'll let you know when it happens.

 

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You certainly not a bad mom for letting her cry for 30 minutes to go to sleep! I had to do CIO at naptime for my twins and there have been times when one of them have cried/whined for 40 minutes until they fell asleep.


Should i let her sleep in our room for the first few nights in fear of waking up her brother or is that not good either b/c she knows we are there?

 

No, you should have the good sleeper in your room if that's what you're worried about. It would be unbearable if she was in the same room.

 

I would let her CIO (and did with my son). She shouldn't NEED to eat overnight at 9 months.