Sleeping through the night at 3?

Okay, so I've tested it out w/ no naps and taking a nap and it doesn't matter...my boys do not sleep through the night right now. One will get up several times during the night and the other occasionally. So by the time we're about to fall back asleep, the other is up. This is happening several times a night. Any ideas? We're exhausted!!

 

Put them to bed, tell them goodnight, say you'll see them in the morning, shut the door and don't go back. Put a gate or doorknob cover on so they can't come out til you let them out. (I had to do this with one of my older kids and I left the monitor in the room so if he really needed me I would know it) That's my harda$$ mommy approach! lol :girl_devil:

 

You need to figure out an approach and stick with it. Either do as the PP suggested, or sit in the room and place them back in their beds with no talking or emotion and gradually fade yourself out of their room, or something else. But whatever you choose, be consistent and give it a few weeks. You wont find an overnight cure. ardon:

 

If it's any consolation, Luke doesn't sleep through either. I wake up & find him in bed next to me most nights. I haven't come up with a solution that I'm willing to stick to at this point, but wanted to let you know that you aren't alone. My 10 year old was the same way when she was little. I would wake up in the night & she would be in my bed. I never really did anything with her & she just outgrew it by the time she was 4. ardon:

 

What do they do when they wake up? Do they cry/call for you, or do you just hear them in their room?

I would tend to go with ktfan's approach, but it's easy for me to say since mine hardly ever wake at night (that we are aware of). Whatever you choose to do, don't underestimate the power of telling them what the rules are.

 

I have one that wakes up in the middle of the night. Here is what we do (some might not agree with this approach, but for us it works). The first time Meara wakes up crying, we go to her to assess the situation (sometimes her diaper leaks so its legitimate. If thats the case, I change her PJs in the dark and tuck her back in.

If she is crying just because she doesn't want to sleep, she gets a warning and if she doesn't quiet down she goes to time out in the pack in play. This is so she won't wake up her sister and also let her calm herself down (and blow off some steam to hopefully tire her out a bit). After the time out, we praise her for calming down and then say "Lets try again," and we tuck her back into her bed. If she starts crying again, we go in give her a warning and if she doesn't settle down, we bring her back to the pack-in-play with her lovey and her blanket and tell her she is sleeping there for the rest of the night. Since implementing this plan, we usually only have to give her a warning and maybe a time out and she settles back down and goes to sleep. She doesn't like sleeping in the pack-in-play since she loves her big girl bed, and even though she is fully capable of climbing out she doesn't.

Whatever you decide to do, develop a plan and stick to it. GL and :hug: I feel your pain. Thankfully I only have one waking, the other loves her sleep.

 

My DD's have been doing the same thing and this has been going on for about a year now. Most of the time one dd is having a night terror and wakes other dd up. My girls end up in bed with us and I end up on the floor or DH ends up on the sofa. Most days I am so tired and my girls do not take naps anymore so no nap for me. I truly can't remember the last time they have slept all through the night.

 

My twins now sleep through the night, but this is with me sleeping with them! They still wake sometimes and want a sip of their water,or want me to cuddle them, etc. I sometimes regret not forcing them to be more independent at an earlier age, but at the same time I'm attached to sleeping with them since I work full time. Also, I couldn't take the CIO thing, tried it a few times, I know they'll grow out of it eventually.. they'll ask me to go back to my own room I think.