Sleeping in?

I rarely do, and I'm sure most of the women on this board are the same. My DS is a very early riser. usually between 5 and 6 AM and I'm always the one to get up with him. There's no leaving him in his crib, I've tried that and he clangs on the bars like a prisoner
Anyway, yesterday morning DD slept really late so I only had DS and I decided to close the bedroom door and let DH sleep in a bit. He didn't get up until almost 9 (he works his own hours so he really can start work whenever he wants and actually sleeps past 8 quite often). This morning DS started his usual noisemaking and I was having a hard time getting up so DH got up. I figured today is Saturday and he has no work and was letting me sleep in since I did that for him yesterday. Lucky me!!
NOT!!
5 minutes goes by and I'm still hearing baby noises. So I get up and both babies are still in their crib, diapers not changed and very unhappy. Dh is in the living room working on the computer. He got up and completely ignored the babies and I had to get up. I'm so peeved It's not anything different than I usually do, but for a few minutes I thought he was being nice. Such a let down.

 

:angry I would have been so angry! DH and I trade off weekend days. He sleeps in one day, I sleep in the next. But I also work, so maybe that is why he is accommodating. That said YOU STILL SHOULD GET TO even you are a SAHM!!! You definitely need to talk to him and make a deal.

 

Sleep in? NEVER! I get up at 5:30 every morning, shower, make formula and go in to get the babies at 6:30 (they are up anywhere between 5-5:45). My dh works at a hospital so sometimes it's 7-3 (so he can't help) and sometimes it's 3-11 (so in the am he's tired). But on the days he's available, he gets up when he wants to. Yep, a BIG bone of contention with me but cranking about it has gotten me nowhere so I just zip it and move on.

ETA: He does help in other areas so I sometimes have to take a step back and look at it that way.

 

Not here, either...it is 5:30 EVERY morning (we let dd talk until 6). Even when my DH gets up to feed them...I still get up because I have to wake him up to get them. I would love to sleep in...or have one night of completely uninterrupted sleep. Wouldn't that be great?? Well, I understand your vent...We will get sleep again...one day!! ha ha


jen

 

Oooohhhhh, I would have been very peeved!!!!!!! Neither one of us sleeps in very often, but if the night has been really bad, my husband will take them for about an 1/2 hour in the morning, because he knows I have them all day,and without sleep it sometimes seems doubly frusterating. But usually we take turns.

 

I never get to sleep in either. Dh and I had set a schedule about 2mo ago. He would get up at 6am, feed the babies breakfast, then I would get up and take over while he went to work. Well as time went by he decided to sleep in more and more each day, plus I work nights so he has them at night, he would put them to bed later and later so they would sleep longer in the mornings! I tried then to get us back on that schedule, yeah that really worked!

So I just go with the flow now and get up when the babies get up, because dh complains that he can't feed 2 babies at the same time. Come on I do it everyday!! He even needs his parents to come over to help on SAt. when I work - though he pretty much babysits them too since they don't help at all, I give him credit for that!!

Sleeping in will happen in a few years.....unless we decide to have another....which is fine by me, it's all about the LOVE and having an interesting life!!

 

My DH and I take turns on the weekends (unless we have somewhere we need to be early). Like today, I got up at 8:00 but he got up at 5:45. Tomorrow I will get up first and let him stay in. We have been doing that since John was born.

 

I would have been so so :angry: ! SAHM need to sleep too! I am lucky my mom comes one day a week and she lets me sleep in, but if it were up to dh, he would wake me up! <_<

 

We both get up around 6:15 - the girls get up anywhere between 5:45 and 6. We just ignore them and they play.

I hope that you let your DH have it! If not you are a much better person then I am. I don't think that I would have been able to keep my mouth shut. :angry:

 

I never get to sleep in either! It truly is a missed thing. DH and I both teach so we are up by 6:15 on weekdays. Sometimes 5:45 or earlier if the boys get up. Weekends the schedule stays but, DH does sleep in a hour or so more. However, he does do the yard work, big projects and still spends time with the kids playing, helping with feeding and bedtime. I do nap when they nap on the weekends and sometimes he takes them if they are rough to let me get a little more nap time if necessary. Yet, I do know how you girls feels.....tired and not enough hours in the day!

 

Sleep in? What's that? :hug99:

 

Sleeping in would be like a dream come true! I am lucky that for the most part mine don't get out of bed until 7am. I don't know that I would sleep much longer than that; however, I would love to veg in bed before getting up.

Yes, I would have been very unhappy with my DH!

 

You have every right to get upset. I think I would have yelled at my dh for not getting the babies. DH always gets up before me and the babies and goes downstairs however, he keeps an ear out and runs upstairs the first sign of a whimper.

 

Nope, haven't slept in since the girls were born. Nearly three years. In DH's defense, neither has he, even when I've asked him if he wants to he can't (I don't remember him ever asking me if I want to though...hmmmmm...). We just don't, we get up and do it together. Luckily, that means 7:30 these days, though (I still have to get up at 6:45 during the week to get my own act together before work). Sometimes close to 8! Hang in there!

I woulda been pissed, BTW, him out on the computer not paying heed... grrrrrrrrrrrrrr....

 

My husband does that too! I get to sleep in but he doesn't feed the babies or dress them or anything. (Sometimes he'll change a diaper if it is really needed!) He basically keeps them busy until I get up and then gets mad if I tell him what needs to be done. It's the same every morning - why can't they figure it out?

 

i don't get to sleep in. my husband loves his sleep...but he does get up with me and help w/ the babies during the week sometimes. on the weekends though, i wish he would get up and get the babies once in a while...not just once in a blue moon i think, well, he gets up every day for work. but then i think, well, so do i!!!! when do i get to sleep???

 

Oh I would have been livid!
My situation is a little bit different because I work full time and my dh is a sahd. I get up every single morning with the girls so I can spend some time with them before I go to work. When I need to start getting ready, I wake dh up then. Even on the weekends I try to let him sleep in a little bit. I usually just nap when the girls nap

 

My girls are usually up by 7, sometimes we're lucky and they sleep until 7:30. But we both get up with them on the weekends. My dh usually changes their diapers while I get their breakfast ready. On weekdays he's up around 6:45, and I change diapers and get breakfast ready by myself.

Your situation will never change unless you talk to you dh about how you feel. If you think it's unfair tell him, and tell him that you won't tolerate that kind of behavior!

 

I think you need to talk to DH. Explain how you are feeling and tell him you NEED him to take charge at least one morning a week and you do not have to get up until 8:00am! Make sure he understands this is something that will help you. That one morning would be something you could live with and look forward to. Good Luck!!

 

Yeah mine too. When he does get up 2 look after them ( which has been 3 times) he makes such a big deal about doing it that it is easier doing it myself. He also sleeps to whenever he wants. I have forgotten what sleeping past 8am is like x

 

Oh man, that is such a bummer! I would be pretty upset also. I would tell him flat out...I NEED SLEEP!! If he got up anyways, there is no reason for him to NOT help with the babies! You must talk to him, or this will keep building up and you will blow! Good luck!

 

:rotflmbo: First of all, HA, HA, HA, HA......Ok, I think I've quit laughing now... My dream in life right now is to sleep in but not here in this crazy house with 2 dogs and 3 kids. No, neither one of us ever gets the luxury of sleeping in. We do spend many, many hours discussing sleeping in, naps, sleeping at a hotel, and lots of other sleep based topics. It really is one of the most talked about things in our house. We just can't get over the fact that we never get to sleep in or take Sunday naps anymore.

That sucks that he did that, though and I hate that for you. My DH and I are on the same wave length, we just both get up and both work doing different things. I feel like we are working together but we are both exhausted every day and we get grumpy because of that sometimes.

 

I'm the same as minnieafrica. On saturdays, I get up with them and on Sundays, dh gets up with them. But I have to tell you honestly, if you don't talk to him about it and tell him this is what you need for some sanity then it will probably never happen. I finally got to the breaking point and when I told dh I needed one day a week to just sleep in, he was more than happy to accomodate. Sometimes, people just won't think to offer themselves if we don't ask or don't directly indicate to them what we need. Remember, men generally don't do well with subtleties. You have to be very matter of fact and direct with them. If you remind him that your job is just as exhausting as his (if not more) and that you would just like 1 day a week to get some much needed extra sleep, perhaps he will surprise you. If he fights you on it well then...post us and let us know and I'm sure you'll get some good advice on how to handle that. GL