Sleep Cycles

My DD and DS have just really started to sleep well. They aren't STTN, but have only been waking 1x a night this past week. My DD naturally gets tired between 6:30-7 pm and goes down easily- getting up the next day between 6:30-8 am. My DS on the other hand doesn't fall asleep for the night until between 10-11 pm and sleeps til between 8-9 am.
We put him in the crib sooner- but he just screams and screams. If he does fall asleep before 10- we put him in the crib but he wakes within minutes and screams and screams. The other night it was four times before 10 pm that we went through this. Once we reach 10 or so he settles in without much difficulty.
So my question is- do I try to force him to adjust to DD's sleep cycle- or do I just let him settle in when he's naturally ready? (which means he's up "late")
TIA!

 

What if you try earlier than 6:30? What time are they or he waking from the third nap? Just a thought that maybe he is really too tired and overstimulated and maybe an extra early bedtime would help that. Or if that is totally not it, I might be inclined to keep the late bedtime and see if he works it out himself within the next few weeks. Sorry not much help.

 

when mine are being agreeable about sleep, i let them go on their own. some moms have much luck w/ schedules, i am not one of them. ruby usually goes to sleep an hour or so before max. she also sleeps later than him. i see it as time i can spend with max one on one (or my dh w/ max so i can go chill out alone!)

 

I would try to wake DS with DD in the am and see if you can recalibrate him!

My DD needs more sleep than DS, but I really keep them together for the am wake up and through the first nap. At the 2nd nap I generally won't wake DD but they go down for the night within 30-40 minutes of each other.

I was just so worn out by the evenings that I would try to preserve a bit of adult time in the evenings.

Good luck

 

It took some time, but now they are sleeping together. If one woke up I always woke the other. I never let one sleep while the other was a wake. After a while of doing this they just started sleeping at the same time. Now its like they literally go to sleep at the exact same time and wake up at the exact same time. There have been a few times one will take an off nap, but because not to often. Hope that helps

 

Mine for the most part sleep at the same time. They go to bed anywhere between 530-630 (depending on how their naps have gone that day), sometimes one is not as tired as the other, but I lay them down in their cribs at the same time, sometimes there is some fussing before they fall asleep and sometimes there isn't. I do keep them on the same schedule, if one wakes from a nap or in the morning, I might let the other one sleep any extra 15min or so, but then I wake them up. I need my "me" time, so the twins napping together is a must for me most days.
I do read that if you want better sleep patterns from your children that you should try to put them to bed earlier - not sure if that works for everyone though.
And, like pp said, for the most part mine wake and go to sleep now naturally at around the same time (most days).

 

I haven't been too successful getting them on the same schedule, but admittedly, I haven't been trying
too hard. When one wakes up in the middle of the night, I do, however, always wake the other up.
They haven't STTN yet, so that does preserve our sanity. They seem to be more in sync in them morning
as they both are developing a longer morning nap, but it's the afternoon and evening that are the problem
We tried the earlier bedtime, 6:30, with both babies and it isn't working right now. DS seems to go down
around 7:30 while DD is closer to 8:00. If we do that, they go down with little fussing and screaming. Any
earlier they cry, and cry and cry.....and keep each other up!