Sleep and Room Sharing

So how do you magnificent moms out there do this?
I have yet to get my twins - who just turned 9 mos. - to sleep through the night and share a room. Both are graduates of the CIO method, several times over - but separated. About a month ago, both started sleeping relatively well, so we moved them together. When one would wake up, we would put the pacificer back in their mouth and rub their back to make sure they did not wake the other. Well, they got smart and started demanding longer back rubs and more attention at night and the whole CIO went bust, as well as room sharing . Now, they are ready once again to be put together - I hope.......

My many (desperate)questions are:
- how do you handle it when one wakes up in the middle of the night? When one cries, will the other always wake up or can you train them to sleep through the other cries? If you rub their back, comfort them, do you find yours won't go back to sleep without that?
- Can you do a CIO with two in the room, and how does that work? And if so, can you actually function the next day without a caffeine IV?

Any help would be GREATLY appreciated. I would love to reduce the size of the bags that are currently under my eyes. (any good cream for that?)

Sharon

Mom to
Abby - 6yrs
Amanda - 3 yrs
Jolie & Noah - 9 mos, 1 day

Jolie: My fragile premie now 9 lbs 12 oz (you go girl!)
Noah: 9 lbs 8 oz

 

So how do you magnificent moms out there do this?
I have yet to get my twins - who just turned 9 mos. - to sleep through the night and share a room. Both are graduates of the CIO method, several times over - but separated. About a month ago, both started sleeping relatively well, so we moved them together. When one would wake up, we would put the pacificer back in their mouth and rub their back to make sure they did not wake the other. Well, they got smart and started demanding longer back rubs and more attention at night and the whole CIO went bust, as well as room sharing . Now, they are ready once again to be put together - I hope.......

My many (desperate)questions are:
- how do you handle it when one wakes up in the middle of the night? When one cries, will the other always wake up or can you train them to sleep through the other cries? If you rub their back, comfort them, do you find yours won't go back to sleep without that?
- Can you do a CIO with two in the room, and how does that work? And if so, can you actually function the next day without a caffeine IV?

Any help would be GREATLY appreciated. I would love to reduce the size of the bags that are currently under my eyes. (any good cream for that?)

Sharon

Mom to
Abby - 6yrs
Amanda - 3 yrs
Jolie & Noah - 9 mos, 1 day

Jolie: My fragile premie now 9 lbs 12 oz (you go girl!)
Noah: 9 lbs 8 oz

 

I wastold by twin moms and books about twins to keep them together (in the same room) so they get accustomed to hearing esch others' noises. Even though my pedi told me to seperate them....I kept them together! Praise the Lord! They went through a stage of waking to each others' cries around 2-3 months but since then no problems. They sleep through each other's crying, screaming, coughing, gurggling, and talking! It is amazing! When one of them cries....I stay away and she calms herself back down. Since you've seperated them, I don't know what is best. I'd suggest to put them in the same room and let them CIO until they learn to sleep through it. If you can have 2 room, forever, keep them seperate and let them CIO seperately. My tiwns have been sleeping through the night since 5 months - one did it on her own, one with my help! You need to let them CIO during the night - you need sleep

 

My 6 month old girls have been sleeping through the night in the same room since 3 months. I never separated them and they slept in the same crib until last week (they were getting too big to have both in one crib). They have learned to sleep through each other's crying and noises. However, napping during the day was hard b/c for a long time they would just nap in their bouncy seats, car seats, or stroller and so when i started putting them down together in their crib during the day for naps they would just cry and cry. One would always wake up the other. I was really at my wits end and considered separating them during the day and setting up the pack in play in my bedroom for one to nap in. A friend of mine with 2 year old twins convinced me to stick it out. After a couple of weeks, they learned to fall asleep and nap together even if one was crying.

I agree with the last post, if you have an extra bedroom and they are not going to end up sharing a bedroom, just go ahead and separate them in different bedrooms for good. But, if you are like me and your babies have to share a room, they need to learn to sleep through the other's crying. It will seem like they will never do it - but they will!! I promise!! Just keep at it!!

 

You poor woman! My girls are just turning 4 mnths so I can't really answer your question. Right now one doesn't wake up unless the other is wailing. Sounds like your little guys just look out for each other. I do however have a makeup business and i have an online shopping mall. We have a product called eye replenishing creme. It takes care of bags instantly. we also sell energy drinks and other awesome supplements. My company is number one for health and wellness online. Don't mean to sound like a commercial but we also offer 100% money back guarantee. My web address is dhedgecock.qhealthbeauty.com. Anyway you got enough to worry about if you have any questions feel free to e-mail me at [email protected]. Thanks!By the way it is product number 100227 it goes for 27.00.

 

I'm in a very similar position. My guys are 10 mos and starting to sleep better at night so I was thinking of putting them back together in the same room. But, I am worried that they're getting too old to learn to sleep through the other's cries as the PP say they should be able to.

Do you use a sound machine? I have two and I'm thinking if I keep it on the whole night that it might help. Good luck!

Curious to read more suggestions from others.

 

My babies never slept through each others cries - at naps or night. Both of mine have reflux so the CIO method was never an option for me because if they were crying in the middle of the night, it was usually because they were laying in spit up or needed that phantom burp up...I separated mine and they finally slept through the night at 7.5 months. Then teething (top teeth) hit and it was hit or miss for both of them for about two weeks, now we're back on track. I am not sure if that helps any, but I felt like mine were the ONLY babies over 6 months not sleeping through the night - separating them for good really helped us.

 

OH, I forgot to add that I do have a sleep machine that I keep on all night and during the day for their naps. We have hardwood floors and a small house so we definitely need it. It works great!

 

Mine are not even three months and I already have to separate them!? It made me sad to do so, BUT it worked! My DS always woke up to my DD yelps and screams and he is already tough to get to go to sleep at all - day or night. I have been putting them is separate cribs, which has really helped. Some napping times, they are still side by side in their bouncies, but definately in their own spaces. For some reason, giving them their own spaces helped. Good luck@!

jen

 

My situation is a bit different, Ellie (10mo) and Joey (21mo) share a room. I put them down together for naps (for my sanity) and while Ellie usually will cry and fuss herself to sleep, Joey will sleep right through it. And on occasion Ellie has slept through Joey's crying. I'm banking on the theory that they will get used to each other and sleep through!

 

Mine have to share a room and they wake each other up quite often. I was considering doing a poll about this, actually. All the twin books say they won't wake each other, but that is definitely not my experience with these girls. They can go through a minute or two in the middle of the night without a problem, but anything more than that and sister is awake, too, which is a total nightmare. So, we end up going in fairly quickly to soothe the cryer, and if she doesn't stop, she gets removed from the room and brought to bed with us. It has its upside and downside, but that's where we are at the moment because neither of them is a good sleeper and we do not believe in CIO.

 

I am glad to see all the posts on this because I was wondering the same thing.. My DS and DD are 7 months old today and I've been trying them in the same room for a few days and so far, they are not napping very good yet. I'm going to give it a few more days and then separate them again. I'm also breaking DS of his binky habit at the same time - I'm tired of getting up 2 or 3 times a night to put it back in his mouth. That part seems to be going pretty good.

 

My first DD slept 12 hours by 3 months so we're totally at a loss here...My girls are 8 months and we haven't been able to figure this out either. We really need some sleep - soon.

They've both been sick these past few weeks and waking often - sometimes waking each other. We put the PNP back in our room so we can separate if necessary 0 usually sometime during the night.

I don't have the heart, time or patience to CIO. We both work full time and it would really put us further behind in sleep.

If we wait them out, how long until they will sleep the whole night? Anybody else?