Ok, So i don't know if im alone with this or not. But i have always heard that twins will draw alot of attention when out at the mall, store, ect. Just because there are two of them. But im not really worried par say but more just curious how i will be. I am a shy person, unless i know you, or you talk to me, i won't just go up and introduce myself to new people. So im curious to see how I will handle random strangers trying to engage me in conversation.. You would think that i would be used to some attention, im tall (6'1) and occasionally still get the random stranger who asks me if i played sports. Which I didn't whichs leads to a very okward conversation, til i can wiggle away.. maybe I'm being a little hormonal.. but who knows.. maybe it will be a learning experience :huh:
There was a really good post about this a week or two age maybe you can find it. BUt I think you are totally justified in being worried. Im not that shy and it bothers me. I would say know ahead of time what kind of attention you want (do you want everyone stopping you, or touching the babies, stuff like that) so you know what your boundries are and then try to come up with a game plan. Maybe some clever lines or a sports move to get you physically away. My sister is croniccaly shy so I kinda get it. I know it would be easier to have a plan ahead of time then to have to think on the spot when your already ultra uncomfertable. Good luck.
Definately a learning experience. :lol: I'm not much of a stranger conversation person, but for the most part, it's only been short questions to answer. "are they twins" "how old are they" and then they make a comment on how cute they are and that's about it. Maybe if I were more inviting {I'm sure they pick up on my not wanting to talk} it would go on further, but it hasn't yet. :Clap:
You may be surprised at how easily you handle the questions. Most are pretty standard (are they twins, when were they born, are they sleeping through the night, are they boys, etc). There are ways to deflect the questions such as keeping a blanket over the babies while in stores so people can't really see them. For what it's worth, my nanny is 6'3" and she loves the twin questions. She said she loves being asked something other than how tall she is.
It's annoying. You can't get out in public without someone talking to you, asking you dumb questions, and trying to touch the babies. So what I do is not make eye contact with people, put the car seat sunvisors directly over the babies' faces so people can't really see them, and if they try to talk, I'm nice but say "oh we're running late. Have to be somewhere by 3:00" and leave. My mom thinks I'm rude and should talk with everyone that talks to me, but I don't care to. But be prepared for stupid and personal questions..."did you conceive them naturally? Did you have a c-section? How much did they weigh? What are their names? Are they identical? How can you tell them apart? Glad it's you and not me. I don't know how you do it." Most of the questions come from old ladies.
QUOTE(bkpjlp @ Nov 12 2008, 01:14 PM) [snapback]1067831[/snapback] It's annoying. You can't get out in public without someone talking to you, asking you dumb questions, and trying to touch the babies. I really take a different approach and found it was very helpful to me. In the beginning you will never be able to go anywhere without people at least staring at your babies if not wanting to hold a half hour conversation with you. (Plan for extra time to do things) Don't think of people's facination as such a negative thing. Obviously many people are intrigued with twins. So are we all since we all have them and are such an active part of a website that is all about twins, right? you can't blame others for asking simple questions, and yes, the questions are sometimes intrusive and rude but they are a reflection of the asker, not you, so don't take them personally. What's wrong with being freindly to strangers? Wouldn't the world be a nicer place if we (people in general) were nicer to each other? I truely believe that these questions, rude or not, are not intended to be rude but just a freindly way to interact with others. Let it roll off your back and be polite. THat's all. It's really no biggie.
I understand it must be a difficult thought to be the center of all talking to you. But i just think its something you get use to over time, dont you think so ? Well you dont have to talk to all at once... Hope you are doing finr, and your twins will grow up to be nice and happy children...
QUOTE(twoplustwo @ Nov 12 2008, 05:23 PM) [snapback]1067858[/snapback] I really take a different approach and found it was very helpful to me. In the beginning you will never be able to go anywhere without people at least staring at your babies if not wanting to hold a half hour conversation with you. (Plan for extra time to do things) Don't think of people's facination as such a negative thing. Obviously many people are intrigued with twins. So are we all since we all have them and are such an active part of a website that is all about twins, right? you can't blame others for asking simple questions, and yes, the questions are sometimes intrusive and rude but they are a reflection of the asker, not you, so don't take them personally. What's wrong with being freindly to strangers? Wouldn't the world be a nicer place if we (people in general) were nicer to each other? I truely believe that these questions, rude or not, are not intended to be rude but just a freindly way to interact with others. Let it roll off your back and be polite. THat's all. It's really no biggie. Ditto........my thoughts exactly. I may possibly be one of those "old women" (is 47 old?), but I really don't think people intend to be rude, but just wanting to interact with others. I hope that my daughter takes the time to talk to "old women" and others that have enough of an interest in her to stop.
I'm fairly shy too, but you will find the attention is focused on the babies and not on you. All you have to do is answer questions . There were times (especially when they were tiny and time out of the house was limited) when I wanted a sign for the stroller that said "two boys, 3 months old, fraternal, born 2 months early, yes mommy is tired". I just tried to look at it as a chance to show off my baby boys. You will probably be so incredibly proud of them that it won't bother you as much as you think. I should add that I too have perfected the "no eye contact, move fast" for those quick trips when you don't have time to chat.
