Should We Move To Our Hometown?

Hi!!

My DH and I have been toying with the idea of moving back to our hometown. The biggest draw are my three sisters and my mother. (And, all my nieces) We love, love where we are, but I am really starting to burn out. We cannot afford too much help and have no real friends to help me out (nor would I want to ask for free help) My family has been wanting us to move back - they are all there - and my mother would be a big help.

If all else being equal, what would you do?? Also, the cost of living is so much less there, but the neighborhood and schools are just as great.

thanks for your advice!!!

jen

 

Well, since I never left my hometown, I may not be the best person to ask .

If all is equal, I would say yes. I love living near my family and friends. Most of my friends from high school still live around the area. We see each other as often as we can. My family is always around for me, my nieces are my babysitters (as are my sisters and my parents). We get to see them often, so the kids know their cousins well. It's great. I highly recommend it!

 

Jen

It sounds like a win win situation....more family, and less expense. Good luck with your decision! B)

 

We were there when we had our son. We moved back home. I am mostly glad I did that - I know which schools in the area are good and which are not. It is also nice to be near family and have my kids grow up knowing their Great Grandma and second cousins.

 

Yes! I would in a heartbeat! I wish we could move back to family. We even have 4 sets of parents and we can't seem to get closer then a 20 hour drive to any of them. If it was me, I would be packing. Your very lucky to have it as an option.

 

Like pp stated, if all is equal, I would move back too. Luckily my family followed us to PA, but I think family is needed when raising a family. Not only for babysitter reasons, also for the bond your children will have with them. It can also be a great way for some adult interaction we all need as mommys! As long as both you and your dh are on the same page, I would say go for it and enjoy your family!

 

The biggest thing to consider is how well you and your dh get along with your family. We get along great with mine so its easy to live near them but I dont get along with the ILs and all it did was cause problems with dh and I when we lived in his hometown and they never helped with the girls either.

But if you both get along really well with them then go for it.

 

After I had the girls I moved back to my home town. I'm so greatful I did that, its been much easier on me. Like you I was living somewhere we didn't have any family and little friends, I was completely on my own. Good luck making your decision.

 

Thank you, Everyone! It really is a no-brainer, I know. I surely need the help. Thanks for your advice.

jen

 

It sounds like a great opportunity. I went away to college, but did come back to my hometown, it's where I got a job out of college and we still live here now. We are only 45 min. from DH's hometown and his parents, and my parents are 15 min. away and all 4 of my siblings live here. Actually all of my siblings and DH's siblings and our parents are all in Maryland and no one is more than 1 hour and 15 min. away from us. We love it. And it is so nice for our kids to know their cousins so well. My kids see their cousins (my sisters' kids) at least 2 times a week, my DD actually goes to the same elem. school with 2 of her cousins, and they love it. Now they do fight, but that is okay. Also the nice thing with both of our parents here is we have help when we need/want it. We are able to get out once a month by ourselves and have the grandparents watch the kids for us. It is nice for everyone. I know both of our parents really enjoy being close to their grandkids.

I can't imagine moving away and not being close to everyone. If the schools and neighborhoods are just as nice and the cost of living is cheaper (which is definitely a plus) then I say what are you waiting for????

Good luck. I think you will enjoy being close to family!!