Should I take a trip in 28th week? HELP!

Someone please give me some advice. Should I travel now that I am in the last trimester. I have written something before about traveling but that was a really long trip. This trip is about 4 hours away. I am having a hard time with all the usual twin ailments like being tired (low iron) peeing all the time, back pain, trouble breathing. But I feel ok for the most part.

My husband thinks it is a bad idea and wants to postpose this trip until next summer. I wanted to do something special with our son before the twins are born. I just don't know if I can manage it physically. My husband thinks he will appreciate it more if we go next year after the twins have been here for awhile and leave them home with Grandma and Grandpa and give our son a special outing with just mom and dad. Is it better to do that and just take it easy now? I feel like I am letting my son down by not doing it know but honestly he is 4 and doesn't even really know we were thinking of going.


What do I do. I feel like a bad mom either way, letting our son down or putting the babies in harm by doing too much this late in the pregnancy.

Please help!

 

My Dr told me no travel after 24 weeks, so I wouldn't do it personally. I asked him if I could go to my dad's wedding on August 30th. It is in the "country" so it takes about 30 minutes to get to a hospital, but the hospital doesn't have a Level 3 NICU in case anything happened while I was gone so he said absolutely no way and I trust his opinion so I had to send my regrets. Could you take your son somewhere local? Maybe to a hotel with a pool or something like that for a night and spend the day doing only fun things that he chose? Then you could still do something fun, but still be close to your Dr and hospital.

ETA: I forgot to mention that the drive to my dad's is about 3 hours from here.

 

Nope - don't do it. Your full time job right now is cooking babies, and you need to be mindful of their health and your wellbeing. A four hour trip in the car might not be horrible, but that's not the whole thing - you'll have to do more than lie on a couch when you get there. If you check with your doctor, she will probably so NO WAY.

I had a very uneventful pregnancy and was told no travel after 24 weeks. It's too much stress on your body, which puts you at risk for pre-term labor, causes less nutrients to flow to the babies, etc. Your four year old will have a great time next year when you're back to your normal self and can go and have fun.

 

Here was the advice you got with your other post about traveling. Yes, it was further, but the advice might still stand.

I would definitely talk to your OB and see what he/she says about it.

 

My wife and I have had this discussion... She's at 25 weeks.
I think it's worth considering the potential for stress... to you and your husband. Even if you think you can handle the four hour trip he's likely to be a bundle of nerves about it the whole time. And while you may feel bad about not taking your son on the trip, you would likely feel worse if you went, and then ended up spending the whole time effectively on bedrest or at a doctors office … In short, I’m in the wait and make the trip next year camp. Not going on the long trip now doesn’t make you a bad mom… it makes you a good, responsible mom who is taking the whole picture into consideration.

 

I agree- wait. At 28 weeks, I could barely make the 30 minute ride to work everyday, nevermind 4 hours in a car. See what your OB says. Mine didn't want me traveling at all once I got into the 3rd trimester. Good luck!

 

Are you traveling by plane or by car?

I was not allowed to fly after 20 weeks with the twins and 24 weeks with my singleton. So, if you are flying, I would say definitely no.

If you are driving, you would have to allow for stops to get you up and out of the car. Get your blood flowing, etc. So it would turn out to be longer than a 4 hour drive. And how close would you be to a hospital with a level III NICU if you did travel? That is something to take into consideration, too.

I would talk to your OB and then err on the side of caution. The most important thing right now is to take care of the babies. Maybe some little day trips to the zoo or something to make things special for your son right now.

 

Talk to you OB...everyone has different "rules." Mine is allowing me to travel by car for 11 hours but this is singleton this time around. I have to get out of the car at least every 2 hours to walk around and keep the blood pumping. I'll be a couple days shy of 28 weeks and my doc said if it was any later he wouldn't let me go because of my history of PTL from the boys.

 

How far along are you now? If 28 weeks is more than a week away, you just have no idea how you are going to feel. I felt like starting at about 26 weeks, I felt noticeably worse every week. Personally I would not do it. Even if it weren't a question of endangering the twins, as your DH said, I think you would enjoy it more when the babies are a few months old and you're feeling better physically -- plus it will be a break from taking care of the babies.

 

I would not risk it.

 

I don't have alot of experience with this, but I just had to ask my Dr. the same thing (although I'm only 23wks now, and I'd be traveling at 28wks), I've been asked to go to Canada for my job that I just started yesterday (only about 4hrs drive for me), but he didn't want me going that late, I asked him a week ago and thought that I'd be able to handle the drive, but now a week later...I'm feeling a little less enthusiastic and a bit relieved. Just means I'll have to go sooner. I really want to go, LOVE Montreal!!

Probably doesn't help, just wanted you to know I understand your dilema...you have to do what feels right to you!! Best of luck with your tough decision!
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My doctor said no travel farther than 1 hour from the hospital after week 24. It's not just the stress of the travel and the stress on your body, but you want to be near a level 3 NICU for your babies in case anything does happen.

 

Thanks for all the advice. I was just wondering if it would be better for our son to do the trip now before the babies are here or wait until next year when he probably will need some time aways with just mom and dad. My ob says I can travel up to 32 weeks by car not plane if I feel up to it. I am just not sure I will be able to have as much fun. I just want to do what is right for everyone.

 

Wow, thinking about a trip in your 28th week? That sounds exciting but definitely double-check with your doc to make sure it’s cool for you and the baby. If you get the thumbs up, peeking at jetcost reviews could help you snag some comfy flight options. Just remember to stretch those legs and drink lots of water. Safe travels!

 

I think no, it will be very hard for you(