she's so BOSSY!

DD has gotten SOOOOOOOOOOOO bossy lately! it's pretty funny to hear her boss her brother around and sometimes the things she says to us crack me up, but it really bothers me because her tone and attitude are really not acceptable. i'm not sure if she's just seeing what she can get away with or emulating how others talk to her or if this is just normal 2 year old behavior. she says "no!" a LOT and she'll say things like "no, mama, no sing that, my turn" or shake her finger at her brother and say "no, no, no cam-cam, no do that!" i don't always correct her, but if her tone is really inappropriate or she is being super defiant i will tell her "alisha it's not polite to talk that way" or something like that.

anyone else have a bossy little girl in the house and how do you address it?

 

Oh yeah, Bea even calls Ainsley "Ahhsie Weese" (Ainsley Louise). She signs "no" at her and says "No no Ahhsie Weese!". She will also throw something and then say "Ahssie get it!". Sometimes they are playing, but like you said, it's the tone at times that I don't like. I tell Bea "You don't tell Ainsley no, that's Mommy and Daddy's job.". It's getting better, I would say a month or so ago I was concerned.

A kind of funny thing they do, that they shouldn't but it's hard not to laugh at times - If I tell one of them no, they say "Mama not say no! Mama say yes!"

 

Oh, yes, I have a very bossy girl in my house! She has always mothered her brother, she tries to comfort him when he's crying - I will her her say "Aww, 'Cauley it's ok...I know....I know....it's ok!! but she is also very bossy. She yells at him quite often and we are dealing with her for that - and for hitting him in the head, which seems to go along with the bossiness.
She corrects him on how he talks - he calls her 'Dayne' and I think it finally started annoying her because she was telling him, "No, 'Cauley, it's not DAYNE, I'm ZAYNE" over and over again! Now he is trying harder to say her name right.

She will correct me or my hubby sometimes - if we are singing something she doesn't want sung or if we say something that she thinks isn't correct.
We are trying to get it across to her that she is NOT the boss, even when she says things that Mommy or Daddy say to McAuley. She needs to let US tell McAuley what he can or cannot do.

Actually, I have a funny story, kindda related to the bossiness issue - I laugh alot at the funny things she will say - alot of the time she thinks she is trying to help me by being Mom Jr. to everyone:

We went to watch the Santa Clause Parade in town tonight last night.
Zayne and McAuley had an argument before we left: McAuley INSISTS that Santa's name is Noah. And he kept saying that we were going to see Noah.
Zayne kept correcting him and started saying, "No, McAuley, his name is not NOAH, it's SANTA CLOSET...ok? SANTA CLOSET, McAuley, not Noah...." .
Zayne is getting really excited for Christmas - Jason told her that it was going to be Christmas soon - and she said "No, Daddy, it's not going to be Christmas soon, it's Christmas time right NOW!"

 

QUOTE(Snittens @ Nov 18 2007, 08:54 PM) [snapback]501471[/snapback]
A kind of funny thing they do, that they shouldn't but it's hard not to laugh at times - If I tell one of them no, they say "Mama not say no! Mama say yes!"


Kelly that is priceless. Alisha does a lot of "no mama, no do that" also

QUOTE(PurpleNurple @ Nov 19 2007, 12:27 AM) [snapback]501683[/snapback]
She will correct me or my hubby sometimes - if we are singing something she doesn't want sung or if we say something that she thinks isn't correct.


oh yes, Alisha does this a lot - telling me not to sing something or better yet telling me not to sing it because it's her turn! last night over dinner it was "no no no cam-cam, no do abcs, my turn do it!"
and she does mother cameron - it's cute to hear her say "no cry cam-cam, is ok" or "cam-en so silly" in the same tone i use.

it really is hard not to laugh at them.

 

Are you sure she's not my Amber? Amber is just like that except Emmy is more of the "no" kid. I let them express themselves so long as it's not relative to a scolding or something along those lines. For example, yesterday, we're driving in the car and I start singing their christmas songs with them and Emmy is singing too. When I start singing Emmy shouts out "no mommy!, MY sing". Of course I continue to do it just to get a rise out of her but I don't push it til she's upset. I see absolutely nothing wrong with that. Now, last night, for the girls, we went ahead and put up our sad little fake 4 ft. pre-lit tree. They LOVED it! Both the girls are trying to enjoy the tree and they both keep putting their arms up as if to hug it and say "I wuv tree". Well, dh walks over and kneels down next to Emmy and is smiling and says what do you think Emmy? Well, while he's trying to ask her that, she scolds him and puts her hand on his arm as if to push him away from the tree and says "no no poppa, that's my Emmy tree!" Now, that kind of behavior she gets in trouble for. I scolded her right back and told her to chill out and stop being ugly and that it wasn't nice of her to act like that to poppa and told her to tell poppa sorry and she did tell him sorry but I also explained to her that it's NOT Emmy's tree, that it's Amber's and mommy's and poppa's and Jessie and Luke's (the dogs) tree too. She'll continue to do that just because she's two but I'll continue to scold her the same way until she gets it. They are exercising the fact that they are little people now and they want to the world to know that. That's okay within reason and as long as they have boundaries and realize them. I don't think it's up to us as parents to hold them back by telling them they absolutely CAN'T act a certain way (again, within reason) but is our job to make them realize those boundaries that exist...as if to acknowledge to them, "yes, I recognize you as a little person, but here's where the boundary lies with you being a little person and you being only a 2 year old". Between themselves, I let them go at it so long as no one is getting hurt and no one is crying. They need to learn how to interact with peers and what a better way to do that than with each other. That's the great thing about having another 2 year old around. They also have a constant guinea pig to practice their behavior on. Anyway, that's my in-site for what it's worth.

 

Hannah is very bossy. It cracks me up when she grabs her brothers face and says, "Ben, look at my eyes..." Hmmm, where did she get that one from? The only thing that really works is saying "Hannah, you let me be the mommy," or "Hannah, are you the mommy?" She gets very embarrassed very quickly and immediately stops. For some reason, she does not like me saying that to her.