she just said no big girl undies mommy

I started potty training DD on Sunday -- it wasn't going horrible, there were accidents of course but she was going on the potty and excited about big girl undies. She just woke up and said to me that she didn't want to wear big girl undies and that she wanted to wear pull ups only. I told her that if she didn't wear big girl undies, that it was back to elmo diapers (the cost is much less than buying pull ups and using them as diapers). Should I just put her back in diapers and try her in another month? She is 2 years and 9 months old. I really thought she was ready -- she was going on the potty fine, but with my initiation and not hers. I thought she was ready because she tells me when she pees in her diaper and even if it is a little pee she tells me to change her diaper. So frustrated -- what to do????

 

Yeah I'd wait and move her back to diapers. She'll get it eventually. Mine are 38 months and still no interest!

 

I would put her back in diapers. Maybe she'll remember how uncomfortable they are and want to wear panties. Still put her on the potty to pee though.

 

It does sound like she's ready. But it's up to you on how you want to approach it. There are people who wait until they are sure their kids are 100% ready and then have the kid train themselves in a couple days, and then there are others who watch for some cues that they're ready and work with them to get them trained sooner. I think they both work. If I were you, I don't know that I'd give up yet. Maybe just approach the underwear in another way so she believes it's her decision. Maybe you just caught her at a bad time of day. There are things that I know my daughter would love to do, but since she's in a "mood" and she knows I want her to, she absolutely will not. Maybe you can have her go to the store with you and pick some out, or dress her baby dolls in them. You might be right that she needs a break and some more time. But I think I'd try a few more tactics before I put it on hold for awhile.

Or, you may find she wants to do it her way and if she wears the pull ups, she'll keep them dry. If you go through one a day, they don't seem as expensive. Maybe she'll decide after a little while of praising her for that, she'll want to switch to underwear on her own.

 

another approach is the 3day approach... you involve them in throwing out all the diapers/pullups etc... and just say they are gone... 2 yr is kinda young... but doable... we had the kids help put all the cloth diapers in the bag and put them in the laundry room when they were 2 yr 3 mo. and never looked back...

another friend just told her kid that the big truck came and took the diapers all away.

if there aren't any choices... maybe it'd be better??

but maybe not... decisions decisions!

you could also just do no undies at all... we tried a bit of the naked approach at the beginning anyway before we did the 3 day approach.

 

I think you several good options (in addition to what PP's have mentioned):
1. Put her back in diapers and not mention the potty to her for a bit and see where she goes from there.
2. Tell her that she has certain amount of days in the pull ups (3 days, a week, etc.) and then make the decision from there to push the underwear or go back to diapers.

It depends on your comfort level and that of your DD. There is no shame if you have to put her back in diapers. If that's what needs to happen right now then that is okay and you can try again another time.