She cries every day at nap time ugh!

I should know this since she is my fourth but of course my first I rocked to sleep the twins has each other ot talk to and play with and honestly I just dont remember.... Every dag day she cries to get out or just plain cries for at least 5-15minutes at nap time then falls asleep for 2-3 nap ... Now if I dont nap her she is a bear by 5pm... I have tried going in and rubbing her back and so on sometimes it works and mostly not... why why why I feel so bad letting her cry everyday.... does anyone else deal with this...

 

Hi,
**Hugs** try not to feel bad letting her cry. My twins cry at first when they get put down for nap(of course they are younger then you dd)but, they too have to get a nap in or they are DEMONS by 5:30-6:00 at night!
If SupperNanny puts them down and lets them cry surely it's ok to do it.. right??LOL My husband and I watch that show to get ideas and so far it's worked!

Good Luck

 

My DD cried (or screamed) at nap time from 1 year old until about 20 months. Sometimes she would cry for 5 minutes; sometimes 2 hours. NON STOP. I never went in because if I did I knew she'd always expect it. (she naps in a different room than DS). Around 20 months she stopped crying, and began napping again or played nicely with the books & toys that I put in her play pen for the 2 hours. I never felt bad because queit time/nap is essential for kids. I just felt annoyed. (isn't that bad?)

 

My boys seem to go through phases. At least one of them needs to cry (usually Alex) at nap and/or bedtime every single day. It may be just a way to release that last bit of energy, or it may be related to the seperation issues he has, or it may be that he just wants to argue with me. But, if it's 15 min or under, not a big deal for my kids. If it goes longer, that means either somebody pooped, or something is going on.

However, I just last week seem to have mostly solved this problem. I always, always have shut their door. Well, they want it open, so I tell them if I leave it open, then there can be no crying. It has worked like a charm. So, I hope you can find a miraculous little trick that works for you, too. But, I wouldn't worry about it, it really is normal for some kids (like all of mine!).

 

I'd say it's pretty normal. She just likes your company. 5-15 mintues is like nothing to me based on my experience with the boys (who could cry for hours) Now, my boys will cry for hours after waking up from their nap (at least 2 hour nap) and that's not normal but no one seems to be able to help me. They are just whiny. But that's nothing story...I hope this phase is short for you!

 

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I should know this since she is my fourth but of course my first I rocked to sleep the twins has each other ot talk to and play with and honestly I just dont remember.... Every dag day she cries to get out or just plain cries for at least 5-15minutes at nap time then falls asleep for 2-3 nap ... Now if I dont nap her she is a bear by 5pm... I have tried going in and rubbing her back and so on sometimes it works and mostly not... why why why I feel so bad letting her cry everyday.... does anyone else deal with this...


*huge hugs* It's hard to listen to her cry, isn't it?

Nikki did this for a while when she was smaller, and then Alex went through a phase recently when he did it, but they both stopped after about a week or two. I just kept things consistent for them. They knew it was naptime and would resist. The crying would start the moment I laid them down, so I'd stroke them and talk quietly for a few minutes to say that they were safe and I was just in the other room, but that they needed to get some rest. Then I'd walk out and let them cry. If it got *really* bad, I'd go back in to give them some brief comforting, reinstate that it was naptime, and leave and not go back in until they had had a nap of some kind.

This was really hard on me, but they seem to be perfectly fine despite the experience, so I personally don't see an issue with letting them cry (within reason, of course), although some might. I hope you can find something to help!

 

Lily has been doing this since birth. It was way worse a while ago when they were taking 3 naps a day. I had to listen to that screaming three time during the day ( one for each nap ) and one time for bedtime at night. I thought I was going to lose it. It is SOOOO hard listening to that. At one point I remember just crumbling in the corner of our family weeping while she cried praying to God to make her stop. I HATED it. I felt like she was sooo miserable I could barely stand it. LIke pp said; however, I never went in to get her and she has gotten much better. She still cries but not as long or as intense. She has never needed as much sleep as her brother and obviously hates to miss out on anything that may be going on downstairs while she sleeps. I am sure that she will never sleep again when we put her in a big girl bed and she can get out and play, etc.

I am sorry for you, I know this is painful. She can't still be doing this when she is a teenager so at least you know it will not go on forever !

 

We've done much better with the nap crying since I give them a warning that it's nap time and give them time to pick out a toy or book to take with them to bed. For some reason this makes them both happier to get in bed. They spend some time winding down with their toy or book and then go to sleep. This seems to work every time unless I put them to nap too late. If I'm even 30' late then they don't want to take anything with them, don't want to nap, don't go to their room and I end up carrying them in and they will cry till I'm out of the room and maybe 5' more. I know how terrible it is. hope you find something that works for yours.