sharing toys?

is it normal for the LOs to fight over toys? one LO bites his brother and then he cries. etc. you get the idea.
is there a good way to try and teach them to play with the same toy?

 

Totally normal!!! They don't learn to share until they are quite older...for now you get to play referee! Mine are just now at an age where they will play *with* each other without fighting but it only last a short while until they are back at each other again!!!

 

Distract 'em with a better toy! I know as kids get older you can get them to understand the concept of sharing, and can introduce things like a timer (Twin A gets 2 minutes to play with X toy, then it's Twin B's turn). But my guys still aren't at that point, and they're almost 2.

We do a variety of things, depending on how badly it escalates. Jack likes to swipe Nate's toys, and about 80% of the time Nate just shrugs and goes on to another toy. We just ignore this and let them work it out. If Nate fights back and they start tugging, we try distraction (trying to get Jack interested in another toy). If Jack just isn't having it and full-scale war breaks out, we put the toy in time-out so *neither* one of them gets it.

I have had some limited success in getting them to trade toys, and I think this will get better as they get older. So if Jack wants Nate's toy, I tell him to go find another toy and offer it to Nate in trade. Nate never goes for it, but Jack still tries occasionally! :lol:

 

definitely normal! Danika's our toy swiper here. we do pretty much the exact same things as Valerie.

 

Yup, definitely normal. At 12-13 months, I employed a lot of distraction and praised them when I saw them sharing. I have also done toy time out as a last resort.

 

[quote name='Nate and Jack's Mom' date='29 July 2010 - 01:40 PM' timestamp='1280425238' post='1672634']
Distract 'em with a better toy! I know as kids get older you can get them to understand the concept of sharing, and can introduce things like a timer (Twin A gets 2 minutes to play with X toy, then it's Twin B's turn). But my guys still aren't at that point, and they're almost 2.

We do a variety of things, depending on how badly it escalates. Jack likes to swipe Nate's toys, and about 80% of the time Nate just shrugs and goes on to another toy. We just ignore this and let them work it out. If Nate fights back and they start tugging, we try distraction (trying to get Jack interested in another toy). If Jack just isn't having it and full-scale war breaks out, we put the toy in time-out so *neither* one of them gets it.

I have had some limited success in getting them to trade toys, and I think this will get better as they get older. So if Jack wants Nate's toy, I tell him to go find another toy and offer it to Nate in trade. Nate never goes for it, but Jack still tries occasionally! :lol:
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We do the same thing as Valerie does too!

 

Oh yes we do the time out for the toy too if they can't calm down over it!

 

My one daughter stole EVERY toy her sister had, but now she rarely does it anymore. It was really bad and I never thought she'd get over it. Now if her sister is crying she will run to find her favourite toy to console her, it is so sweet. She gets tons of praise for being so caring of course. It will end even if it seems like forever.

 

OMGosh, YES....I am referring every single day.... They both swipe toys from each other day in and day out...Sometimes they play nicely or by themselves and other's it's taking and pulling and pushing...totally normal, can not wait for this stage to pass..LOL GL